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[Bruinaura]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

 

[shelbysdad]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

I really like how we have an outlet here to vent.....like having friends to talk to but there is no danger of things getting back to someone we don't want to hear it

A very supportive an non-judgemental group. (except when it comes to Grz lol)

 

[BMC]

It's true, I vent here because a) you all are so supportive and b) I know it won't leave the board.

 

[quietbruinfan]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

I get it, but in your stepfather's defense some hyper-rational people just believe that some sort of reasoning will get to someone on some level. I am like this. While I have never dealt with people with dementia, I have dealt with some autistic people and those with Pejorative Sluration etc and the reasoning technique did not work well for me fwiw. My guess is it is as much a matter of thought process as acceptance. He may have to accept and change his thinking process both.

 

[TheGreenTBer]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

I also have a relative with dementia and I always just go with what he's talking about conversation-wise unless it's an actual safety concern.

It's no use stressing them out in that state. Let them live out their lives in peace.

 

[BigBadBruins7708]

Only in Vegas... we get the weirdest news stories out here

Catalytic converter stolen from Oscar Mayer Wienermobile in Las Vegas

Catalytic converter theft in the Las Vegas valley put the bite on the Oscar Mayer Wienermobile early Friday.

www.8newsnow.com

 

[Gordoff]

Proud dad alert

My 10 year old came home Wednesday, crying over her math test today. After giving her a bowl of Frosted Flakes i sat her down at the table and we calmed down together, then i had her show me what we were up against: Fractions.

So she walks me through the easier methods and then we did the harder ones together. I was never taught this math so it took me a minute to pick it up. I then showed her easier ways to get the answers or at least get in the ballpark, and while she’s “not allowed” to do it my way she can at least do it to check her work once she does it the new way.

I think teaching me helped her 100x over. She was much more confident, and smiling with me within an hour. Last night she FaceTime calls me and asks if i can help her study again. So for 40 minutes or so we stayed on the phone and repeated our work from Wednesday but with new numbers that she had me make up.

This morning she sends me a text before heading off to school thanking me for helping her, and that she loves me. I’ve been walking on air all day because of it and i can’t wait to get her off the bus to ask her about fractions.

This sounds a lot like when my daughter was growing up. I was a single dad at the time and NOPE, no Facetime etc. She stayed at the "ex's" on weekends but got homework on Friday so on Friday nights we spent time on the phone, a lot of time. She took all of her schoolwork so seriously. Today she's a teacher and is married to a school principal.
I was babysitting my 2 granddaughters when my 11 y.o. grandson (who is an A student) came home and was stuck on math problems. I know nothing of the Common Core methods that they use and when I tried helping him it was the same story "we're not allowed to do it that way." I showed him that it worked and (as you said) offered it to him as a secondary way of checking his work but no, he didn't want to know about it. Stubborn kid!

 

[TD Charlie]

This sounds a lot like when my daughter was growing up. I was a single dad at the time and NOPE, no Facetime etc. She stayed at the "ex's" on weekends but got homework on Friday so on Friday nights we spent time on the phone, a lot of time. She took all of her schoolwork so seriously. Today she's a teacher and is married to a school principal.
I was babysitting my 2 granddaughters when my 11 y.o. grandson (who is an A student) came home and was stuck on math problems. I know nothing of the Common Core methods that they use and when I tried helping him it was the same story "we're not allowed to do it that way." I showed him that it worked and (as you said) offered it to him as a secondary way of checking his work but no, he didn't want to know about it. Stubborn kid!

It’s maddening! I like to think that these asinine methods and half pages of extra steps are to provide a better payoff when they encounter more difficult problems years later. Still, seems like a very round about way to solve one third of one half

 

[Gordoff]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

Been there with my dad. It's a tough road to go down. It's kinda shitty that he does that but I guess if you're with someone all day, no matter how much you love them, after a while (you) get edgy. My mother used to get pretty ryled up at my father but it wasn't his fault. When she died suddenly, he pretty much surrendered to the Alzheimer's and stayed in bed all day. No need to go over the rest of the story but maybe there are support groups etc that they can enroll in that can help him cope with this. I wish you well.

 

[Kate08]

Sending you hugs and strength, BruinsAura.

 

[caz16]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

I understand, it is hard on people in so many ways. This is a great place to vent, I've done it a lot recently.

Even my Mom, who was the most patient, loving person, got very frustrated with my Dad's aphasia - we had a speech therapist who taught us how to help him and one was not saying the words for him before he could work around to what he was trying to say. My Mom just couldn't wait, kept filling in the words for him and it made him angry, then he got even worse.

Hugs to you, hang in there, and vent away whenever you need to.

 

[08SeaBass08]

To everyone here who's struggling, and it seems like a lot these days, please know that someone you've never met is feeling it for you. Far, far more than I post.

