I get the criticism of the way Matthews looks and the way he carries himself. I am straight, white, 50 year old man with grey hair in a position of perceived power by virtue of my profession. I am the thing that everyone in society is now taught to hate. I think the porn star moustache and man purse look ridiculous. But I also know that a person isn't defined, and can't be judged, by what he, she (sigh...or "they") looks like. The truth is that leadership isn't defined by an individual's actual traits, behaviour or characteristics. Whether sports, war, business or anything else, it's defined by who wins. The world doesn't celebrate the leadership qualities of a loser. It's just the way it is.
Yes, Matthews' look and his obsession for attention and odd fashion is indeed weird, but no one would care if he was scoring like Leon Draisiatl in the playoffs. Until he does though, it comes off as immature and bizarre in a Sean Avery / Patrik Laine sort of way.
We still disagree on the leadership aspect though. The 1987 Philadelphia Flyers are one of the most popular teams in the city of Philadelphia and they lost the Cup. But they were a group of scrappy, heart and soul players who took the iconic Oilers machine to Game 7 with a rookie goalie in Ron Hextall and without their best forward, Tim Kerr. To this day, that team is beloved in Philly for their leadership and fight. The same way Wendel Clark walks on water in Toronto. I vehemently disagree about winning vs. losing being the
ultimate decider -- there's so much more that goes into the secret sauce we call
great leadership.
Let's be brutally honest here. Let's say the results are the same -- 1 playoff round win in 7 years. But, here's what Matthews did (or does):
1. Plays completely out of his mind and scores 9 goals and 12 assists in 12 hard-fought playoff games
(which is less than Draisaitl's 32 in 16 playoff games).
2. Skips the Bieber show, and public hoopla, after a disappointing playoff bounce.
3. Openly challenges his teammates to spend the offseason getting in great shape, improving their diets, and coming back next year with a chip on their shoulders.
4. Commits to the Leafs for 8 years and clearly leaves money on the table so they can build a better team around him.
If he does those ^ things do we, or do we not, have a completely different opinion of him as a player, person, and
leader? Of course we do. Not only do we have a different opinion of him, but
more importantly, he sets the cultural tone for the entire organization the way players like Yzerman and Stevens did for the Wings and Devils.
Only 1 team out of 32 can win a Cup each year. Leadership is not solely defined by overcoming extreme odds and winning a title. It encompasses decision making, courage, selflessness, putting the team first, displaying character, heart, engaging in warfare when necessary, motivating and inspiring your teammates, and ultimately leading by example and producing at an elite level when it matters most. When it comes to
leadership, or lack of, Matthews is punching his own ticket, not Lord Stanley of Preston.