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[KiwiGriff]

I hate to be a bummer, but some of these are a little misleading. The clothesline law in particular just means there's no law on the books to override your homeowner's or building association if they say you can't have one. Some states do have laws to override their decisions.

Well that’s disappointing. I’m not naïve enough to think that all these laws are that simple (or are even true) but I liked the clothesline one.

Next you are going to tell me I don’t have to have a leash on my elephant when I take it for a walk in San Francisco.

 

[Jim Bob]

19 'right to dry' states outlaw clothesline bans; is yours among them?

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It's good to know that even if @Old Navy Goat tries to blow me in, I do not have to worry about a SWAT team storming my house and taking away the clothesline in my basement.

You may take away my freedom, but you will not take away my clothesline!

 

[Jim Bob]

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The 2025 driver carousel in F1 is going to be crazy.

 

[Old Navy Goat]

Bear with me as today has been the proverbial kick to the crotch. I booted my current paramour, the one my friends gushed about as in where did I find her. Then I find out that a good friend at the old age of 47 died today. My friend spent Mon and Tues with his 7yo daughter, no contact yesterday and today they found him dead.

I sit here thinking about what happens if I just drop. I did my estate planning so my grandkids will have free education, my niece and nephews a steady income, and my bars go to Gus. But damn, my friend was just alone gasping out his last. I pay for caretakers but still that seems a lonely way to pass. I ponder life's fragility and it just makes me think to enjoy the ride as long and hard as you can

 

[Dubi Doo]

Anyone have any advice on dealing with a 'wandering eye' while married? I made an oopsie once before my wife and I were married. Bachelor party craziness that went a bit too far. I didn't have sex with the woman, but boundaries were crossed. I told my wife, and we worked through it. I was blackout drunk in a vulnerable spot (which was agreed upon), but then it went further than what was agreed upon. Those variables at play won't happen again, at least, so I'm not worried about acting on my actions.

But, since then- I'm more aware of when my attention is drifting away from my wife and toward other women. I'm not flirting with women. It's more I have a very visual brain, so my thoughts can take me on a journey if I find a woman at work attractive.

As I said, I'm not worried about messing up again. It's been almost a decade since I screwed up. I Just know that fantasizing about other women too much can take away from the intimacy in a marriage, and I'd like to figure out a way to steer clear of that.

 

[Sabresfansince1980]

Anyone have any advice on dealing with a 'wandering eye' while married? I made an oopsie once before my wife and I were married. Bachelor party craziness that went a bit too far. I didn't have sex with the woman, but boundaries were crossed. I told my wife, and we worked through it. I was blackout drunk in a vulnerable spot (which was agreed upon), but then it went further than what was agreed upon. Those variables at play won't happen again, at least, so I'm not worried about acting on my actions.

But, since then- I'm more aware of when my attention is drifting away from my wife and toward other women. I'm not flirting with women. It's more I have a very visual brain, so my thoughts can take me on a journey if I find a woman at work attractive.

As I said, I'm not worried about messing up again. It's been almost a decade since I screwed up. I Just know that fantasizing about other women too much can take away from the intimacy in a marriage, and I'd like to figure out a way to steer clear of that.

Every time you visualize about another woman, also visualize about how your life will be after you split with your wife because she found out, or your guilty conscience forced you to come clean. Imagine the financial hardship of a divorce, moving out, etc. Truly imagine that as your new reality. That should settle you down.

 

[Jim Bob]

Anyone have any advice on dealing with a 'wandering eye' while married? I made an oopsie once before my wife and I were married. Bachelor party craziness that went a bit too far. I didn't have sex with the woman, but boundaries were crossed. I told my wife, and we worked through it. I was blackout drunk in a vulnerable spot (which was agreed upon), but then it went further than what was agreed upon. Those variables at play won't happen again, at least, so I'm not worried about acting on my actions.

But, since then- I'm more aware of when my attention is drifting away from my wife and toward other women. I'm not flirting with women. It's more I have a very visual brain, so my thoughts can take me on a journey if I find a woman at work attractive.

As I said, I'm not worried about messing up again. It's been almost a decade since I screwed up. I Just know that fantasizing about other women too much can take away from the intimacy in a marriage, and I'd like to figure out a way to steer clear of that.

I wonder if flirting with your wife via text might help in that regard?

That would keep that part of your brain focused on your wife as opposed to other ladies that you see throughout the day.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

I wonder if flirting with your wife via text might help in that regard?

