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[oldgoalie]

It's summer so she has hijacked them every year but lockdown. The older one has said he's done with it... but he's going on this one. He's also told me that the things he and I want to do (which includes a trip to Europe) are between he and I. I jokingly told him to tell her that I was shopping for cars for him (I was) and she immediately rushed out to find something to have him buy.

I do expect the trip to Iceland my daughter and I have talked about for years and also she and I going to Glacier National Park to get bogarted though.

FYI - my wife was suspicious of her from the moment she met her.

 

[Chainshot]

FYI - my wife was suspicious of her from the moment she met her.

Yeah, with good measure. Sorry again for passing that through your home.

 

[oldgoalie]

Yeah, with good measure. Sorry again for passing that through your home.

why the apology? it was great meeting you and your kinder. anytime you're around, my friend. yeah, her, not so much.

 

[Dubi Doo]

FYI - my wife was suspicious of her from the moment she met her.

Yeah, with good measure. Sorry again for passing that through your home.

Not sure of the deets, but it sounds like your ex is crazy? If so, I am truly sorry. I know crazy.

My ex step mom is pretty nutty. She's toned it down since she lost her privilege to see my little family.

I could write a book of all the insane shit she did while my dad and her were in the middle of their break up and still living together.

One of the weirder ones was when she came stomping into my dad's house while we were there, and started screaming a country song that was playing so we all could hear it. Not only was she being annoying as hell, she was singing some trash ass country song. Yeah, it's hard to forgive someone who uses a terrible country song as their main weapon to irk you.

There were far worse things she did like speeding out of the driveway right past my pregnant wife. Tires screeching and all.

As I said, she's toned it down a lot. We all went to my brother's graduation a few weeks ago, and it went well. I still don't want to be buddy-buddy with her, but it's nice to know we can be cordial at events like that.

 

[Chainshot]

Not sure of the deets, but it sounds like your ex is crazy? If so, I am truly sorry. I know crazy.

She's the daughter of someone with a narcissistic personality disorder - so she's a bunch of that going on herself. Part of my parenting is trying to make sure neither of my kids wind up with that crap... not sure how that's going but I know both kids have a level of empathy for others. I'm more worried about my daughter than my son in that regard, but we'll see.

My ex step mom is pretty nutty. She's toned it down since she lost her privilege to see my little family.

I could write a book of all the insane shit she did while my dad and her were in the middle of their break up and still living together.

One of the weirder ones was when she came stomping into my dad's house while we were there, and started screaming a country song that was playing so we all could hear it. Not only was she being annoying as hell, she was singing some trash ass country song. Yeah, it's hard to forgive someone who uses a terrible country song as their main weapon to irk you.

There were far worse things she did like speeding out of the driveway right past my pregnant wife. Tires screeching and all.

As I said, she's toned it down a lot. We all went to my brother's graduation a few weeks ago, and it went well. I still don't want to be buddy-buddy with her, but it's nice to know we can be cordial at events like that.

Daaamn! That does sound manuscript worthy. I'd read it.

 

[Chainshot]

Okay, they have my attention.

 

[Jim Bob]

Not sure of the deets, but it sounds like your ex is crazy? If so, I am truly sorry. I know crazy.

My ex step mom is pretty nutty. She's toned it down since she lost her privilege to see my little family.

I could write a book of all the insane shit she did while my dad and her were in the middle of their break up and still living together.

One of the weirder ones was when she came stomping into my dad's house while we were there, and started screaming a country song that was playing so we all could hear it. Not only was she being annoying as hell, she was singing some trash ass country song. Yeah, it's hard to forgive someone who uses a terrible country song as their main weapon to irk you.

There were far worse things she did like speeding out of the driveway right past my pregnant wife. Tires screeching and all.

As I said, she's toned it down a lot. We all went to my brother's graduation a few weeks ago, and it went well. I still don't want to be buddy-buddy with her, but it's nice to know we can be cordial at events like that.

If we are getting into crazy stepmom stories...

My parents got divorced when I was 2yo. My dad got remarried when I was 7. She was nice when she was nice and verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive when she wasn't.

Some highlights of the 40-ish years they were together before she passed away a few years ago:

- When I was in elementary school, my dad came to my mom's house to pick me up for the weekend. Since it was the 80s and there were no cell phones to create safe communication from a distance, my mom wanted my dad to come in the house without my stepmom to talk about when they would drop me off. My stepmom did not want my dad to go in without her. My mom closed the front door and my stepmom started pounding on the door and dropping f-bombs. My mom said if she didn't stop, she was calling the police. My stepmom didn't stop. My mom called the cops and told her so. After hearing that, my stepmom got back into their car and told the police she had been there the whole time and she had no idea why my mom called the cops. Years later, she would tell people that my mom called the cops on her for no reason.

