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[Dubi Doo]

Anyone have any experience with their spouse dealing with a creep she used to work with?

This man was her PI and mentor at her previous job. She quit in the summer to pursue a career in nursing. She hadn't seen him much since then, but visited him yesterday because her manuscript was finally done, and she had to go over it with him.

Well, she met him in his office. He made sure to close the door. Once they were done with the work, my wife went to leave but he wanted a hug. This is where it gets weird. Apparently, he hugged her really tight, had his arm around her lower back/hips, and had his face around her neck area (he's taller than her). He then said 'you give very good hugs'. He hugged her again. The same way. Very intimate. He tried to be physical with her again, but she sat down in her chair to avoid the hug, and it worked. She managed to leave before he could try it again. He has never hugged her that way before. She felt so uncomfortable by it all.

This man mentored her for 6 years. He's 30+ years her age (65 yrs old). We would jokingly call him grandpa. We've been over his house multiple times. He adores our son, and bought him gifts for his birthdays and the such. I've talked to him one and one many times.

I'd love nothing more than to confront this man, but we work at the same hospital. He's just on the research side while Im on the frontlines. I see him in passing from time to time. I obviously wont do anything, but it's going to be tough acting like everything is normal.

I felt so much dread for my wife as she was telling me this. It's obvious she tried to put it in the back of her mind to block out the emotions she felt. She's very creeped out. As I said, we viewed this man as a grandparent figure, and he still got a bit handsy with my wife while his wife was working in an office 10 yards away! (Him and his wife are both PIs for labs).

Just a very weird situation that I needed to vent about. What a creep that man is. My wife is an attractive lady, so I don't doubt guys have some sexual attraction toward her, but given who he was and how he made advances on her is just so weird. I'd love nothing more to put him in his place, and let him know how much of a creep he was being.

My wife luckily won't have to work with him in the future. The manuscript was the last thing they needed to complete.

 

[Ehran]

If I had my druthers, I'd go back to Texas. Central Texas, to be exact. Not as humid as the Gulf Coast - and Austin is a pretty happening place.

The absolute reality of the matter is that we're not leaving WNY. We would be absolutely stupid to give up unionized county jobs, the cost of living notwithstanding. We will be finding another apartment this summer, though. Preferably one with secured garage parking. I'd love to move downtown - commute to work & most hockey could be by MetroRail instead of by car.

Can we afford that? Probably not - but we're looking.

I like living in central Texas but unless I had a guaranteed high paying job lined up first there is no way I would move here now. Housing prices have gotten insane. But then again that's probably true of most of the U.S., I guess.

The house I bought 9 years ago for $145k is now valued around $320k, and I live 25 miles outside of Austin. Doesn't help having Samsung's huge new plant north of here and Tesla a few miles south. Demand is skyrocketing, still.

Plus, the infrastructure sucks. Roads, utilities, etc., have in no way shape or form kept up with growth.

90 minute commute just to go 25 miles into work in the morning? No thanks.

Taxes are nice, though. My property taxes this year were around 25% less than last.

 

[TheMistyStranger]

For anyone interested, I did a charity video that just went live. Basically the highest bidder got to pick the game, and, well, this is what they picked.

 

[Chainshot]

Anyone have any experience with their spouse dealing with a creep she used to work with?

This man was her PI and mentor at her previous job. She quit in the summer to pursue a career in nursing. She hadn't seen him much since then, but visited him yesterday because her manuscript was finally done, and she had to go over it with him.

Well, she met him in his office. He made sure to close the door. Once they were done with the work, my wife went to leave but he wanted a hug. This is where it gets weird. Apparently, he hugged her really tight, had his arm around her lower back/hips, and had his face around her neck area (he's taller than her). He then said 'you give very good hugs'. He hugged her again. The same way. Very intimate. He tried to be physical with her again, but she sat down in her chair to avoid the hug, and it worked. She managed to leave before he could try it again. He has never hugged her that way before. She felt so uncomfortable by it all.

This man mentored her for 6 years. He's 30+ years her age (65 yrs old). We would jokingly call him grandpa. We've been over his house multiple times. He adores our son, and bought him gifts for his birthdays and the such. I've talked to him one and one many times.

