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[Deep Blue Metallic]

True. If I can talk with you fools on a forum sporadically throughout my day, then I can text my wife some flirty texts.


Oh yeah, I know that.

This is going to sound so arrogant, so I hope people don't take it that way, but for the sake of the conversation- I am a fairly good-looking dude. I take good care of myself physically, too. Working on a cardiac ICU will do that to you! So, some women can be very friendly and smiley toward me. I've had some comments made my way as well, and it's not that uncommon for a woman to show some attraction toward me. So, perhaps- I feel like I'd be getting laid all the time if I were single, which still isn't all that fulfilling of a life.

I'm also getting older, so perhaps my mind is venturing toward- 'you'll never get these chances again!', which I know is a f***ed-up way of thinking. I just want to be happy with everything I have in my little home, and typically- I am, but if I could lower my testosterone a bit- I'd probably be better off for it, haha.

I don't know. Maybe I should talk to a therapist instead. As I've progressed through my 30s- I've realized there are a few issues I have with myself that I probably neglected when I was younger. I've just grown up around old school, blue collard men who would never think of going to therapy for their problems, so it would be foreign territory for me.

7 year itch? Sounds pretty normal for a healthy guy.

If you have no intention of pursuing the forbidden fruit, and you're being honest with yourself, then don't worry about it. Really don't know why you'd even be considering therapy. Do you still feel guilty about your bachelor party indiscretion?

Nothing wrong with innocently appreciating an attractive female. We're faithfully married, not blind.

 

[HaNotsri]

Anyone have any advice on dealing with a 'wandering eye' while married? I made an oopsie once before my wife and I were married. Bachelor party craziness that went a bit too far. I didn't have sex with the woman, but boundaries were crossed. I told my wife, and we worked through it. I was blackout drunk in a vulnerable spot (which was agreed upon), but then it went further than what was agreed upon. Those variables at play won't happen again, at least, so I'm not worried about acting on my actions.

But, since then- I'm more aware of when my attention is drifting away from my wife and toward other women. I'm not flirting with women. It's more I have a very visual brain, so my thoughts can take me on a journey if I find a woman at work attractive.

As I said, I'm not worried about messing up again. It's been almost a decade since I screwed up. I Just know that fantasizing about other women too much can take away from the intimacy in a marriage, and I'd like to figure out a way to steer clear of that.

I'm sure a lot of, probably all, people think about others. Doesn't mean you act on it.
You can give yourself the homework of giving your wife appreciation and attention more often, even if you're already a great romantic you can always up your game a little in some way.

I'm in year 14 of our relationship, we both have busy lives but what has worked well for us is scheduled intimacy. You can build up to it and still make it special and fun. Many people might frown upon it but I think it's easier when you know the when and where.
We can focus on making it fun instead of making it happen.

 

[sabremike]

Guys, got some real bad news:

Now I don't know how well everyone here remembers history but...

 

[TheMistyStranger]

Guys, got some real bad news:
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Now I don't know how well everyone here remembers history but...

Ironically, two of the places I want to most visit. Not sure about living in Japan, but I'd 100% move to Germany, given the chance.


Also, up to 5 queries out in the world. I've historically been very choosy about who to query for which project, but this is the year I **** Around and hopefully Find Out some good news.

 

[TehDoak]

Super Bowl weekend schedule so far:

Friday night: U2 at the big sphere thing
Saturday: going to the LIV golf event in the morning.
Sunday: NFL Tailgate and the Super Bowl. Possibly in a suite.

Reasonably sure I should bet a large amount on something because I am extremely lucky evidently

 

[Old Navy Goat]

Yesterday we had our monthly Sugar Cane Mafia lunch so got to enjoy hearing the whinging and moaning over how low the high season had been
First group complaining how Socialism in a Capitalistic system doesn't work. There's this nice new bar complex that opened in November, your initial costs were about 38k for everything, coolers, tables, stools, tv, pool table and initial liquor setup. Sounds great, everything brand new nothing to worry about. Well the proud owners didn't read the fine print where the Juristic office establishes the prices. Everyone has the exact same offering, at the exact price only difference is the bar staff. So 85 baht beers, 100 baht mixed and 150 baht ld so close to what Soi6 is. Their problem is, you go out the back gate walk 50yds and you're in Soi Made in Thailand where both sides lined with bars selling at 55 beers and cocktails for HH and the 65 the rest of the night and lady drinks at 125. So the owners complain that their only customers are 1st night tourists attracted by the shiny new lights until they realise better deals elsewhere.