- I think I was in junior high or high school when this happened. My dad took my half-brother (my stepmom's son) and I to an Amerks game. My half-brother got mad when my dad stopped giving him money for food. He called home to complain to his mom. When we got home, she was really drunk and started yelling at my dad. Then she started hitting him. My dad couldn't lift his arm above his head for three days afterward.

- I think I was in high school or college when this happened. My dad used to work 2nd shift. One evening, I was home with my stepmom and half-brother. My stepmom used to take a bath before bed all the time. The phone rang while she was in the bathtub and I answered it. It was her brother and he said the call could not wait. I went to the bathroom door and said her brother was on the phone and needed to talk to her. She said to bring the phone to her. I went into the bathroom and she was just laying in the tub fully naked. That is something that I cannot unsee.

- The last time I saw her was a few years ago and a little less than a year before she passed away. My wife and I went over to see them in the afternoon on Christmas Day. When we got there, she seemed drunk. The conversation was going OK until it came to what medications my estranged oldest kid was on. I haven't been really involved in his life, by their choice, for a number of years. Well, she got verbally abusive after I gave an answer that she did not like. So, I said that I wasn't going to take it and went out to the car. My wife came after me and said that it's Christmas and let's not leave like that. So, we went back in. Things were ok for a little and then they escalated again when my stepmom wanted to say all sorts of trash about my mom and how she treated my dad when they got divorced. I did not want to hear it and got up to leave again. This time she started grabbing me and hit me once or twice. I went out to the car again and locked the door. My stepmom followed me out and was at the driver's door yelling at me. My wife came out and I reached over and unlocked her door. She got in and noticed she closed her sweater in the door. Rather than just unlocking her door, she unlocked all the doors. My stepmom then opened my door and started yanking on my left arm. I told her to stop touching me. She yelled, while shaking my arm a few times, that she wasn't touching me until she let go. We finally left and went to go get Chinese food. While we were waiting for our food, I got a call from a blocked number that I let go to voicemail thinking it was my stepmom trying to yell at me. Laster my wife convinced me to listen to the message. It was a Monroe County Sheriff officer calling because my stepmom had called the cops on me after we left. We talked to her and she said that she felt my stepmom was drunk and that our story matched my dad's account of what happened. Then the next day I had family members reach out because my stepmom was saying that I had punched her and given her a black eye. Apparently after the sheriff was there, she fell and hit her head in her bedroom and gave herself a bad black eye. She told her doctor it was from me punching her, along with telling that story to friends and family. My dad explained to the doctor what really happened after my stepmom left the room. My wife said we would never be near her again unless she went to rehab, which she never did before she passed away.

 

[MarkusKetterer]

Okay, they have my attention.

I’ll check it out because I loved Justified, but I have a feeling I’ll be disappointed in this. I am not a fan of the blue filter to make it look dark and gritty though.

 

[ValJamesDuex]

Dlt

 

[Old Navy Goat]

Today sucked was a shit show from the start. Go to a restaurant then get a text that a package will be delivered. Here it's pretty much COD so get the food to go. The $5 package shows up almost 3 hours later. Tonight see a girl I'm in lust with. Get her a couple drinks then have to tell her sayonara as having an attack come on. Now laying in bed hoping it doesn't progress to the spend a week or two in bed with no food, at least caretaker is here so won't go 3 or 4 days with no water

 

[Chainshot]

Today sucked was a shit show from the start. Go to a restaurant then get a text that a package will be delivered. Here it's pretty much COD so get the food to go. The $5 package shows up almost 3 hours later. Tonight see a girl I'm in lust with. Get her a couple drinks then have to tell her sayonara as having an attack come on. Now laying in bed hoping it doesn't progress to the spend a week or two in bed with no food, at least caretaker is here so won't go 3 or 4 days with no water

f*** Chief, anything we can do to get you some food?

 

[Old Navy Goat]

You'd be surprised that after the 2nd day or so of not eating you really aren't hungry. I went 21 days in the house and 3 days in the hospital before i could eat during my huge attack back in October when my white blood count was over 10x the normal amount almost 4wks later. 2 weeks ago did 7 days no food but bounced back pretty quick from that

 

[TheMistyStranger]

For the past few New Year's Eve nights, my younger and I watch Into the Spider-Verse. Today is the day we've been waiting for...Spider-Verse 2 at 2:30! My younger and I don't always get along - they are too much like my wife, I think - so these opportunities are ones I cherish, where we can hopefully make a really positive memory.

 

[Chainshot]

You'd be surprised that after the 2nd day or so of not eating you really aren't hungry. I went 21 days in the house and 3 days in the hospital before i could eat during my huge attack back in October when my white blood count was over 10x the normal amount almost 4wks later. 2 weeks ago did 7 days no food but bounced back pretty quick from that

You okay Chief?