I'd love nothing more than to confront this man, but we work at the same hospital. He's just on the research side while Im on the frontlines. I see him in passing from time to time. I obviously wont do anything, but it's going to be tough acting like everything is normal.

I felt so much dread for my wife as she was telling me this. It's obvious she tried to put it in the back of her mind to block out the emotions she felt. She's very creeped out. As I said, we viewed this man as a grandparent figure, and he still got a bit handsy with my wife while his wife was working in an office 10 yards away! (Him and his wife are both PIs for labs).

Just a very weird situation that I needed to vent about. What a creep that man is. My wife is an attractive lady, so I don't doubt guys have some sexual attraction toward her, but given who he was and how he made advances on her is just so weird. I'd love nothing more to put him in his place, and let him know how much of a creep he was being.

My wife luckily won't have to work with him in the future. The manuscript was the last thing they needed to complete.

Wow. I have no experience in that so my impulse to suggest a meeting between your wife and this guy on neutral ground with someone there as mediation to just let him know this was not appropriate and please do not do so in future. Or find someone else to review the work - it sounds like this person is in a position of power that makes this even more uncomfortable.

Granted, I also would have the impulse to roll up and beat his ass.

 

[Deep Blue Metallic]

Appreciate the time. So renewable EV batteries is a goal but the tech is far off. Lithium mostly/only batteries is a goal but...that is also a challenge because the energy required to process that material and others is up to three times what it takes to refine oil into gasoline. It takes gas powered machinery to process these materials, and the notion of eventually having all EV machinery to process the materials to produce EV batteries is far, FAR beyond any possible justification in time, money, and resources.

For now, it looks like the EV industry is putting the cart before the horse, and is a venture in choosing one inefficient eco-evil over another. It's ironic to me how we have to wait for old-school green peace types to die before we can move forward with the safe nuclear tech that the US developed in the early '80s, and what France has been using for a decade or more to power their major grids. A bomb drop and a few incidents like Three Mile Island and Fukushima have turned them off from the tech that truly works, just because "nuclear" is in the same sentence.

I know nuclear tech doesn't solve any problems for vehicles, but it frees up a major block where non-nuclear resources wouldn't have to be used, greatly reducing the need/use for oil and electric.

Nuclear is the easiest path to providing the additional electricity required as EVs replace ICE vehicles in the world's passenger vehicle fleet. It would solve an enormous problem for EV adoption. Only the political will is lacking.

The equipment required to extract and process the minerals required for batteries will be powered by fossil fuels for the foreseeable future. No getting around that.

 

[Chainshot]

In terms of battery storage - there is some experimental stuff going on around charged carbon that could be where a huge breakthrough happens. Similarly, people are trying to find ways to store the energy from renewables in ways other than just in large stacks of batteries too but humans tend to move from making one problem to making the next with vigor. I'm curious to see if these things take hold -

 

[Deep Blue Metallic]

Anyone have any experience with their spouse dealing with a creep she used to work with?

This man was her PI and mentor at her previous job. She quit in the summer to pursue a career in nursing. She hadn't seen him much since then, but visited him yesterday because her manuscript was finally done, and she had to go over it with him.

Well, she met him in his office. He made sure to close the door. Once they were done with the work, my wife went to leave but he wanted a hug. This is where it gets weird. Apparently, he hugged her really tight, had his arm around her lower back/hips, and had his face around her neck area (he's taller than her). He then said 'you give very good hugs'. He hugged her again. The same way. Very intimate. He tried to be physical with her again, but she sat down in her chair to avoid the hug, and it worked. She managed to leave before he could try it again. He has never hugged her that way before. She felt so uncomfortable by it all.

This man mentored her for 6 years. He's 30+ years her age (65 yrs old). We would jokingly call him grandpa. We've been over his house multiple times. He adores our son, and bought him gifts for his birthdays and the such. I've talked to him one and one many times.

I'd love nothing more than to confront this man, but we work at the same hospital. He's just on the research side while Im on the frontlines. I see him in passing from time to time. I obviously wont do anything, but it's going to be tough acting like everything is normal.

I felt so much dread for my wife as she was telling me this. It's obvious she tried to put it in the back of her mind to block out the emotions she felt. She's very creeped out. As I said, we viewed this man as a grandparent figure, and he still got a bit handsy with my wife while his wife was working in an office 10 yards away! (Him and his wife are both PIs for labs).