That would keep that part of your brain focused on your wife as opposed to other ladies that you see throughout the day.

There’s people that don’t do this?

 

[Jim Bob]

There’s people that don’t do this?

I think responsiveness of the spouse during the day can be a barrier. If either of you are off your phone for huge stretches of the day, that isn't really an option.

 

[Dubi Doo]

Every time you visualize about another woman, also visualize about how your life will be after you split with your wife because she found out, or your guilty conscience forced you to come clean. Imagine the financial hardship of a divorce, moving out, etc. Truly imagine that as your new reality. That should settle you down.

I wonder if flirting with your wife via text might help in that regard?

That would keep that part of your brain focused on your wife as opposed to other ladies that you see throughout the day.

Thanks for the advice.

It doesn't help I work in nursing, which seems to attract a lot of good-looking women.

There’s people that don’t do this?

I rarely text anyone, haha. My wife and I do text the most, but it's life stuff. I like Jim's idea, though!

I think responsiveness of the spouse during the day can be a barrier. If either of you are off your phone for huge stretches of the day, that isn't really an option.

Very true. We're both in nursing now, so there isn't a ton of phone time.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

I think responsiveness of the spouse during the day can be a barrier. If either of you are off your phone for huge stretches of the day, that isn't really an option.

Well yea, there’s nuance to it. But it doesn’t have to be much. Just a message like “your ass looked amazing this morning” or whatever.

 

[Jim Bob]

Thanks for the advice.

It doesn't help I work in nursing, which seems to attract a lot of good-looking women.


I rarely text anyone, haha. My wife and I do text the most, but it's life stuff. I like Jim's idea, though!


Very true. We're both in nursing now, so there isn't a ton of phone time.

Both of my parents were nurses and I volunteered at a hospital a lot in HS. So, I can understand the challenges there. It is also common to places of employment where you get a lot of people watching opportunities in general, like working in retail.

Hopefully you can find something that works for the both of you.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

Thanks for the advice.

It doesn't help I work in nursing, which seems to attract a lot of good-looking women.


I rarely text anyone, haha. My wife and I do text the most, but it's life stuff. I like Jim's idea, though!


Very true. We're both in nursing now, so there isn't a ton of phone time.

There’s definitely a lot of good looking women in nursing. And the scrubs definitely doesn’t help matters. But keep in mind that it’s nothing more than lust, and a few moments of fun isn’t worth the months of anguish.

 

[Dubi Doo]

Both of my parents were nurses and I volunteered at a hospital a lot in HS. So, I can understand the challenges there. It is also common to places of employment where you get a lot of people watching opportunities in general, like working in retail.

Hopefully you can find something that works for the both of you.

True. If I can talk with you fools on a forum sporadically throughout my day, then I can text my wife some flirty texts.

There’s definitely a lot of good looking women in nursing. And the scrubs definitely doesn’t help matters. But keep in mind that it’s nothing more than lust, and a few moments of fun isn’t worth the months of anguish.

Oh yeah, I know that.

This is going to sound so arrogant, so I hope people don't take it that way, but for the sake of the conversation- I am a fairly good-looking dude. I take good care of myself physically, too. Working on a cardiac ICU will do that to you! So, some women can be very friendly and smiley toward me. I've had some comments made my way as well, and it's not that uncommon for a woman to show some attraction toward me. So, perhaps- I feel like I'd be getting laid all the time if I were single, which still isn't all that fulfilling of a life.

I'm also getting older, so perhaps my mind is venturing toward- 'you'll never get these chances again!', which I know is a f***ed-up way of thinking. I just want to be happy with everything I have in my little home, and typically- I am, but if I could lower my testosterone a bit- I'd probably be better off for it, haha.

I don't know. Maybe I should talk to a therapist instead. As I've progressed through my 30s- I've realized there are a few issues I have with myself that I probably neglected when I was younger. I've just grown up around old school, blue collard men who would never think of going to therapy for their problems, so it would be foreign territory for me.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

True. If I can talk with you fools on a forum sporadically throughout my day, then I can text my wife some flirty texts.


Oh yeah, I know that.

This is going to sound so arrogant, so I hope people don't take it that way, but for the sake of the conversation- I am a fairly good-looking dude. I take good care of myself physically, too. Working on a cardiac ICU will do that to you! So, some women can be very friendly and smiley toward me. I've had some comments made my way as well, and it's not that uncommon for a woman to show some attraction toward me. So, perhaps- I feel like I'd be getting laid all the time if I were single, which still isn't all that fulfilling of a life.