 

[slip]

Okay, they have my attention.

Definitely will be checking this out,

Also, highly recommend Mr. Inbetween on FX as well. Just burned through its 3 seasons last week. Damn shame they're not extending it beyond season 3.

 

[Dubi Doo]

If we are getting into crazy stepmom stories...

My parents got divorced when I was 2yo. My dad got remarried when I was 7. She was nice when she was nice and verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive when she wasn't.

Some highlights of the 40-ish years they were together before she passed away a few years ago:

- When I was in elementary school, my dad came to my mom's house to pick me up for the weekend. Since it was the 80s and there were no cell phones to create safe communication from a distance, my mom wanted my dad to come in the house without my stepmom to talk about when they would drop me off. My stepmom did not want my dad to go in without her. My mom closed the front door and my stepmom started pounding on the door and dropping f-bombs. My mom said if she didn't stop, she was calling the police. My stepmom didn't stop. My mom called the cops and told her so. After hearing that, my stepmom got back into their car and told the police she had been there the whole time and she had no idea why my mom called the cops. Years later, she would tell people that my mom called the cops on her for no reason.

- I think I was in junior high or high school when this happened. My dad took my half-brother (my stepmom's son) and I to an Amerks game. My half-brother got mad when my dad stopped giving him money for food. He called home to complain to his mom. When we got home, she was really drunk and started yelling at my dad. Then she started hitting him. My dad couldn't lift his arm above his head for three days afterward.

- I think I was in high school or college when this happened. My dad used to work 2nd shift. One evening, I was home with my stepmom and half-brother. My stepmom used to take a bath before bed all the time. The phone rang while she was in the bathtub and I answered it. It was her brother and he said the call could not wait. I went to the bathroom door and said her brother was on the phone and needed to talk to her. She said to bring the phone to her. I went into the bathroom and she was just laying in the tub fully naked. That is something that I cannot unsee.

- The last time I saw her was a few years ago and a little less than a year before she passed away. My wife and I went over to see them in the afternoon on Christmas Day. When we got there, she seemed drunk. The conversation was going OK until it came to what medications my estranged oldest kid was on. I haven't been really involved in his life, by their choice, for a number of years. Well, she got verbally abusive after I gave an answer that she did not like. So, I said that I wasn't going to take it and went out to the car. My wife came after me and said that it's Christmas and let's not leave like that. So, we went back in. Things were ok for a little and then they escalated again when my stepmom wanted to say all sorts of trash about my mom and how she treated my dad when they got divorced. I did not want to hear it and got up to leave again. This time she started grabbing me and hit me once or twice. I went out to the car again and locked the door. My stepmom followed me out and was at the driver's door yelling at me. My wife came out and I reached over and unlocked her door. She got in and noticed she closed her sweater in the door. Rather than just unlocking her door, she unlocked all the doors. My stepmom then opened my door and started yanking on my left arm. I told her to stop touching me. She yelled, while shaking my arm a few times, that she wasn't touching me until she let go. We finally left and went to go get Chinese food. While we were waiting for our food, I got a call from a blocked number that I let go to voicemail thinking it was my stepmom trying to yell at me. Laster my wife convinced me to listen to the message. It was a Monroe County Sheriff officer calling because my stepmom had called the cops on me after we left. We talked to her and she said that she felt my stepmom was drunk and that our story matched my dad's account of what happened. Then the next day I had family members reach out because my stepmom was saying that I had punched her and given her a black eye. Apparently after the sheriff was there, she fell and hit her head in her bedroom and gave herself a bad black eye. She told her doctor it was from me punching her, along with telling that story to friends and family. My dad explained to the doctor what really happened after my stepmom left the room. My wife said we would never be near her again unless she went to rehab, which she never did before she passed away.

Geez. That's rough. Seems like she had trouble controlling herself when she drank? Or was she always that way, and alcohol added fuel to the fire?

 

[Old Navy Goat]

I'm ok, a couple days in bed Netflix'ing and today will be relaxing at my friend's villa for Buddha day holiday ie no bars open. He and my manager Gus have a dozen girls lined up for swimming n feasting though I'll just be going from walker to lounger

 

[Old Navy Goat]

Today was weird, had the Aussies trying to explain the nuances of Australian Rules Football, while the Thai girls karaoke. It was pure caterwauling, almost excruciating. While this was going on had my caretaker rocking out the bikini and showing why the ex wanted her gone before her trip. Then my 18yo cherry girl gets shocked I can speak Thai and decides to spend hours cuddling up on the lounger and getting me food / drinks. Her 19yo 'cousin' tells me the 18yo wants to be my Mia Noi aka side chick, mistress as they think my caretaker is my girlfriend. Excusing the drama / headache of an 18yo, she works for me as part of the Burinam mafia with her 3 sisters and a half dozen 'cousins'

 

