To quote the one guy who is in my same group and married to a dude. How do people expect to be treated the same as others and normal when the way they act is a HUGE outlier and not remotely norm. Having parades where you dance around in leather and make out in the street isn't normal. It's provocative, and they get a provocative response.
Just like in the gun community you have the leave me a lone types, and the ones who want to OC and AR15 at the local 4th of july parade. The provocateurs ruin it for everyone.
Yep, there are a small percentage of people that are doing things simply to provoke, but there's also a bunch of people just looking for something to be offended about.
And the problem is now with social media, the outliers get more air time. Look at the pictures Negan posted. Those aren't the norm and a tiny fraction of the LGBTQ community, but they get spread all over social media, many times by people who are looking for something to be offended about.
Like you said about the gun community as well. Look at the Christmas card photos of politicians and their families holding AR15s. It's meant to provoke people and if not for social media, nobody would have seen it except who they sent the card to. I bet they never would have taken that photo if not for social media. And like the above example, there are people just looking to be offended by it as well.
And speaking of what they are doing to children, is it right to be sensationalizing AR15s for 10 year olds? If you tell a parent that, you'll get "mind your own business", yet those same parents want to tell other parents not to take their kid to a gay pride parade or not to let their kid go to a drag story hour.
A real life example of someone just looking to be offended/outraged: a friend of mine was complaining to me about the trans clothing in Target. I said to her, "How did you even notice it? I go to target for specific things and have never even noticed that".
Her response: "I don't shop at target."