I'm also getting older, so perhaps my mind is venturing toward- 'you'll never get these chances again!', which I know is a f***ed-up way of thinking. I just want to be happy with everything I have in my little home, and typically- I am, but if I could lower my testosterone a bit- I'd probably be better off for it, haha.

I don't know. Maybe I should talk to a therapist instead. As I've progressed through my 30s- I've realized there are a few issues I have with myself that I probably neglected when I was younger. I've just grown up around old school, blue collard men who would never think of going to therapy for their problems, so it would be foreign territory for me.

Just have a permanent scowl on your face when in public. It works for me, for the most part! And I say that as someone whose considered a really attractive charismatic guy.

 

[Chainshot]

Bear with me as today has been the proverbial kick to the crotch. I booted my current paramour, the one my friends gushed about as in where did I find her. Then I find out that a good friend at the old age of 47 died today. My friend spent Mon and Tues with his 7yo daughter, no contact yesterday and today they found him dead.

I sit here thinking about what happens if I just drop. I did my estate planning so my grandkids will have free education, my niece and nephews a steady income, and my bars go to Gus. But damn, my friend was just alone gasping out his last. I pay for caretakers but still that seems a lonely way to pass. I ponder life's fragility and it just makes me think to enjoy the ride as long and hard as you can

Condolences on your friend passing Chief.

 

[Butt Ox]

Anyone have any advice on dealing with a 'wandering eye' while married? I made an oopsie once before my wife and I were married. Bachelor party craziness that went a bit too far. I didn't have sex with the woman, but boundaries were crossed. I told my wife, and we worked through it. I was blackout drunk in a vulnerable spot (which was agreed upon), but then it went further than what was agreed upon. Those variables at play won't happen again, at least, so I'm not worried about acting on my actions.

But, since then- I'm more aware of when my attention is drifting away from my wife and toward other women. I'm not flirting with women. It's more I have a very visual brain, so my thoughts can take me on a journey if I find a woman at work attractive.

As I said, I'm not worried about messing up again. It's been almost a decade since I screwed up. I Just know that fantasizing about other women too much can take away from the intimacy in a marriage, and I'd like to figure out a way to steer clear of that.

We're cautioned to be good stewards and to attend to and cherish what we have, as every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above. If you look at your marriage as being a covenant, and that your meeting/courtship/marriage was/is a gift bestowed from a fiercely loving Father whom delights over you; One Whom is sovereign and knows what you need before you are ever in lack - You have to internalize why would one have thoughts that what was given to you is now no longer good enough/fun/entertaining/whatever. All of us can justify a "I was just looking" response but the motivation comes from a lustful place. When the mind carries us to places that it shouldn't, the response would be to recognize what is going on - make a choice to stop - and be thankful and grateful for what one is blessed with. The lust of the eyes doesn't just mean big titties; for me it's also a constant battle to not be covetous when looking at vintage guitars or gear and scheming up how to afford that strat from 1965 because I like the way the lake placid blue has gone green.

It's a tough struggle and all flesh is constantly at war with the spirit. I have had success by adopting an attitude of treating every woman older than me as I would my mom and treating those younger as I would a little sister. Looking, flirting, taking advantage - it's easy. Doing what is right and adhering to the covenant you made is difficult. Be the champion your family needs and deserves.

 

[Chainshot]

Anyone have any advice on dealing with a 'wandering eye' while married? I made an oopsie once before my wife and I were married. Bachelor party craziness that went a bit too far. I didn't have sex with the woman, but boundaries were crossed. I told my wife, and we worked through it. I was blackout drunk in a vulnerable spot (which was agreed upon), but then it went further than what was agreed upon. Those variables at play won't happen again, at least, so I'm not worried about acting on my actions.

But, since then- I'm more aware of when my attention is drifting away from my wife and toward other women. I'm not flirting with women. It's more I have a very visual brain, so my thoughts can take me on a journey if I find a woman at work attractive.

As I said, I'm not worried about messing up again. It's been almost a decade since I screwed up. I Just know that fantasizing about other women too much can take away from the intimacy in a marriage, and I'd like to figure out a way to steer clear of that.

I recall a comedienne making the comment that it was okay to look at the menu, just that you come back to order the same chef's special every time.