The 2nd group complaining are the ladyboy bar owners. You have 4 within 3 blocks of each other. 3 on the same street that do no business, two long established with one just opening last month. It's funny that you look inside Fantasy and you have a bunch of ladyboys sitting around with no customers when next door Annie Jack's notorious for drink sluts is jam packed. The same with Desire and the Buffalo Bar next door. The owner of Whiskey Lounge, a great looking bar, is saying he'll have to close as no customers anymore. I had to laugh, his draw was his whiskey selection which no one could beat. However, one day the Gent's Club across the street which is aircon with 100+ girls walking around in little more than bikini had his provider give them the same whiskey list. So now the guys that would go to the Whiskey Lounge and deal with ladyboys go to High Rollers instead. Even an outdoor bar like Whiskey Lounge Jie Jie has the whiskey stock but charges 15 baht per drink less and they have about 20 girls. Fringe market means scrapping by especially when more competition for that 2 or 3% of the punter crowd try vying for business that is traditionally catered to in two distinct bar areas. I do like the Whiskey Lounge owner but he's a longtime veteran of the scene with 2 milf closed door clubs that do a heaving day time visit with the 70yo+ crowd so he knows what works and won't but is stubborn

 

[oldgoalie]

Yesterday we had our monthly Sugar Cane Mafia lunch so got to enjoy hearing the whinging and moaning over how low the high season had been
First group complaining how Socialism in a Capitalistic system doesn't work. There's this nice new bar complex that opened in November, your initial costs were about 38k for everything, coolers, tables, stools, tv, pool table and initial liquor setup. Sounds great, everything brand new nothing to worry about. Well the proud owners didn't read the fine print where the Juristic office establishes the prices. Everyone has the exact same offering, at the exact price only difference is the bar staff. So 85 baht beers, 100 baht mixed and 150 baht ld so close to what Soi6 is. Their problem is, you go out the back gate walk 50yds and you're in Soi Made in Thailand where both sides lined with bars selling at 55 beers and cocktails for HH and the 65 the rest of the night and lady drinks at 125. So the owners complain that their only customers are 1st night tourists attracted by the shiny new lights until they realise better deals elsewhere.

The 2nd group complaining are the ladyboy bar owners. You have 4 within 3 blocks of each other. 3 on the same street that do no business, two long established with one just opening last month. It's funny that you look inside Fantasy and you have a bunch of ladyboys sitting around with no customers when next door Annie Jack's notorious for drink sluts is jam packed. The same with Desire and the Buffalo Bar next door. The owner of Whiskey Lounge, a great looking bar, is saying he'll have to close as no customers anymore. I had to laugh, his draw was his whiskey selection which no one could beat. However, one day the Gent's Club across the street which is aircon with 100+ girls walking around in little more than bikini had his provider give them the same whiskey list. So now the guys that would go to the Whiskey Lounge and deal with ladyboys go to High Rollers instead. Even an outdoor bar like Whiskey Lounge Jie Jie has the whiskey stock but charges 15 baht per drink less and they have about 20 girls. Fringe market means scrapping by especially when more competition for that 2 or 3% of the punter crowd try vying for business that is traditionally catered to in two distinct bar areas. I do like the Whiskey Lounge owner but he's a longtime veteran of the scene with 2 milf closed door clubs that do a heaving day time visit with the 70yo+ crowd so he knows what works and won't but is stubborn

please write a f***ing book.

 

[Old Navy Goat]

please write a f***ing book.

The best stories you can't tell unless you want to be barred or hit up with libel. In the last 2 months you had a condo agent convince customers to pay a year in advance for discounts, send their electric bill payments to her, well she ran off with almost 300k USD. The condo owners are out of money, the renters with contracts and receipts are fine.
A bar owner with a huge stable of bars like 26 with a gym and sponsored Muay Thai academy, well his wife and 2 mamasans were arrested for human trafficking. Seems someone forgot to pay the boys in brown.
But going into details, naming names will get you in trouble.

Here's a funny story. One of my girls is a true pool shark, big time hustler. The pool team gladly replaces me with her any chance they get. Well last night she's playing this English guy and soundly beating his ass. He loses, buys her a drink. His buddy loses, buys her a drink. She hustles them, taking some of their balls off to give them a better chance for a shot rack (5 Tequila). Beats both of them so gets her 2 racks. Now while playing the friend she'll rub up, sit in the one guy's lap etc. The guys decide they've had enough and are tired of losing when you hear this loud Thai voice tell them it's best they leave since the way they handle their cue they couldn't satisfy her upstairs. The English guy grabs her and takes her upstairs. After awhile they come back down, the English guys leave, she comes over puts her arm around me and says he was cute but no good at putting balls in pocket on table or bed, and happily saunters out to the street to find her next victim

 

[TheDawnOfANewTage]

Driving in the North Bay was vaguely apocalyptic today, guess it’s even worse down by LA. Very wet winter, but we went from unprecedented drought to unprecedented flooding within a year, so.. it’s fine, things are fine guys.

