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ZZamboni

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My busy social life is getting busier.

And I cracked up when my ex thought I was dating a church group friend who came over Saturday to watch the Sabres game and to let her son play with my kids.

:laugh:

Well, it looks like you've turned a corner with all the emotional turmoil. It takes time, as you know first hand .... but good to see you came out the other side intact. :5:
 

HockeyH3aven

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Somebody is trading in a 2008 A5 3.2L quattro with 59,000 miles on it for an S5.....it's going to take a lot of willpower not to buy that car. You can't even buy it with a V6 anymore. :cry:

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Jim Bob

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Well, it looks like you've turned a corner with all the emotional turmoil. It takes time, as you know first hand .... but good to see you came out the other side intact. :5:

The funny thing is that I think I've come out the other side faster than some ladies in my life think.

I'm still radioactive to some who think I need more time to recover.
 

SackTastic

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The funny thing is that I think I've come out the other side faster than some ladies in my life think.

I'm still radioactive to some who think I need more time to recover.

Still good to see you come out of it as well as you are.

Not to get weird, but it gives me a little hope that there's a light on the other side should my situation not resolve in a favorable manner.
 

Jim Bob

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Still good to see you come out of it as well as you are.

Not to get weird, but it gives me a little hope that there's a light on the other side should my situation not resolve in a favorable manner.

I will say that my confidence got a boost today when prospect #2 texted me that she hopes that tonight's date with prospect #1 goes badly so that I do have coffee with her on Thursday.

:laugh:

And hearing stuff like that is why I like to share my story.

It makes me feel good to when I see stuff like that and stuff like my former boss going home and kissing his wife and being thankful that his marriage issues were so minor compared to what they could be.
 

HockeyH3aven

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I am seriously considering picking up a pizza delivery job for some extra cash. Can't really find anything decent that I can do remotely in my time off. Not hurting for money but could always use more :D
 

Clock

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I am seriously considering picking up a pizza delivery job for some extra cash. Can't really find anything decent that I can do remotely in my time off. Not hurting for money but could always use more :D

I have a friend who did the same thing. He's a single dental hygienist and did it just to make a few extra bucks with some of his free time. If I had nothing to do outside of my 40 hour work week, I'd probably consider doing something like that, too. Why not?
 

Mike McDermott

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I am seriously considering picking up a pizza delivery job for some extra cash. Can't really find anything decent that I can do remotely in my time off. Not hurting for money but could always use more :D

If you work some place that makes you put their sign on your car you have to tell your insurance you are using your car for work/deliveries. Which, depending on your insurance could eat up a lot of the extra money you might earn.
 

TheMistyStranger

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So, long story short -- and the biggest pressing issue -- I want a new job. The job I am at now is not even remotely close to what I thought it would be, and it's leading to me feeling miserable around the clock. I have no self-confidence at work any more and I feel incredibly under the microscope.
 

Myllz

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So, long story short -- and the biggest pressing issue -- I want a new job. The job I am at now is not even remotely close to what I thought it would be, and it's leading to me feeling miserable around the clock. I have no self-confidence at work any more and I feel incredibly under the microscope.

Is it something you can discuss with management to rectify?
 

Fly Boy

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So, long story short -- and the biggest pressing issue -- I want a new job. The job I am at now is not even remotely close to what I thought it would be, and it's leading to me feeling miserable around the clock. I have no self-confidence at work any more and I feel incredibly under the microscope.

Sounds like the grown up world.
 

PlamsUnlimited

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So, long story short -- and the biggest pressing issue -- I want a new job. The job I am at now is not even remotely close to what I thought it would be, and it's leading to me feeling miserable around the clock. I have no self-confidence at work any more and I feel incredibly under the microscope.

What do you do? And what was the initial thoughts... It's important to be happy at work.
 

TheMistyStranger

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Is it something you can discuss with management to rectify?

Not in the slightest.

Sounds like the grown up world.

I've had lousy jobs before, but the degree of micromanagement is insane. It's stifling like a 95 degree day with 100% humidity.

What do you do? And what was the initial thoughts... It's important to be happy at work.

I work in I.T. My initial thought was that the job was a perfect fit, as it's a melding of my current field and my old field. The other departments seem fine, but my boss has a company-wide reputation as being incredibly difficult to work with and extremely territorial and demanding. I have had more than one person ask me if she is as difficult to work for as it seems. There are other things, but that's the briefest overview I can give.
 

PlamsUnlimited

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Not in the slightest.



