What’s funny is when I first started there was some older disgruntled divers that use to complain a lot. My younger self with a point to prove was like “what’s wrong with these guys, this money is great and it’s even better with overtime!” Slowly but surely morphing into one of those dudes haha f***. But since I never say no, and have a good attitude at work, it’s essentially used against me. While some guys never work OT or travel, and just skate by. Fml
This is pretty typical and generally a rite of passage, unfortunately. Any high paying job is going to carry some unpleasant periods of overtime, overwork, travel, or some other inconvenience.
Part of surviving is learning how to politely but firmly say "no" and set boundaries without seeming combative or unwilling to be a "team player". There are even audiobooks about this if you want to look. Nobody else is going to monitor your relative levels of burnout. At least not for long. You have to take control of that yourself.
One way to maybe stop the pattern in your case is to start scheduling regular personal time that's set in stone on your calendar. Or make a clear, simple, numbers-driven case for changing your workload or schedule, or for hiring someone to help you. Get inside the heads of the decision makers and figure out what might appeal to them and also get you what you want.
Ultimately it may not be in the operating principles of the new management to give a wet shit about any of that, though. Your best defense against this is making sure your resume' is updated at all times and actively job hunting so you have a plan B. Depending on how your management group thinks it could be to your advantage to let them find out through the grapevine that you're looking, or it might be best to keep it secret if they're cut throat and prone to just covering their own asses (and hiring someone else instead of getting you more money, more PTO, more help, etc).
All the corporate talk about being a family or core values...it's all horseshit. There is no loyalty anymore, in either direction. So don't nail yourself to a cross for any company. They're not doing it for you, and they're surely willing and able to hire someone else if they need to, so you need to be ready to jump ship (literally) if it comes to that.
