OT: Relationship Advice Thread

[Larrybiv]

I've wanted to start this thread for the longest time but I wasn't sure what the mods would say. So, I've been talking to this girl from bumble, just texting and video calls for about 6 weeks. We haven't met in real life and the conversation is super casual. Today I saw she deleted her bumble account. I wonder if that means anything. I guess some people don't love bumble and it could have nothing to do with me.

I'm LATE in reading this thread (what else is new?) But, my HIGHLIGHTED sentence above is what I would like to expound on. Please, please read through my sentiments, it very well could come in handy and SAVE you from what I experienced first hand.

Will try to be concise as I possibly could.

I received a text from someone that claimed she met and knew me from work. (I WAS a Residential Building Manager in Boca Raton, Fl.) Notice I said "WAS".
After originally giving her the 3rd degree, she convinced me that "WE" knew all the same people that did the Managing of finances for the building. Okay, fine.

We started to have a phone texting relationship, where at some point I grew tired of it and wanted to meet her. Hell, we NEVER even had a phone conversation. (Which, btw was my first "red flag". She stated over and over again that she "wasn't ready" to meet me. (She had mentioned she was a bit over weight, and wanted to fix that before meeting me) I fell for that hook, line and sinker.

She claimed she was 48 (I am 63) and was a Supervisor for 10 banks here in South Florida and making $200G's a year. Okay fine, that doesn't impress me. Money isn't everything. Eventually she sent me some XXX photos (and yes, I knew that could be anyone off the internet) and then she convinced me to do the same. (I sent a few of my XXX, sorry for the visual) AND just one (shirtless) pic that she insisted I take at WORK, 30 minutes before leaving for the day, was sent to her. Anyway, moving on.

After a few months, I finally had enough and told her that. (Yes, I was having fun with the thought of it, all along) She got ANGRY, told me I was verbally abusive (trying to end it, in which I was not) and probably physically abusive to women as well..........and told me if I ever text her again, she would call the Police. Of course I never texted her again, but archived the conversation. (Thank God, because that became MY PROOF).

3 months rolled by, (I figured it was a done deal) and then I get a phone text from someone "claiming to be the MOTHER of a 16 yr. old." and that she had plans of calling the police and that I would be facing 10-15 years of imprisonment.

Needless to say, I was scared shitless OUT of MY MIND, even though I knew I was innocent based on the FACT that she had told me she was 48 and making 200G's per year. (What 16 yr. old would have that?) eventually the "End Game" came, where the "Mother" said; "maybe we can work this out to keep you out of jail".
THAT was what I was waiting for! I went directly to BSO (Broward Sheriff's Office) and claiming my innnocence, and showing all of the texting between us.

They proclaimed me innocent, and a victim of what they call "Catfishing". Hell, if I knew what that was. I'm NOT 25. Thing is, I LOST my job, because they sent that pic to my President and the Mother (supposed, Mother) claimed I was f***ing around with a 16 yr old. Was fired on the spot with NO EXPLANATION, when I asked WHY after 5 years of loyalty.

These 38 residents, loved and respected me, but then this happened. This was my "personal life" but it found its way into my job. Losing my job was one thing, but LOSING the respect of everyone that thought I could do this, goes well beyond $$.

Speaking of money, I've been having the darndest time finding a lawyer for all of this. I lost future wages as I would have worked till 67-70. This adventure has forced me to retire prematurely (in my mind), as I don't even have an explanation to give to a future employer, as I wasn't given a legitimate reason as to WHY I was fired.

Moral of MY story, be careful people. There are heathens out there, trying to blackmail you if given the opportunity. Please send me PM's, if you have any suggestions, or thoughts that you don't want to put up here. Thanks, Larry

 

[Larrybiv]

My girlfriend does this with me as well, lol. She wasn't into baseball, hockey, or basketball much before we started dating (she was always a football fan and an Eagles fan). I've gotten her into baseball and basketball and is basically a Yankees and Knicks fan. However, I don't think I'll ever be able to get her into hockey much, haha.

Make a win win deal with her. Ask her to trade OFF the Knicks, in exchange for following YOUR Rangers. Also, has she EVER been to an NHL game? Taking her "should" get her to experience the REAL nuances of NHL play. The TV cannot show everything. Cannot overemphasize the experience of live play, to really get someone interested. I have "influenced"quite a few, and now lifelong hockey fans. Btw, if you can EVER get something really close to behind the net (while freezing your asses off) lends to the experience. Good luck!