I've had lousy jobs before, but the degree of micromanagement is insane. It's stifling like a 95 degree day with 100% humidity.



I work in I.T. My initial thought was that the job was a perfect fit, as it's a melding of my current field and my old field. The other departments seem fine, but my boss has a company-wide reputation as being incredibly difficult to work with and extremely territorial and demanding. I have had more than one person ask me if she is as difficult to work for as it seems. There are other things, but that's the briefest overview I can give.
Terrible bosses like that are the worst... They make it too hard...
 

TheMistyStranger

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Terrible bosses like that are the worst... They make it too hard...

I think my least favorite thing is the meetings. Every Monday morning, we spend at least 2 hours in an IT meeting. There are 4 of us total, including the IT Manager. Today was over 2.5 hours. I have so much stuff to do, and yet I waste time in a meeting talking about the stuff I'm going to be doing. :banghead:
 

Myllz

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I think my least favorite thing is the meetings. Every Monday morning, we spend at least 2 hours in an IT meeting. There are 4 of us total, including the IT Manager. Today was over 2.5 hours. I have so much stuff to do, and yet I waste time in a meeting talking about the stuff I'm going to be doing. :banghead:

How in the world do you spend that long in meetings? I was the IT Manager for a company with 400 employees and an IT group of 5 and we rarely went over 30 minutes in our weekly meeting.
 

Afino

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People like to hear themselves talk and feel important.

There's a lot of "meetings about meetings" in my company. Certain departments, I don't even know how the managers get work done because they're in meetings all day long.
 

TehDoak

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BGM,

As a survivor of a micromanger boss, I have some advice.

First off, your boss is micromanaging for a reason. Usually its a lack of trust. What you have to realize is that micromanaging is MUCH more stressful to her than it is to you. She thinks she has to do everything and spell everything out for you. Essentially she is trying to do your job and her job

My advice to you is this:

Figure out what is important to her. She likely complains about something alot. Whether its the budget, deadlines, etc.

Now, identify something in the process that holds that up. Or even a project you think needs to be done and interests you. But your selling point is to going to be it will reduce whatever she complains about most. And if she's like most bosses who micromanage, you get to hear about what irritates her the most....alot.

The key thing is, when you pitch to her, you are going to feed her her words and her answers. Because in the end, she doesn't want to hear your words, she wants to hear hers. By making her think you and her are on the same wavelength, you are earning trust because she thinks she is transforming you into a mini her....which is what she wants. Do this project well, make her think it was HER who made it possible. She'll feel like she was a good 'manager' to you and you will get some rope to do your job how you see fit. Keep in mind she is going to take all the credit for the project if it goes well, and you will get all the blame if it falters. But the key here is make your work day livable, even enjoyable. But, until you can earn/get a degree of trust from your boss, it's not going to be.
 

TheMistyStranger

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How in the world do you spend that long in meetings? I was the IT Manager for a company with 400 employees and an IT group of 5 and we rarely went over 30 minutes in our weekly meeting.

We go over every single detail that we each took care of the week before and everything we're planning for the coming week.

BGM,

As a survivor of a micromanger boss, I have some advice.

First off, your boss is micromanaging for a reason. Usually its a lack of trust. What you have to realize is that micromanaging is MUCH more stressful to her than it is to you. She thinks she has to do everything and spell everything out for you. Essentially she is trying to do your job and her job

My advice to you is this:

Figure out what is important to her. She likely complains about something alot. Whether its the budget, deadlines, etc.

Now, identify something in the process that holds that up. Or even a project you think needs to be done and interests you. But your selling point is to going to be it will reduce whatever she complains about most. And if she's like most bosses who micromanage, you get to hear about what irritates her the most....alot.

The key thing is, when you pitch to her, you are going to feed her her words and her answers. Because in the end, she doesn't want to hear your words, she wants to hear hers. By making her think you and her are on the same wavelength, you are earning trust because she thinks she is transforming you into a mini her....which is what she wants. Do this project well, make her think it was HER who made it possible. She'll feel like she was a good 'manager' to you and you will get some rope to do your job how you see fit. Keep in mind she is going to take all the credit for the project if it goes well, and you will get all the blame if it falters. But the key here is make your work day livable, even enjoyable. But, until you can earn/get a degree of trust from your boss, it's not going to be.

That is great advice, but myself and the other tech are second-class citizens in terms of a lot of things [we don't have all the admin passwords, we can't join PCs to the domain, stuff like that]. Most of the stuff that she stresses about is stuff that only she is allowed to do. :facepalm:
 
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