You cannot demand grit and then scold them on occasions where they do things a way you don't particularly agree with IMO. He may have gone after a 16 y/o first rounder...who is 6'5" 225 (bigger than Ando), so it's not exactly like a big veteran defenseman doing it to one of our guys like Headrick (5'7").
Get ready because there is going to be a lot of this this season. Can always tune out if it gets too ugly, but this is how it's going to be and we all knew it would be a rebuild year. You'll have to find enjoyment, not from winning, but from seeing our 2nd year players (hopefully) really develop individually.