Absolutely correct, you hadn't.
I will just say this, if I had ever seen the unicorn you mentioned in bold, I would probably feel different. In fact, I thought that way about cocaine and it's effect until I became close enough to someone with a problem. Then I "understood" the shit-storms that can arise our of no-where.
I'm not trying to disparage Nuke or say he can't have a great life, be a great player and even more importantly a great father. I'm just suggesting that it's going to take a lot more honesty than he's provided so far...not to me. I don't give a shit about that. But he needs to give it to his family, his friends, his co-workers. Those he's involved with. I'm just an asshole on the internet.
I think the point I'm trying to make isn't that Val couldn't be having the impact on his baby that you do. It's that we have no way of knowing, because we know so little.
We have no idea what his relationship with his family is, or what his home situation is like. We don’t know how often he uses, what he’s like when he uses, we don’t even know for a fact what he uses. Sounds like cocaine, but again we don't know.
Stating their baby is traumatized for life REQUIRES most, if not all of that information, and without it, we’re just speculating, not stating inarguable facts that apply to 100% of children in similar circumstances.
I don't think the bolded is quite the unicorn you do. Certainly in the minority, especially in terms of addicts in general, but among wealthy individuals who don't encounter the financial and legal problems that come with being an addict, it's certainly possible. Especially the impact on a 1-2 year old.
In fact, I would guess there's probably lots of hockey players, athletes, celebrities, and public figures who have a similar level of dependency on something, that Val does, and we have no idea. Many with kids.
To get back to my hypothetical, if people like that had a problem for the first 1-2 years of their baby's life, but then they quit, it's very possible that their child won't end up with some type of lifelong trauma from it.
I place a very high importance on parenting, don't get me wrong. But I also place a high importance on objective facts and objective reality. I think it's important to make a clear distinction between objective facts and opinion/speculation, and not blend the two.