PunchImlach is Alive
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I would be really cautious about judging a better course of action based on some YouTube videos which can cause a lot of paranoia and fear. Or the reverse by giving you a false sense of security because you may have seen a few tips online.I can't speak to how many comments are saying one thing or another, but I am all for people being gently/appropriately reminded to be aware of their surroundings.
I've seen one to many videos on YouTube of people being in dangerous settings, looking down at their phone as they walk, and then not seeing the car pull up and the people quickly jumping out to kidnap her, until it's too late.
Far too many.
Or the ones in a bar setting, where people are having drinks, when one aggressively postured person walks in and towards a group of people, only to pull out his gun and kill one. Had a few people not been as drunk, or payed slightly more attention to their surroundings, both of these settings, with videos you can look up on YouTube, would have an increased probability of not occurring.
Gentle reminders to pay more attention to our surroundings are not in high enough quantity in my view. There are far too many videos of people ending up in harms way, when they may have been able to escape it.
In regards to the girl, and what allegedly happened, perhaps she may have perceived the boy texting others in a suspicious manner, picked up on behavioral queus that he was giving off, ominous snickering coming from the room, or even had been more consciously aware to start yelling and screaming for help in a seriously aggressive way.
We just don't know.
What I know for absolute certain, is that she would have stood a higher probability of success, much higher, if she was not exceedingly drunk, as some here have alluded to. I don't know how true that is, we won't know how true any of this is until hearing the evidence.
It is of course entirely the boys fault, if she was truly assualted, and at a more macro level, the environment that they were raised in, their fathers, etc. Those are good points that you made. Those environments have a great impact on how people can be made evil.
Your post is the first I've seen mention that.
I live in NYC. I hear from all sorts of people who don't live here how dangerous it is based on what they see on the internet and given all sorts of safety tips that are outrageously naive. Quite frankly this is the safest place I've ever lived to almost a comical degree.
Point being, you can take every precaution you want to protect yourself but if someone wants to hurt you or take advantage of you, they are going to try and find a way to hurt you or take advantage of you. Those people come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, colors, backgrounds, and situations. Most victims of a crime aren't drunk. They almost never see it coming. Most perpetrators of a crime aren't drunk. They just do what they know or think they can get away with.
In this specific case, would a lack of alcohol really change anything? She went to her room consensually with one person. Even if that was done completely sober, it really doesn't absolve inviting a handful of your buddies into the room. At that point, there's a significant imbalance of power happening. You don't completely know what those people are going to do. In any situation, sober or not, someone suddenly surrounds you with a bunch of their friends and you're alone in a room with all of them, it's very easy to see how someone could get coerced into doing something they may not be thrilled about participating in. She didn't decide to be in that situation. The people accused did what they knew or thought they could get away with.
We can't expect women to act like detectives or Liam Neeson just because they have a few drinks at a bar and go home with someone. It's unrealistic and not on them to have that extra homework. If it was really 8 men involved, well then you have at least 8 circumstances where men failed. It could be parenting, role models, holding each other accountable, etc. Take your pick.
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