At my age, I no longer am working so I don't have to "work with someone" that I don't care for.you are lucky....i had a family member forward our texts from a personal conversation we were having to her friends and family....i haven't talked to her since
i think the problem is when outside influences, be it P or R that we cant mention, their SO, lifestyle, whatever, when the outside influence changes them into someone else than the person they used to be that is the problem.
My wife has commented before that if her sister wasn't her sister no way would they be friends...complete opposites in every way
If being around someone, friend, relative whatever is a huge stressor that you know its not going to end well, its just easier to not be around them...my wife has 3 best friends, the husbands do not get along at all so there is never a couple situation
I have a small family (daughter, 2 sisters, one brother-in-law) and thankfully we mostly agree on politics, religion and most things. The things we might not agree on are small things that are not worth debating (as none of us are likely to change our mind).
I have a small group of friends and some acquaintances. A couple of them we don't discuss politics because we are too far apart. My neighbor (who I am close to) is always trying to get me to be religious....It will not happen and we still get along.
I don't expect everyone to agree with my point of view. There are some things I see as so terrible that I no longer interact with the people. Their point of view is so against all I believe in that I have lost all interest in having them in my life.
As I get older, I have found some peace by getting rid of people that believe in things so terrible (IMO) that I have cut them out of my life.