 

[Rangerfan4life90]

Make a win win deal with her. Ask her to trade OFF the Knicks, in exchange for following YOUR Rangers. Also, has she EVER been to an NHL game? Taking her "should" get her to experience the REAL nuances of NHL play. The TV cannot show everything. Cannot overemphasize the experience of live play, to really get someone interested. I have "influenced"quite a few, and now lifelong hockey fans. Btw, if you can EVER get something really close to behind the net (while freezing your asses off) lends to the experience. Good luck!

Yeah, I've told her that going to a hockey game (especially VIP seating, but even just in general) is a night and day experience than watching it on TV. Her main issue is that the speed of a hockey game is too quick for her and she often loses track of the puck on TV, lol. Not as bad since we moved in together and bought a nice bigger OLED tv, but still happens.

 

[Unpredictable1]

I'm LATE in reading this thread (what else is new?) But, my HIGHLIGHTED sentence above is what I would like to expound on. Please, please read through my sentiments, it very well could come in handy and SAVE you from what I experienced first hand.

Will try to be concise as I possibly could.

I received a text from someone that claimed she met and knew me from work. (I WAS a Residential Building Manager in Boca Raton, Fl.) Notice I said "WAS".
After originally giving her the 3rd degree, she convinced me that "WE" knew all the same people that did the Managing of finances for the building. Okay, fine.

We started to have a phone texting relationship, where at some point I grew tired of it and wanted to meet her. Hell, we NEVER even had a phone conversation. (Which, btw was my first "red flag". She stated over and over again that she "wasn't ready" to meet me. (She had mentioned she was a bit over weight, and wanted to fix that before meeting me) I fell for that hook, line and sinker.

She claimed she was 48 (I am 63) and was a Supervisor for 10 banks here in South Florida and making $200G's a year. Okay fine, that doesn't impress me. Money isn't everything. Eventually she sent me some XXX photos (and yes, I knew that could be anyone off the internet) and then she convinced me to do the same. (I sent a few of my XXX, sorry for the visual) AND just one (shirtless) pic that she insisted I take at WORK, 30 minutes before leaving for the day, was sent to her. Anyway, moving on.

After a few months, I finally had enough and told her that. (Yes, I was having fun with the thought of it, all along) She got ANGRY, told me I was verbally abusive (trying to end it, in which I was not) and probably physically abusive to women as well..........and told me if I ever text her again, she would call the Police. Of course I never texted her again, but archived the conversation. (Thank God, because that became MY PROOF).

3 months rolled by, (I figured it was a done deal) and then I get a phone text from someone "claiming to be the MOTHER of a 16 yr. old." and that she had plans of calling the police and that I would be facing 10-15 years of imprisonment.

Needless to say, I was scared shitless OUT of MY MIND, even though I knew I was innocent based on the FACT that she had told me she was 48 and making 200G's per year. (What 16 yr. old would have that?) eventually the "End Game" came, where the "Mother" said; "maybe we can work this out to keep you out of jail".
THAT was what I was waiting for! I went directly to BSO (Broward Sheriff's Office) and claiming my innnocence, and showing all of the texting between us.

They proclaimed me innocent, and a victim of what they call "Catfishing". Hell, if I knew what that was. I'm NOT 25. Thing is, I LOST my job, because they sent that pic to my President and the Mother (supposed, Mother) claimed I was f***ing around with a 16 yr old. Was fired on the spot with NO EXPLANATION, when I asked WHY after 5 years of loyalty.

These 38 residents, loved and respected me, but then this happened. This was my "personal life" but it found its way into my job. Losing my job was one thing, but LOSING the respect of everyone that thought I could do this, goes well beyond $$.

Speaking of money, I've been having the darndest time finding a lawyer for all of this. I lost future wages as I would have worked till 67-70. This adventure has forced me to retire prematurely (in my mind), as I don't even have an explanation to give to a future employer, as I wasn't given a legitimate reason as to WHY I was fired.

Moral of MY story, be careful people. There are heathens out there, trying to blackmail you if given the opportunity. Please send me PM's, if you have any suggestions, or thoughts that you don't want to put up here. Thanks, Larry

My man, that is some truly heavy shit. I am speechless.

 

[DevilDog99]

What play?

I think it’s something to do with golf

The only advice I could give is look outside of the US, lol. Women in NYC are toxic AF. Maybe look for immigrants. Without coming off offensive, it seems like in NYC there are a lot of women that either are looking for Wall Street Bankers or just downright hate men because equality or something.