 

[Alicat]

Ended up at my PCP’s office yesterday because I can’t ditch this barking cough. While it is better from when I was sick, it isn’t fully gone and gets going the second I do any light exercise. They told me I have no infection and my lungs are clear but that I have post illness cough. My bronchials are still inflamed hence the cough.

They gave me a steroid inhaler and I am just hoping my stupid insurance company actually approves it as they keep saying I need prior authorization on them which is something new. If not, I’ll have the cough until it goes away on its own.

Pretty sure they’re playing games because I hit my deductible already due to needing a diagnostic mammogram after my initial one. They don’t want me going over my out of pocket max too early. I’m at the point where if I don’t get my meds then I’m going to be forced to go to the AG.

Edit: My insurance has decided to play God again with my second prescription so it is costing me $350 out of pocket for my medication. Monday is going to be fun.

 

[Drift]

How do you guys go about watching the bruins these days? Do you have a ton of different streaming services? Is there one that catches all the games? Trying to figure out how to best watch and its far more annoying than it used to be.

 

[GahdenRinkRat]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

A caregiver’s support group can be very helpful, no matter what stage of dementia the loved one is in. Saw far too much of the family consequences of dementia with my Dad and both my parents in law. One thing that stuck with me was seeing the staff at the nursing home that my father was in talk with other residents. I’m a social worker and I asked them how they coped with answering the same questions all day long. Basically the answer was the “little white lie” is your friend, unless there is a safety issue, just go along with the conversation. One little lady(probably 90 years old) would come to the nurses station several times per hour, all dressed up with white gloves and purse, asking when her mother was coming to pick her up, staff unfailingly gave some version of “probably just bad traffic, I’m sure she’ll be along soon,” this soothed the woman’s anxiety and didn’t hurt anyone.
Alzheimer’s society has some great pamphlets for family on how to cope with this loss, what my mother called “the long goodbye “

 

[TD Charlie]

How do you guys go about watching the bruins these days? Do you have a ton of different streaming services? Is there one that catches all the games? Trying to figure out how to best watch and its far more annoying than it used to be.

I spend my life savings on comcast

 

[Kovi]

Sometimes doing the most kind thing can feel a betrayal because we are wired to "save and fix".
I don't think we are ever given all the tools to deal will illness and aging.

Love to all who are coping anyway you can. You're supported.

 

[Ludwig Fell Down]

My stepfather insists on trying to reason with my mom, who has dementia. She does not remember she lives in Florida. She thinks she lives in Maryland. I can be talking to her on the phone, and she'll say they are at home, and he just has to interject "tell your mother where she lives, in Florida!!"

Look, I get the frustration. Sure, it's hard that she can't remember anymore. But how hard is it to just let her think she lives in Maryland? What's the harm? He just instigates and then she gets frustrated and then she says he's being bossy and then he gets frustrated. Which could all be avoided if he wasn't insistent on reminding her she's in Florida, which she is mentally incapable of remembering.

AAAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry. Just had to vent and I can't do it on Facebook, and Daisy's tired of hearing me yell at the four walls.

Glad you are able to vent.

My wife teaches art to different populations including those with dementia. She has been advised by their staff to just roll with conversations. No one wins if you are trying to correct them.

The suggestion for a support group is a good one.

 

[WestCoastBruinsFan]

My daughter seems to think the cheapest unlimited phone plan you can get in the US is $70. Is that true?

 

[DarrenBanks56]

My daughter seems to think the cheapest unlimited phone plan you can get in the US is $70. Is that true?

there are alot for $30 usd for sure

 

[BMC]

Kitten Bowl is back!!!!

2023 Kitten Bowl will air 10:30AM on Great American Family channel

Meow!!!

 

[Alicat]

Titanic in 3D 4K was fantastic. Superb casting and acting by Bill Paxton, Victor Garber, Kathy Bates and Frances Fisher. Also great to see Eric Braedon as John Jacob Astor.

Kate Winslet was perfect as Rose.

I can see why 15 year old Alicat loved Leonardo DiCaprio.

 

[Ladyfan]

I think my clutch blew.

My Accord won't move when I shift.

Time for a new car.

We went to see the Tom Petty cover band and they were quite good!

 

[Ladyfan]

Well, I did it. I put a deposit on a new car. My Honda is stuck in my driveway needing either a clutch or transmission. It is 13+ years old and I don't want to put more money in it.

My new car is in port and I should have it within 2 weeks. I am nervous about car payments as it has been many years since I have had them.

My new car...

 

[Gee Wally]

Well, I did it. I put a deposit on a new car. My Honda is stuck in my driveway needing either a clutch or transmission. It is 13+ years old and I don't want to put more money in it.

My new car is in port and I should have it within 2 weeks. I am nervous about car payments as it has been many years since I have had them.

My new car...

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Congratulations! Good luck with it. I know youve been on the fence for quite some time now.