So I’ve been texting this girl for a few months. We hung out a few times but we text pretty much every day. She’s a photographer, so she’s obviously broke. She also has some medical issues; nothing life-threatening but just some quality of life issues with her knees and a couple other things.
The thing is that she always pushes off hanging out. Like wtf, just put me out of my misery already. I said “if money is an issue, I’d happily pay.” And then she got back to me saying how she got bad news from her knee surgeon and needs space.
When she’s done with her space, what’s the best way to phrase how it’s like I’m listening and talking to her about all her issues as if we’re going out, but she never wants to hang out? I think I got the hint that she’s not interested, but I kind of want to word it in a way where I don’t really want to be friends. Or if we are friends, I don’t want to talk to her every day.
@SnowblindNYR you’re the expert
I think you answered your own question.
I'd lead in with how you feel like you're just being used as a sounding board for her to vent her frustrations and then let her know that you aren't really down with being in a platonic relationship with her.
If you really don't want a friendship, you don't owe her one. If she tries to guilt you into one, don't fall for it.