Others have touched on a couple of things but make sure you are still having romantic time with the Mrs. - be it a date night out or some sort of regular time where the two of you can be together as the objective of the outcome. Not a "oh, we make dinner together" or "hey, we're walking the dogs/cats/parrot/children together" thing but that the focus of some regular time is the two of you to be with one another.

 

[dotcommunism]

True. If I can talk with you fools on a forum sporadically throughout my day, then I can text my wife some flirty texts.


Oh yeah, I know that.

This is going to sound so arrogant, so I hope people don't take it that way, but for the sake of the conversation- I am a fairly good-looking dude. I take good care of myself physically, too. Working on a cardiac ICU will do that to you! So, some women can be very friendly and smiley toward me. I've had some comments made my way as well, and it's not that uncommon for a woman to show some attraction toward me. So, perhaps- I feel like I'd be getting laid all the time if I were single, which still isn't all that fulfilling of a life.

I'm also getting older, so perhaps my mind is venturing toward- 'you'll never get these chances again!', which I know is a f***ed-up way of thinking. I just want to be happy with everything I have in my little home, and typically- I am, but if I could lower my testosterone a bit- I'd probably be better off for it, haha.

I don't know. Maybe I should talk to a therapist instead. As I've progressed through my 30s- I've realized there are a few issues I have with myself that I probably neglected when I was younger. I've just grown up around old school, blue collard men who would never think of going to therapy for their problems, so it would be foreign territory for me.

I've got a bunch of spironolactone sitting around if you think that would help.

 

[TheMistyStranger]

Three queries out on the children's book. I decided the other day that if I don't have an agent by the end of the year that I'm going to self-publish at least one of my books. I figured I can do that and then buy a few copies to sell at the local convention, possibly at some local bookstores.

On a mildly disheartening note, for some reason I have lost three subscribers this week on my YouTube channel and am back below the 150 mark. It's a little frustrating, but I do realize this sort of thing has a lot of ups and downs. All I can do is keep producing content and hope that people enjoy it.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

Three queries out on the children's book. I decided the other day that if I don't have an agent by the end of the year that I'm going to self-publish at least one of my books. I figured I can do that and then buy a few copies to sell at the local convention, possibly at some local bookstores.

On a mildly disheartening note, for some reason I have lost three subscribers this week on my YouTube channel and am back below the 150 mark. It's a little frustrating, but I do realize this sort of thing has a lot of ups and downs. All I can do is keep producing content and hope that people enjoy it.

I’ve checked out your videos. Not my cup of tea, but that’s nothing against you. I apologize I haven’t subscribed. I just don’t subscribe to anything on YouTube

 

[TheMistyStranger]

I’ve checked out your videos. Not my cup of tea, but that’s nothing against you. I apologize I haven’t subscribed. I just don’t subscribe to anything on YouTube

No worries! I try to do a pretty big variety to appeal to more people, but nothing will ever be for everyone.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

No worries! I try to do a pretty big variety to appeal to more people, but nothing will ever be for everyone.

It’s not even your games. I just don’t enjoy watching someone play a game. Of course, I’m not really a gamer myself, so I don’t really play much. Generally if I watch a gaming video, it’s because I’m stuck so I watch something to progress it. But I wish you luck!

 

[Der Jaeger]

In Buffalo for the outdoor tournament. My son said that this year it’s warm in Buffalo (35 degrees when we got here).

We played last year’s game at 2 degrees….. so yeah.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

So this apartment reno I’m doing, I’m finally close to being done it. Or at least what I can do. I just have the ceiling of the hallway left to paint, the kitchen and bathroom to paint, install new flooring and hook up the plumbing for the new cabinets. Unfortunately the company that’s installing those is backed up so I have no idea when that will happen. It appears I’m gonna hit my deadline of having everything ready by the 15th, but unfortunately if there’s no finished kitchen the place can’t be rented out. Nobody is gonna pay $1500 a month to cook on a George Foreman Grill and a griddle that sits on the floor.

As well, the lady I was seeing last summer messaged me out of the blue to ask me for help. She had to work, but it was before her kid had to catch the bus to go to school. She wanted to know if I could do that. Seeing I’m making my own work hours, it wasn’t a problem. I don’t hate her, so I said I would. I didn’t end up needing to do that, as I was the backup to her (extremely flaky) aunt doing that. But now we’re talking again, we’ve both acknowledged the problems that happened without getting upset with each other, and things are going well. So cross your fingers, arms, legs, or eyes in solidarity here, as this girl was someone who I’d have broken my “I’m never getting married again” personal promise for.