OT: Relationship Advice Thread

[KirkAlbuquerque]

Foreplay is everything. Afterwards move your hips in circles.

What play?

 

[Larrybiv]

I've wanted to start this thread for the longest time but I wasn't sure what the mods would say. So, I've been talking to this girl from bumble, just texting and video calls for about 6 weeks. We haven't met in real life and the conversation is super casual. Today I saw she deleted her bumble account. I wonder if that means anything. I guess some people don't love bumble and it could have nothing to do with me.

I'm LATE in reading this thread (what else is new?) But, my HIGHLIGHTED sentence above is what I would like to expound on. Please, please read through my sentiments, it very well could come in handy and SAVE you from what I experienced first hand.

Will try to be concise as I possibly could.

I received a text from someone that claimed she met and knew me from work. (I WAS a Residential Building Manager in Boca Raton, Fl.) Notice I said "WAS".
After originally giving her the 3rd degree, she convinced me that "WE" knew all the same people that did the Managing of finances for the building. Okay, fine.

We started to have a phone texting relationship, where at some point I grew tired of it and wanted to meet her. Hell, we NEVER even had a phone conversation. (Which, btw was my first "red flag". She stated over and over again that she "wasn't ready" to meet me. (She had mentioned she was a bit over weight, and wanted to fix that before meeting me) I fell for that hook, line and sinker.

She claimed she was 48 (I am 63) and was a Supervisor for 10 banks here in South Florida and making $200G's a year. Okay fine, that doesn't impress me. Money isn't everything. Eventually she sent me some XXX photos (and yes, I knew that could be anyone off the internet) and then she convinced me to do the same. (I sent a few of my XXX, sorry for the visual) AND just one (shirtless) pic that she insisted I take at WORK, 30 minutes before leaving for the day, was sent to her. Anyway, moving on.

After a few months, I finally had enough and told her that. (Yes, I was having fun with the thought of it, all along) She got ANGRY, told me I was verbally abusive (trying to end it, in which I was not) and probably physically abusive to women as well..........and told me if I ever text her again, she would call the Police. Of course I never texted her again, but archived the conversation. (Thank God, because that became MY PROOF).

3 months rolled by, (I figured it was a done deal) and then I get a phone text from someone "claiming to be the MOTHER of a 16 yr. old." and that she had plans of calling the police and that I would be facing 10-15 years of imprisonment.

Needless to say, I was scared shitless OUT of MY MIND, even though I knew I was innocent based on the FACT that she had told me she was 48 and making 200G's per year. (What 16 yr. old would have that?) eventually the "End Game" came, where the "Mother" said; "maybe we can work this out to keep you out of jail".
THAT was what I was waiting for! I went directly to BSO (Broward Sheriff's Office) and claiming my innnocence, and showing all of the texting between us.

They proclaimed me innocent, and a victim of what they call "Catfishing". Hell, if I knew what that was. I'm NOT 25. Thing is, I LOST my job, because they sent that pic to my President and the Mother (supposed, Mother) claimed I was f***ing around with a 16 yr old. Was fired on the spot with NO EXPLANATION, when I asked WHY after 5 years of loyalty.

These 38 residents, loved and respected me, but then this happened. This was my "personal life" but it found its way into my job. Losing my job was one thing, but LOSING the respect of everyone that thought I could do this, goes well beyond $$.

Speaking of money, I've been having the darndest time finding a lawyer for all of this. I lost future wages as I would have worked till 67-70. This adventure has forced me to retire prematurely (in my mind), as I don't even have an explanation to give to a future employer, as I wasn't given a legitimate reason as to WHY I was fired.

Moral of MY story, be careful people. There are heathens out there, trying to blackmail you if given the opportunity. Please send me PM's, if you have any suggestions, or thoughts that you don't want to put up here. Thanks, Larry

 

[Larrybiv]

My girlfriend does this with me as well, lol. She wasn't into baseball, hockey, or basketball much before we started dating (she was always a football fan and an Eagles fan). I've gotten her into baseball and basketball and is basically a Yankees and Knicks fan. However, I don't think I'll ever be able to get her into hockey much, haha.

Make a win win deal with her. Ask her to trade OFF the Knicks, in exchange for following YOUR Rangers. Also, has she EVER been to an NHL game? Taking her "should" get her to experience the REAL nuances of NHL play. The TV cannot show everything. Cannot overemphasize the experience of live play, to really get someone interested. I have "influenced"quite a few, and now lifelong hockey fans. Btw, if you can EVER get something really close to behind the net (while freezing your asses off) lends to the experience. Good luck!