Oh, I remember the conundrum you presented when I was trying to moderate this board. You don’t have to tell me.Community is important. I'm not here to disrupt. I felt obligated to explain since I left five years ago without explanation, but to be clear I wouldn't name the person if I were asked in DM. Let the community be. That can easily be achieved for a couple weeks. For a lot of reasons I see more clearly now my personality is reactive to abuse, often with inappropriate amounts of force. I live with one of the wisest people you could imagine and I'm learning a lot from her. I have dogs now. I also smoke about an eighth of the finest flower on the planet every day. Things could be a lot worse.
I took our 3 dogs to the groomer yesterday. The 3-4 hours they were gone felt very wrong.