Oh, and my power is out, because the local utility runs shit about as well as the folks in goddamn Mongolia did (Mongolia has a million more excuses, but their businesses/government are also corrupt as shit. Draw your own conclusions).

Whatever, I go out tomorrow and tell folks to better prepare their homes for the apocalypse. Seriously, that’s part of my sales pitch at this point- it’s all f***ed, but with solar and a battery you’re good, at least. You don’t come home to darkness, because the bastards that killed people and hiked rates 13% this year still can’t keep the lights on.

Anyways, hope y’all are well. Just venting, practically too damned dark to even read a book.

 

[Gras]

Driving in the North Bay was vaguely apocalyptic today, guess it’s even worse down by LA. Very wet winter, but we went from unprecedented drought to unprecedented flooding within a year, so.. it’s fine, things are fine guys.

Oh, and my power is out, because the local utility runs shit about as well as the folks in goddamn Mongolia did (Mongolia has a million more excuses, but their businesses/government are also corrupt as shit. Draw your own conclusions).

Whatever, I go out tomorrow and tell folks to better prepare their homes for the apocalypse. Seriously, that’s part of my sales pitch at this point- it’s all f***ed, but with solar and a battery you’re good, at least. You don’t come home to darkness, because the bastards that killed people and hiked rates 13% this year still can’t keep the lights on.

Anyways, hope y’all are well. Just venting, practically too damned dark to even read a book.

Just wait til they start doing this across the board

California proposes “blatant seizure of property” in solar ruling

The California Public Utilities Commission is set to vote on a virtual net energy metering program that would force renters to sell solar generation to the utility and buy it back at a higher rate, outlawing them from consuming their electricity directly.

pv-magazine-usa.com

The decision would disallow residents of multi-meter properties to consume their own rooftop solar production, even if they own the solar array. The policy forces customers to first sell their solar production to the utility, and then buy it back at higher rates.

 

[TheDawnOfANewTage]

Just wait til they start doing this across the board

California proposes “blatant seizure of property” in solar ruling

The California Public Utilities Commission is set to vote on a virtual net energy metering program that would force renters to sell solar generation to the utility and buy it back at a higher rate, outlawing them from consuming their electricity directly.

pv-magazine-usa.com

The decision would disallow residents of multi-meter properties to consume their own rooftop solar production, even if they own the solar array. The policy forces customers to first sell their solar production to the utility, and then buy it back at higher rates.

Holy shit, what a mess. For those who care- the previous law didn’t require a battery, so you fed the grid when it was sunny and got the same power back in a 1-to-1 exchange at nighttime (or on cloudy/rainy days). Sweet, except the grid is over 100 years old and that previous solar deal people locked into actually taxes said grid more, it actually creates more problems. And how utility companies and the state didn’t know this is.. questionable, to me. They basically set themselves up to do something like this, and to charge higher rates, because they are even more needed because of said asinine previous law.

For me it’s weird, because people know solar doesn’t work for them like it used to, it’s not as good of a deal. If I explain it properly, however, they win no matter what. The utility still has to buy power from 7-9 PM at peak rates, so the batteries will be useful regardless of foreseeable shennanigans. If they actually pull the above bullshit every old system would now need a battery, so my company would just transition again.

It’s the superior product at this point, but we’re up against a monopoly and the worst kind of “for show only” policies at the state level. Electrifying everything, going green, which really just gives certain monopolies greater power. Sweet.

 

[DJN21]

Had a long ass week at work and my wife volunteered us to go to a family get together with my family and forgot to tell me until a few days before. Needless to say after working at 4am yesterday I was bitching and moaning all day long to co-workers about how much I didn't wanna go and just wanted to go home and relax.

Fast forward a few hours to my grandpa making an announcement to the family that my grandma (who has been battling cancer back and forth for 7 years) has at most 6 weeks to live since the cancer spread to her spinal cord. I guess I learned a lesson about bitching about going to family events (while we all still can).

Was a very terrible feeling watching my grandmother hold our 4 month old baby for what might be the last time. Been feeling like a guilty piece of shit for a day now. Decided to go check on my mom to see how she was holding up and she informed me that grandpa intends to kill himself when grandma goes. Aint life great?!

 

[Old Navy Goat]

Had a long ass week at work and my wife volunteered us to go to a family get together with my family and forgot to tell me until a few days before. Needless to say after working at 4am yesterday I was bitching and moaning all day long to co-workers about how much I didn't wanna go and just wanted to go home and relax.