[TheMistyStranger]

Today was weird, had the Aussies trying to explain the nuances of Australian Rules Football, while the Thai girls karaoke. It was pure caterwauling, almost excruciating. While this was going on had my caretaker rocking out the bikini and showing why the ex wanted her gone before her trip. Then my 18yo cherry girl gets shocked I can speak Thai and decides to spend hours cuddling up on the lounger and getting me food / drinks. Her 19yo 'cousin' tells me the 18yo wants to be my Mia Noi aka side chick, mistress as they think my caretaker is my girlfriend. Excusing the drama / headache of an 18yo, she works for me as part of the Burinam mafia with her 3 sisters and a half dozen 'cousins'

It occurs to me that you're like a real life Sam Axe. Or what Sam Axe wishes he was.

 

[Jim Bob]

Geez. That's rough. Seems like she had trouble controlling herself when she drank? Or was she always that way, and alcohol added fuel to the fire?

I would be surprised if she was drunk the time my mom had to call the cops on her.

It was just who she was and the substances did not help.

 

[Jim Bob]

As a D3 lax dad, this play was awesome.

The announcer jinx was the chef's kiss.

 

[Sabresfansince1980]

Of all the middle aged posters here with both parents still alive and kids, how many of you have reached the point where your parents are more of a problem than your kids? I'm there, probably been there for a bit.

Kid is graduating HS and about to leave for college in a few months. She can learn quickly and abruptly about all the things she hasn't paid enough attention to me for the last couple years (what it means to be truly dedicated to work/school, finances, budgeting, living healthy, etc). Meanwhile, my parents seem more than willing to fill the gap when my daughter leaves, with a lack of awareness or perspective, health, finances...whatever comes next, who knows.

When family doesn't seem to care enough about their health, or plays the "tough it out" routine to the point if asinine stupidity, ending up worse off than if they just addressed the problem appropriately and on time, it's hard to get worked up and care when things go south. It's like watching a drug addict who won't seek treatment, it's just self-destruction painted on a different canvas.

 

[Jim Bob]

Of all the middle aged posters here with both parents still alive and kids, how many of you have reached the point where your parents are more of a problem than your kids? I'm there, probably been there for a bit.

Kid is graduating HS and about to leave for college in a few months. She can learn quickly and abruptly about all the things she hasn't paid enough attention to me for the last couple years (what it means to be truly dedicated to work/school, finances, budgeting, living healthy, etc). Meanwhile, my parents seem more than willing to fill the gap when my daughter leaves, with a lack of awareness or perspective, health, finances...whatever comes next, who knows.

When family doesn't seem to care enough about their health, or plays the "tough it out" routine to the point if asinine stupidity, ending up worse off than if they just addressed the problem appropriately and on time, it's hard to get worked up and care when things go south. It's like watching a drug addict who won't seek treatment, it's just self-destruction painted on a different canvas.

I am lucky that my parents and my MIL are all still pretty good. My parents will turn 76 & 74 this year and my MIL is older than they are.

My parents are both nurses, so I am not too worried about them taking medical stuff seriously. My MIL has a fair number of medical issues, but she takes them seriously.

 

[Sabresfansince1980]

I am lucky that my parents and my MIL are all still pretty good. My parents will turn 76 & 74 this year and my MIL is older than they are.

My parents are both nurses, so I am not too worried about them taking medical stuff seriously. My MIL has a fair number of medical issues, but she takes them seriously.

Good for them. My in-laws are both dead and took much the same approach as my parents are now. I used to get frustrated but it's reached a point that I can only shake my head. I've already accepted that they will never take my word or advice, not even when it's in the area of my profession, and refuse to accept that they can't blow health concerns off at their age. I just wait for the phone call that one of them is dead. For now, one is just in the hospital and will miss my daughter's graduation, simply from ignoring fairly obvious symptoms for 3-4 days (like puking bile).

I learned a long time ago just how tough I am, but I've never felt the need to prove it by ignoring obvious medical concerns.

 

[Jim Bob]

Good for them. My in-laws are both dead and took much the same approach as my parents are now. I used to get frustrated but it's reached a point that I can only shake my head. I've already accepted that they will never take my word or advice, not even when it's in the area of my profession, and refuse to accept that they can't blow health concerns off at their age. I just wait for the phone call that one of them is dead. For now, one is just in the hospital and will miss my daughter's graduation, simply from ignoring fairly obvious symptoms for 3-4 days (like puking bile).

I learned a long time ago just how tough I am, but I've never felt the need to prove it by ignoring obvious medical concerns.

The most recent scare was when my dad actually called an ambulance in the middle of the night and went to the ED for what ended up being a small bowel obstruction.

Most of his issues so far have been orthopedic and led to a variety of surgeries over the past few years. And my mom has had skin cancer stuff she has had to deal with.