Yea agreed. I think it depends on where in nyc too- most women here basically have that “f*** off” face and attitude.

That said, my neighborhood now (BayRidge) everyone is friendlier. It’s just more normal to talk to people. Some of the the snottier neighborhoods in Manhattan and Brooklyn, FUGHHHGETAAABOUT IT

 

[DevilDog99]

You guys look great together. Ready for a NYR commercial!

Haha thanks bud.

 

[KirkAlbuquerque]

I'm LATE in reading this thread (what else is new?) But, my HIGHLIGHTED sentence above is what I would like to expound on. Please, please read through my sentiments, it very well could come in handy and SAVE you from what I experienced first hand.

Will try to be concise as I possibly could.

I received a text from someone that claimed she met and knew me from work. (I WAS a Residential Building Manager in Boca Raton, Fl.) Notice I said "WAS".
After originally giving her the 3rd degree, she convinced me that "WE" knew all the same people that did the Managing of finances for the building. Okay, fine.

We started to have a phone texting relationship, where at some point I grew tired of it and wanted to meet her. Hell, we NEVER even had a phone conversation. (Which, btw was my first "red flag". She stated over and over again that she "wasn't ready" to meet me. (She had mentioned she was a bit over weight, and wanted to fix that before meeting me) I fell for that hook, line and sinker.

She claimed she was 48 (I am 63) and was a Supervisor for 10 banks here in South Florida and making $200G's a year. Okay fine, that doesn't impress me. Money isn't everything. Eventually she sent me some XXX photos (and yes, I knew that could be anyone off the internet) and then she convinced me to do the same. (I sent a few of my XXX, sorry for the visual) AND just one (shirtless) pic that she insisted I take at WORK, 30 minutes before leaving for the day, was sent to her. Anyway, moving on.

After a few months, I finally had enough and told her that. (Yes, I was having fun with the thought of it, all along) She got ANGRY, told me I was verbally abusive (trying to end it, in which I was not) and probably physically abusive to women as well..........and told me if I ever text her again, she would call the Police. Of course I never texted her again, but archived the conversation. (Thank God, because that became MY PROOF).

3 months rolled by, (I figured it was a done deal) and then I get a phone text from someone "claiming to be the MOTHER of a 16 yr. old." and that she had plans of calling the police and that I would be facing 10-15 years of imprisonment.

Needless to say, I was scared shitless OUT of MY MIND, even though I knew I was innocent based on the FACT that she had told me she was 48 and making 200G's per year. (What 16 yr. old would have that?) eventually the "End Game" came, where the "Mother" said; "maybe we can work this out to keep you out of jail".
THAT was what I was waiting for! I went directly to BSO (Broward Sheriff's Office) and claiming my innnocence, and showing all of the texting between us.

They proclaimed me innocent, and a victim of what they call "Catfishing". Hell, if I knew what that was. I'm NOT 25. Thing is, I LOST my job, because they sent that pic to my President and the Mother (supposed, Mother) claimed I was f***ing around with a 16 yr old. Was fired on the spot with NO EXPLANATION, when I asked WHY after 5 years of loyalty.

These 38 residents, loved and respected me, but then this happened. This was my "personal life" but it found its way into my job. Losing my job was one thing, but LOSING the respect of everyone that thought I could do this, goes well beyond $$.

Speaking of money, I've been having the darndest time finding a lawyer for all of this. I lost future wages as I would have worked till 67-70. This adventure has forced me to retire prematurely (in my mind), as I don't even have an explanation to give to a future employer, as I wasn't given a legitimate reason as to WHY I was fired.

Moral of MY story, be careful people. There are heathens out there, trying to blackmail you if given the opportunity. Please send me PM's, if you have any suggestions, or thoughts that you don't want to put up here. Thanks, Larry

God, that sucks I’m sorry.

When did this happen? You’ve got a I have some legal recourse re: your job, that’s such bullshit

 

[Ben Grimm]

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My son asked me what the best part of marriage is. I told him when your wife is not speaking to you but has to have sex with you because she's craving the electric toothbrush treatment.

Guillermo revealed on Fallon that he lost his virginity at 14 to the maid. idk if I've ever done anything that wicked but when I was 15 my aunt played spin the bottle with me and it was awesome, baby! Mama told me not to come.

 

[KirkAlbuquerque]

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My son asked me what the best part of marriage is. I told him when your wife is not speaking to you but has to have sex with you because she's craving the electric toothbrush treatment.