Just a very weird situation that I needed to vent about. What a creep that man is. My wife is an attractive lady, so I don't doubt guys have some sexual attraction toward her, but given who he was and how he made advances on her is just so weird. I'd love nothing more to put him in his place, and let him know how much of a creep he was being.

My wife luckily won't have to work with him in the future. The manuscript was the last thing they needed to complete.

Sounds like your wife will never cross paths with him again, and you'll obviously not be interacting socially with him anymore.

As infuriating as the situation must be for you, just put it behind you and give him the coldest of shoulders at work.

 

[Gras]

Nuclear is the easiest path to providing the additional electricity required as EVs replace ICE vehicles in the world's passenger vehicle fleet. It would solve an enormous problem for EV adoption. Only the political will is lacking.

The equipment required to extract and process the minerals required for batteries will be powered by fossil fuels for the foreseeable future. No getting around that.

Not political will, profit, there is more money to be made pushing inferior wind and solar by politicians, wall st and green advocates, most of it coming off the backs of the tax payers.

 

[Deep Blue Metallic]

Not political will, profit, there is more money to be made pushing inferior wind and solar by politicians, wall st and green advocates, most of it coming off the backs of the tax payers.

Uh-oh. I said the p-word.

You partially answered the question "why is the political will lacking?" The rest of the answer is no politician will put an easily hit target on his back by championing nuclear energy.

 

[Sabresfansince1980]

Uh-oh. I said the p-word.

You partially answered the question "why is the political will lacking?" The rest of the answer is no politician will put an easily hit target on his back by championing nuclear energy.

You may be right, but all anyone has to do is point at France (oh this makes me cringe) and say, "See".

 

[Gras]

You may be right, but all anyone has to do is point at France (oh this makes me cringe) and say, "See".

We could probably have at least 75% Nuclear base load of the grid by now if we never stopped pushing nuclear

 

[Chainshot]

Not political will, profit, there is more money to be made pushing inferior wind and solar by politicians, wall st and green advocates, most of it coming off the backs of the tax payers.

Eh, that's the same with how other fuel providers grew too - it's not like there wasn't massive infrastructure spending by the government on both supply discovery as well as the product use and delivery infrastructure that benefitted the current fuel conglomerations. We just tend not to look back far enough to find that out.

 

[Old Navy Goat]

The USA has the proverbial butt ton of safely run nuclear reactors. Go to any major navy base and you're guaranteed to see a few, they just don't promote that info

 

[TheMistyStranger]

16 is finishing up their 7th performance in the last 10 days as I type this. Their orchestra rehearsal starts up again tonight. Poor kid is exhausted.

 

[Old Navy Goat]

I should be sleeping but no. One of the crazies calls me at 3am with the teelak I miss you, I want to come sleep you after work. Translation is she either didn't make quota so salary was cut, broke the rules ie late, no makeup, caught on phone etc so salary was cut so looking for a bed, a couple meals and hoping I'll toss her some sympathy money. However, she's been out of work for 2 hours so getting close to being stood up time, because even going for mookata (open brazier all you can eat bbq) doesn't take them that long.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

I should be sleeping but no. One of the crazies calls me at 3am with the teelak I miss you, I want to come sleep you after work. Translation is she either didn't make quota so salary was cut, broke the rules ie late, no makeup, caught on phone etc so salary was cut so looking for a bed, a couple meals and hoping I'll toss her some sympathy money. However, she's been out of work for 2 hours so getting close to being stood up time, because even going for mookata (open brazier all you can eat bbq) doesn't take them that long.

Wanna trade places? You can renovate this apartment and I can deal with being considered attractive

 

[Old Navy Goat]

Wanna trade places? You can renovate this apartment and I can deal with being considered attractive

Pretty sure my wallet is the only attractive thing for her.
She's had her pay docked 6 out of the 7 days on her current 10 day contract. Instead of 3k a day, she's only getting 1k as hasn't hit drink quota, no barfines and did the not feeling it so skipped work.

 

[Gras]

Pretty sure my wallet is the only attractive thing for her.
She's had her pay docked 6 out of the 7 days on her current 10 day contract. Instead of 3k a day, she's only getting 1k as hasn't hit drink quota, no barfines and did the not feeling it so skipped work.

