I’ve played many sports. I’ve reffed football and hockey in college. I now coach soccer and basketball.
When I officiated, and someone aggressively complained about a call for a long time, my immediate reaction was NOT to doubly penalize the other team, but to pause, and think that maybe I did miss something or make the wrong call.
As a player, I always thanked the officials for their time, UNLESS they were bad, and or biased. In house leagues, bias does enter it. One time after an egregiously bad game, I said to a ref, “the next time I want to get ****** in the *** at 11 PM, I’ll ask my girlfriend to use her vibrator”. Surprisingly, the guy cracked up laughing and admitted he had a bad game.
These days, in youth sports, I’ve noticed the officials tend to be over aggressive in calling games. They call things that don’t even exist and they wonder why coaches and parents yell at them. When I played youth sports, the refs didn’t ref games like cops on speed like they do today.