Fast forward a few hours to my grandpa making an announcement to the family that my grandma (who has been battling cancer back and forth for 7 years) has at most 6 weeks to live since the cancer spread to her spinal cord. I guess I learned a lesson about bitching about going to family events (while we all still can).

Was a very terrible feeling watching my grandmother hold our 4 month old baby for what might be the last time. Been feeling like a guilty piece of shit for a day now. Decided to go check on my mom to see how she was holding up and she informed me that grandpa intends to kill himself when grandma goes. Aint life great?!

My condolences, that's some crappy news. Cancer just sucks. As for your grandfather that's not too unusual after living so many years together they feel empty. It'll take a lot of intervention by your family to show how he's appreciated to give his life meaning

 

[Chainshot]

Had a long ass week at work and my wife volunteered us to go to a family get together with my family and forgot to tell me until a few days before. Needless to say after working at 4am yesterday I was bitching and moaning all day long to co-workers about how much I didn't wanna go and just wanted to go home and relax.

Fast forward a few hours to my grandpa making an announcement to the family that my grandma (who has been battling cancer back and forth for 7 years) has at most 6 weeks to live since the cancer spread to her spinal cord. I guess I learned a lesson about bitching about going to family events (while we all still can).

Was a very terrible feeling watching my grandmother hold our 4 month old baby for what might be the last time. Been feeling like a guilty piece of shit for a day now. Decided to go check on my mom to see how she was holding up and she informed me that grandpa intends to kill himself when grandma goes. Aint life great?!

Criminy. Family can be a pain in the mundane, but yeah, getting bad news can shake off that discomfort to get back to realizing just how much you value them.

I wish I had any of my grandparents back. The last one passed nearly 15 years ago and I cherish that I had the time with them all that I did. But I admit, I would give a limb if I could have any of them back for more time.

My parents are into their 80's now and I worry constantly at how much time they have left and there are things I would like to do with them before they're gone.

 

[DJN21]

My condolences, that's some crappy news. Cancer just sucks. As for your grandfather that's not too unusual after living so many years together they feel empty. It'll take a lot of intervention by your family to show how he's appreciated to give his life meaning

Cancer really is something else. My dad, grandpa, grandma and aunt have all had it to varying degrees an my wifes aunt, uncle and cousin (all in the same household must've been something in that penfield water) have all had in within the past maybe 15 year span?

Anyways sorry thank you for your thoughts. Gotta vent somewhere so why not here I guess?

 

[DJN21]

Criminy. Family can be a pain in the mundane, but yeah, getting bad news can shake off that discomfort to get back to realizing just how much you value them.

I wish I had any of my grandparents back. The last one passed nearly 15 years ago and I cherish that I had the time with them all that I did. But I admit, I would give a limb if I could have any of them back for more time.

My parents are into their 80's now and I worry constantly at how much time they have left and there are things I would like to do with them before they're gone.

I'm 35 and will be down to one living grandparent after all of this. My grandpa from my dads side died one month before I was born and my grandpa from my moms side I only met once because he ran out on the family. The one time I met him his dog bit me in the face and I needed stictches in my lip lol. He's gone now too I hear. My dad passed several years back and I'm an only child. The family tree grows thin...

Make that time count then my friend!

 

[TheMistyStranger]

I'm 35 and will be down to one living grandparent after all of this. My grandpa from my dads side died one month before I was born and my grandpa from my moms side I only met once because he ran out on the family. The one time I met him his dog bit me in the face and I needed stictches in my lip lol. He's gone now too I hear. My dad passed several years back and I'm an only child. The family tree grows thin...

Make that time count then my friend!

That's a lot of awful stuff man. Try to enjoy the time you have with people and remember them at their best.

 

[DJN21]

That's a lot of awful stuff man. Try to enjoy the time you have with people and remember them at their best.

oh hell yeah. Life takes on a whole new perspective when you have a kid. I'm beyond thankful for every time she smiles at me. I am relatively healthy lol, my wife is my kid is. My grandma battled cancer for 7+ years. When she finally loses that battle I wanna walk away proud of her courage and thankful for the time we got with her. It would be extremely selfish to wallow in self pity when we got that much time with a cancer patient when so so so many people get a hell of a lot less.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

I'm 35 and will be down to one living grandparent after all of this. My grandpa from my dads side died one month before I was born and my grandpa from my moms side I only met once because he ran out on the family. The one time I met him his dog bit me in the face and I needed stictches in my lip lol. He's gone now too I hear. My dad passed several years back and I'm an only child. The family tree grows thin...

Make that time count then my friend!

