Anyone else remember Ed Belfore, Temu Selane, and Joe Murphy?
None of those players left because of lifestyle, or for Original 6.
Belfour left to the Stars. Who knows why, maybe he didn't like the organization at the time. Maybe it was the state taxes effect.
Selanne went to the Ducks. Anaheim is neither a far more amazing place to live, nor is it an Original 6 or hockey market. It is, however, the place he spent 6 seasons and then the rest of his career after a short drop-in to Denver. Hard to argue this one is on SJ.
We were able to attract good FA's when we had a good, contending team. It's just as likely that some of them left because they weren't a great fit for us (Guerin comes to mind). There are some notables that we weren't able to attract (last 2 for Tavares, Campbell, and then this list of absolute spare parts: Brown, Moen, Nyquist, Reimer, White, Hansen, Polak).
I'm sure the taxes help the Southern teams, but only in the context of a contender. I'm sure the Original 6 or big hockey market thing helps some players, and we can never compete with that. But if we are competitive, we will still be in the game. Most players want to win, first and foremost. And the organization is generally well regarded... while the team is a tire fire, the org isn't, so we're probably middle of the pack in terms of overall FA interest,
when we are competitive.
SJ and the bay is objectively a great place to live, but expensive, and on the West Coast. A 26-year old player looking for a new home in his prime isn't going to make his decision on which city has the best nightlife, and if he is, he's not a good fit for a cup contender. And before we're a cup contender, I'm guessing at least 50% of the consideration for FA's is going to be whether the team is contending and/or is going to be good for their career on the ice. The other 50% is probably the comp offered (mostly) and lifestyle IF the player has a family (e.g. if their spouse wants to be on the East Coast, that would definitely factor).