Hey guys, im in need of some advice here on a girl that i met....
This girl works for a pr company that does PR events for us. I met her and was completely open about my depression issues and how therapy helped to change all of that and blah blah as our first conversation. The next night after an awards dinner, she comes up to me afterwards and wants to know more about me. We get into a great convo and i bring up an embarressing story of me being in vegas and thought i was getting hit on by a girl who later turned out to be a prostitute lol. But she then asked in the middle, "was she blond" Which is the haircolor that the girl im talking to has. We end up smoking a joint in nyc and walking around, singing in the streets. After we went to a bar and talked about everything and nothing at the same time, weve been through the same things, we danced at the bar, we have a tremendous, physical, mental and emotional connection. i give her my number and say she can call or text me anytime, ill be there for her. She then goes on to tell me how "Im the only one she feels she can be 100% herself with, how she made a big mistake, how she shouldn't have said yes to be engaged, she isnt happy, why couldnt she have met me 3 years ago, where have i been all her life" all verbetum. I asked her if she was happy and she said no, she said yes to make him happy. They moved to be closer to her parents for support bc he is an addict as well. We almost kissed several times that night but i pushed away bc i didnt want to be the guy who forces her out, she needs to make that decision on her own. And then she pushed me away saying she isnt that type of girl, that when she is with someone, she is only with them.
After we went to a karoake bar where we sang and talked more. At the end of the night, 4am by now, neither of us wanted the night to end. I asked if we could hangout in the lobby and just talk, she told me she didnt trust herself, then i asked if i could walk her home bc im old school and we are in the city. She tell me again she doesnt trust herself. We said good night and i asked her to text me when she got back. She never did. She went home and i have yet to hear from her. I know leaving a toxic relationship takes time especially since she is engaged and has alot to figure out.
I really like this girl and its not like im asking her to marry me lol. I just dont want her to marry him, and maybe go for a walk, or a date...
Right now its been a few weeks since the event and i want to reach out just to let her know that im thinking of her and to plant the seed a litte more.
I know its wrong but i cant figure out why else would we be put in each others lives.
I dont have her number and obviously i shouldnt reach out bc she needs space to figure her life out, but i want to just send a friendly email such as:
"Hi,
I wanted to reach out and say hi, hope all is well. Been thinking about what an amazing personb you are and what a great time i had meeting you.. Happy holidays.
If you happen to come up to my neck of the woods, id love to show you the tree.."
Help guys and girls, i need some advice here