I’m 40, and I don’t have any living grandparents, nor do I have living parents (my dad is still alive, but he left when I was 1 so he doesn’t exist), nor do I have a close relationship with my siblings that are alive still. I have never met any of my aunts or uncles or cousins. It’s interesting when it comes to meeting a significant others family, as I don’t really have that so it’s just awkward as hell for me.

But sucks to hear about your grandma. Cancer sucks

 

[DJN21]

I’m 40, and I don’t have any living grandparents, nor do I have living parents (my dad is still alive, but he left when I was 1 so he doesn’t exist), nor do I have a close relationship with my siblings that are alive still. I have never met any of my aunts or uncles or cousins. It’s interesting when it comes to meeting a significant others family, as I don’t really have that so it’s just awkward as hell for me.

But sucks to hear about your grandma. Cancer sucks

I've always made friendships into family (to replace the missing actual family) and hope you have done the same. Sorry for all that youve been through. At least we have the Sabres....oh wait.

 

[Deep Blue Metallic]

Had a long ass week at work and my wife volunteered us to go to a family get together with my family and forgot to tell me until a few days before. Needless to say after working at 4am yesterday I was bitching and moaning all day long to co-workers about how much I didn't wanna go and just wanted to go home and relax.

Fast forward a few hours to my grandpa making an announcement to the family that my grandma (who has been battling cancer back and forth for 7 years) has at most 6 weeks to live since the cancer spread to her spinal cord. I guess I learned a lesson about bitching about going to family events (while we all still can).

Was a very terrible feeling watching my grandmother hold our 4 month old baby for what might be the last time. Been feeling like a guilty piece of shit for a day now. Decided to go check on my mom to see how she was holding up and she informed me that grandpa intends to kill himself when grandma goes. Aint life great?!

Condolences, man. Don't beat yourself up.

Losing a lifelong partner must be rough. I know it has been for my mother. Hope your grandfather can regain his appetite for life.

 

[Jim Bob]

Had a long ass week at work and my wife volunteered us to go to a family get together with my family and forgot to tell me until a few days before. Needless to say after working at 4am yesterday I was bitching and moaning all day long to co-workers about how much I didn't wanna go and just wanted to go home and relax.

Fast forward a few hours to my grandpa making an announcement to the family that my grandma (who has been battling cancer back and forth for 7 years) has at most 6 weeks to live since the cancer spread to her spinal cord. I guess I learned a lesson about bitching about going to family events (while we all still can).

Was a very terrible feeling watching my grandmother hold our 4 month old baby for what might be the last time. Been feeling like a guilty piece of shit for a day now. Decided to go check on my mom to see how she was holding up and she informed me that grandpa intends to kill himself when grandma goes. Aint life great?!

That is a flashback for me.

When I first became a father, my oldest first cousin on my mom's side had her third, and last, son within a week or two. We had a family get together for our grandparents to meet the two newest great-grandbabies.

That turned out to be the last time I saw my grandfather alive. The party was on Sunday. On Wednesday, his doctor told him that his rare blood cancer was back (he had fought it off two or three times previously). He told his doctor he didn't want to fight it this time. And he passed away five days later.

Cancer sucks. Losing grandparents sucks. And the grind of life can always lead us to lose sight of the limited time we have with those we love.

Give yourself some grace and hopefully you get a chance to let your grandma know how much she has meant to you before she's gone.

 

[Jim Bob]

Brennan O'Neill is a monster and is going to be a problem all year long for Duke's opponents.



I feel bad for Victor's Chayse Ierlan. He is going to hate giving up that GTG that forced OT. But, that comeback by Denver was bonkers.



Penn State losing at home to Colgate on that play...

 

[Chainshot]

The GF's school is on hard lockdown. Police scanner is very, very quiet. Freaking out.

 

[Chainshot]

Update - still nothing from her (I'm not surprised if there is an active situation) and nothing on either the fire/rescue or PD dispatch that seems to match up with a situation. Yes, I do tune in from time to time. Between her working in a public school and my kids finishing out HS here, there have been almost 2 dozen instances where one of their schools has been on lockdown over things like bomb threats (both HS's multiple times), potential firearm violence (my daughter's HS several times), a bank heist (my daughter's HS is opposite the scene of the crime so they went into lockdown) and several fleeing perps in the woods near my GFs school putting them in lockdown. They also had a "soft" lockdown last week due to the threat of gang violence - there was a shooting that authorities believed was tied to people attending the other HS on the same road as the GF's elementary school. And then there was the wingnut who has been barred from school grounds because he came in to threaten staff and teachers after they recommended his son get services - and the kid sounds like he needs some services.