Gentle ribbing up to moderate insults are a perfectly normal part of male socialization. Almost all of us have experienced this in some way or another, whether its calling your buddies losers when you greet them, calling your team board morons when they shoot down your hot take, or the gruff old fart (see what I did there?) at work seeing what you’re made of.
There are taboos and limits in this insulting of course, close knit friends can say just about anything, while opponents on a hockey rink are gonna get big mad real quickly, and insults can escalate to bullying and abuse, but that’s literally the nuance that socialization is about.
Stuff like the OHL’s decision here is just so darn goofy, because it’s trying to legislate this normal behaviour out of a normal place to exhibit this behaviour. Some guys are douchebags, Tony DeAngelo springs to mind (I did it again!), but the majority of guys who talk shit would turn around and buy beers all night for their opponent during the offseason. Does the OHL actually think they’re making the game safer for the players? Are they trying to avoid the softies in society getting up in arms about this sort of stuff? Because the bulk of hockey fans (as evidenced by this thread and anyone I’ve ever talked hockey with) don’t care or more actively think the league is ridiculous for making rules like this.
If your rec league wants to have rules like this, fine, whatever. But a semi-pro sports league that feeds young men into a professional entertainment product should let the young men act like young men. They’re going to want to fight and call each other p***y. Let them, because a whole lot of us WANT that edge to our entertainment.
There are taboos and limits in this insulting of course, close knit friends can say just about anything, while opponents on a hockey rink are gonna get big mad real quickly, and insults can escalate to bullying and abuse, but that’s literally the nuance that socialization is about.
Stuff like the OHL’s decision here is just so darn goofy, because it’s trying to legislate this normal behaviour out of a normal place to exhibit this behaviour. Some guys are douchebags, Tony DeAngelo springs to mind (I did it again!), but the majority of guys who talk shit would turn around and buy beers all night for their opponent during the offseason. Does the OHL actually think they’re making the game safer for the players? Are they trying to avoid the softies in society getting up in arms about this sort of stuff? Because the bulk of hockey fans (as evidenced by this thread and anyone I’ve ever talked hockey with) don’t care or more actively think the league is ridiculous for making rules like this.
If your rec league wants to have rules like this, fine, whatever. But a semi-pro sports league that feeds young men into a professional entertainment product should let the young men act like young men. They’re going to want to fight and call each other p***y. Let them, because a whole lot of us WANT that edge to our entertainment.