Guillermo revealed on Fallon that he lost his virginity at 14 to the maid. idk if I've ever done anything that wicked but when I was 15 my aunt played spin the bottle with me and it was awesome, baby! Mama told me not to come.

Three Dog Night, isn’t that the guy who claimed he split his dong in half due to too much Groupie sex

 

[GoAwayPanarin]

I think it’s something to do with golf


Yea agreed. I think it depends on where in nyc too- most women here basically have that “f*** off” face and attitude.

That said, my neighborhood now (BayRidge) everyone is friendlier. It’s just more normal to talk to people. Some of the the snottier neighborhoods in Manhattan and Brooklyn, FUGHHHGETAAABOUT IT

This is really a gross generalization bordering on meme status.

Not saying that this doesn’t exist, it does, but if you (general you, not you specifically) want to meet better men/women, hang out with better men/women. They exist too and it’s not that hard to find them.

- someone who lives in arguably the snottiest BK neighborhood

 

[Jim Ramsay]

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My son asked me what the best part of marriage is. I told him when your wife is not speaking to you but has to have sex with you because she's craving the electric toothbrush treatment.

Guillermo revealed on Fallon that he lost his virginity at 14 to the maid. idk if I've ever done anything that wicked but when I was 15 my aunt played spin the bottle with me and it was awesome, baby! Mama told me not to come.

Spin the bottle with your Aunt? Were there any other players?

 

[Ben Grimm]

Spin the bottle with your Aunt? Were there any other players?

No! That was the great part because she was hot back then and I was a mindless 15 year old horn dog with no morals!

 

[KirkAlbuquerque]

No! That was the great part because she was hot back then and I was a mindless 15 year old horn dog with no morals!

I think I’ve seen this hentai before

 

[Ben Grimm]

I think I’ve seen this hentai before

It was 1977. Shit happened.

 

[Lua]

No! That was the great part because she was hot back then and I was a mindless 15 year old horn dog with no morals!

that's assault brotha

 

[Boris Zubov]

No! That was the great part because she was hot back then and I was a mindless 15 year old horn dog with no morals!

Did you grow up in Kentucky?

 

[NickyFotiu]

Sent PM

 

[NickyFotiu]

..

 

[TopShelfSnipes]

I'm LATE in reading this thread (what else is new?) But, my HIGHLIGHTED sentence above is what I would like to expound on. Please, please read through my sentiments, it very well could come in handy and SAVE you from what I experienced first hand.

Will try to be concise as I possibly could.

I received a text from someone that claimed she met and knew me from work. (I WAS a Residential Building Manager in Boca Raton, Fl.) Notice I said "WAS".
After originally giving her the 3rd degree, she convinced me that "WE" knew all the same people that did the Managing of finances for the building. Okay, fine.

We started to have a phone texting relationship, where at some point I grew tired of it and wanted to meet her. Hell, we NEVER even had a phone conversation. (Which, btw was my first "red flag". She stated over and over again that she "wasn't ready" to meet me. (She had mentioned she was a bit over weight, and wanted to fix that before meeting me) I fell for that hook, line and sinker.

She claimed she was 48 (I am 63) and was a Supervisor for 10 banks here in South Florida and making $200G's a year. Okay fine, that doesn't impress me. Money isn't everything. Eventually she sent me some XXX photos (and yes, I knew that could be anyone off the internet) and then she convinced me to do the same. (I sent a few of my XXX, sorry for the visual) AND just one (shirtless) pic that she insisted I take at WORK, 30 minutes before leaving for the day, was sent to her. Anyway, moving on.

After a few months, I finally had enough and told her that. (Yes, I was having fun with the thought of it, all along) She got ANGRY, told me I was verbally abusive (trying to end it, in which I was not) and probably physically abusive to women as well..........and told me if I ever text her again, she would call the Police. Of course I never texted her again, but archived the conversation. (Thank God, because that became MY PROOF).

3 months rolled by, (I figured it was a done deal) and then I get a phone text from someone "claiming to be the MOTHER of a 16 yr. old." and that she had plans of calling the police and that I would be facing 10-15 years of imprisonment.

Needless to say, I was scared shitless OUT of MY MIND, even though I knew I was innocent based on the FACT that she had told me she was 48 and making 200G's per year. (What 16 yr. old would have that?) eventually the "End Game" came, where the "Mother" said; "maybe we can work this out to keep you out of jail".
THAT was what I was waiting for! I went directly to BSO (Broward Sheriff's Office) and claiming my innnocence, and showing all of the texting between us.

