hello, yes I registered just for this.
I am a female person. I have played on both male and female teams (the former with checking) in middle and high school.
I vastly preferred hockey with checking. It helped that there was y'know more than one team in a fifty mile radius too,
Yes there was one female team anywhere near me. with probably 25 players ranging from age 12-50. Of the few players we had about 5 could barely skate at all. I can understand why there was no checking.
At the same time I was also playing in the club league, which has 4-6 teams depending on age group and year. I played with checking and I loved it. Now, I stopped growing at 5'3 so some of that whole physical disparity came into play, but, honestly, checking really wasn't the problem. One game in particular I remember I got hit by the biggest kid in the league (He was about 6 inches taller than anyone else and a foot taller than me) I saw him coming, still got quite flattened, and was on the ice for a second before I got back up and kept playing because somehow my magic ladybones did not disintegrate on contact. My problems were far more the fact that I was 5'3 with stubby legs and not particularly athletic, so I was not fast.
So with that said, why did I eventually stop playing Hockey with the boys team? Well, they decided to switch setups so that the hockey teams were through the public school, there was now one team I could be on. I went to the first practice, we did semi-tryouts and were then split into two groups. I actually did pretty, well not the best but firmly in the mid range. I got put with the group that had people who couldn't skate. Meanwhile, there were people I had definitely done better than in the other group. I actually went up and asked the assistant coach why I was in the group I was in, and he told me that I definitely could have been in the other group, but the coach wanted me to help the boys who couldn't skate... So yeah, I didn't join the team.
TL;DR Actual lady here, with boobs and everything, I think it's ******** that there's no checking in women's hockey
and seriously I live in Upstate New York, how are there not more women's rec league hockey teams, I just made myself really depressed