Isnt that first sentence true of most women

 

[TehDoak]

On power, I certainly understand that wind and solar aren't the most efficient answers long term, but specifically with solar, I think if we had most home owners generating between 50-75% of their usage via home solar/storage, it'd give us time to rebuild the electrical grid to be much more efficient. The biggest issue right now is that the grid can afford almost zero downtime because the demand is so great. Even having a few hours of battery backup in most residential homes would do wonders for the grids resiliency. The need for a 100% electrical uptime everywhere is part of the issue that prevents us from doing any real substantial upgrade work.

 

[Gras]

On power, I certainly understand that wind and solar aren't the most efficient answers long term, but specifically with solar, I think if we had most home owners generating between 50-75% of their usage via home solar/storage, it'd give us time to rebuild the electrical grid to be much more efficient. The biggest issue right now is that the grid can afford almost zero downtime because the demand is so great. Even having a few hours of battery backup in most residential homes would do wonders for the grids resiliency. The need for a 100% electrical uptime everywhere is part of the issue that prevents us from doing any real substantial upgrade work.

Not everyone has 20k to drop on a solar array or pay an extra 20k when buying a new home, also there are efficiency issues with solar and not every location is ideal for it to extract the most energy. Even the people who sell solar if they are honest with you will tell you the batteries arent worth the upfront cost.

 

[Chainshot]

So my complex has a tree service in - finally - to take down another of the senescent laurel oaks around the place. This time, it's a couple beside my building and my dogs have decided this is not their favorite timeline.

 

[Old Navy Goat]

I know this guy, have known him for years but don't really consider him a friend as he's morally vacuous. Anyways, he's the proverbial don't judge the book by its cover as he's an ex Silicone Valley millionaire that sold his startup and has been living off of the sale and royalties for years. He's about 5'9 300lbs and exclusively wears plain brown or white t-shirt, loose cotton shorts with flip flops, and half the time the shirt is stained. He relocated to Pattaya about 6mo ago from Angeles supposedly one step ahead of the police.

So last night he asks me to go out with him as he wants to talk. It amuses me seeing the look on the Japanese and Korean customers when the bouncers move them to make room for the fat, dirty American and all the girls on stage start screaming Cha-lee Cha-lee. He wanted to pick my brain on opening one of the vacant GoGos on Walking Street, my advice was it's closed for a reason so don't do it. His response is he already bought it so will need girls, managers, mamasans, cashiers etc so can I help or partner with him

 

[Jim Bob]

I cannot wait for 2/24 to get here. They are dealing with challenges with guys being academically ineligible. But, this will be both Nate's first season as a starter and their best shot at playing in the NCAA DIII tournament as they are moving to the SUNYAC next season.

It is interesting that Nate had two head coaches in his freshman year and he will play in three different conferences in his first three seasons. But. that's college lacrosse for you.

 

[TehDoak]

Not everyone has 20k to drop on a solar array or pay an extra 20k when buying a new home, also there are efficiency issues with solar and not every location is ideal for it to extract the most energy. Even the people who sell solar if they are honest with you will tell you the batteries arent worth the upfront cost.

You are right that solar isn’t for everyone. The only way to add it to my house is on the front (I am on a northward facing slope and the front of my house is southern facing) so they would have to go right where you could see them from the road. But the cost of the battery’s in solar are going to go down…eventually. Though a better solution might simply have EVs act as Backup power as well. A few cars have V2L setups already, though the practical implementation hasn’t been great. The F150 lightning has bragged about it and it’s expensive and buggy as all hell to get the automatic failover to work.

 

[Gras]

You are right that solar isn’t for everyone. The only way to add it to my house is on the front (I am on a northward facing slope and the front of my house is southern facing) so they would have to go right where you could see them from the road. But the cost of the battery’s in solar are going to go down…eventually. Though a better solution might simply have EVs act as Backup power as well. A few cars have V2L setups already, though the practical implementation hasn’t been great. The F150 lightning has bragged about it and it’s expensive and buggy as all hell to get the automatic failover to work.

If you're savvy enough you can build your own battery backup by buying used laptop or golf cart batteries and building your own array.