They proclaimed me innocent, and a victim of what they call "Catfishing". Hell, if I knew what that was. I'm NOT 25. Thing is, I LOST my job, because they sent that pic to my President and the Mother (supposed, Mother) claimed I was f***ing around with a 16 yr old. Was fired on the spot with NO EXPLANATION, when I asked WHY after 5 years of loyalty.

These 38 residents, loved and respected me, but then this happened. This was my "personal life" but it found its way into my job. Losing my job was one thing, but LOSING the respect of everyone that thought I could do this, goes well beyond $$.

Speaking of money, I've been having the darndest time finding a lawyer for all of this. I lost future wages as I would have worked till 67-70. This adventure has forced me to retire prematurely (in my mind), as I don't even have an explanation to give to a future employer, as I wasn't given a legitimate reason as to WHY I was fired.

Moral of MY story, be careful people. There are heathens out there, trying to blackmail you if given the opportunity. Please send me PM's, if you have any suggestions, or thoughts that you don't want to put up here. Thanks, Larry

f***, dude. That's wild.

To anyone else reading this, don't send nudes to someone you don't know. And even if you know them, be very mindful of what you put out there, and certainly don't send anything that involves your job.

Also, high likelihood you're actually talking to some foreign dude, too, when this kind of thing is going on.

 

[DevilDog99]

This is really a gross generalization bordering on meme status.

Not saying that this doesn’t exist, it does, but if you (general you, not you specifically) want to meet better men/women, hang out with better men/women. They exist too and it’s not that hard to find them.

- someone who lives in arguably the snottiest BK neighborhood

Why do you like to argue and try to provoke people? It’s gross.

 

[Ben Grimm]

Why do you like to argue and try to provoke people? It’s gross.

I censored myself at the time in the name of peace and harmony, but he gave zero advice on how to meet nice people, so his post is worthless.

 

[DevilDog99]

I censored myself at the time in the name of peace and harmony, but he gave zero advice on how to meet nice people, so his post is worthless.

Yea thanks! I just noticed he is like that in alot of his posts with people. This should be a happy place…. I truly don’t understand why some people are like that? Like I said before- it’s just gross.

 

[GoAwayPanarin]

Why do you like to argue and try to provoke people? It’s gross.

It's not provoking anyone, it's just a sign of laziness on the part of anyone who sits and complains about other people.

I censored myself at the time in the name of peace and harmony, but he gave zero advice on how to meet nice people, so his post is worthless.

There are plenty of activities and meet up groups around Manhattan and Brooklyn. I just moved to a new neghiborhood a month and a half ago (granted, it's basically 15 minutes from where we used to live) and it takes the slightest bit of effort. When I hear people complain that it's hard bc people are snooty or what ever, to me it just sounds like they're lazy.

Expanding your social circle is not hard. I've met quite a few people just my walking my dog. Some of them have become friends.

It's not playing twister at the family picnic, but it is something.

 

[Kane One]

It's not provoking anyone, it's just a sign of laziness on the part of anyone who sits and complains about other people.


There are plenty of activities and meet up groups around Manhattan and Brooklyn. I just moved to a new neghiborhood a month and a half ago (granted, it's basically 15 minutes from where we used to live) and it takes the slightest bit of effort. When I hear people complain that it's hard bc people are snooty or what ever, to me it just sounds like they're lazy.

Expanding your social circle is not hard. I've met quite a few people just my walking my dog. Some of them have become friends.

It's not playing twister at the family picnic, but it is something.

This. A few years ago I moved out of Midwood (probably just as hard of an area to meet women as Bay Ridge) to Downtown Brooklyn. Literally just ask any woman at a bar “hey what book are you reading” even though it says right on the cover, and you’re good. Is the bar doing trivia? Go ask some random group if you can join their team. That’s what I do and it’s the easiest icebreakers in the world.

 

[NickyFotiu]

This. A few years ago I moved out of Midwood (probably just as hard of an area to meet women as Bay Ridge) to Downtown Brooklyn. Literally just ask any woman at a bar “hey what book are you reading” even though it says right on the cover, and you’re good. Is the bar doing trivia? Go ask some random group if you can join their team. That’s what I do and it’s the easiest icebreakers in the world.

We have become a strange society where more and more people are choosing just to be alone. I do not think they want to be alone. Maybe they just do not think the dating process is worth it. I think the internet plays a role. As do other factors.