Don Nachbaur 26
Registered User
I have to go to Bedford, PA this week for work. I usually run at Shawnee SP, but I thought I would run the old turnpike starting at Breezewood. Anyone ever run/hike it? Was it cool or nah?
I'm not sure where to begin other than she is kind and beautiful and I want to marry her after our first date but not sure the sentiment is mutual. All I got was a yes to a second date in two weeks...lol. The main thing is I think she is interested but is very cryptic and seems pretty flakey which I heard is just their normal way and that I am supposed to be patient but not sure I can be..lol. Supposedly if they ask a lot of questions that is their way of liking you. She asked questions but I asked most and wanted to ask more including x rated ones....I haven't, but I doubt anyone in the world has a larger database in their head about Korean dating than I do. What are you wondering?
I'm not sure where to begin other than she is kind and beautiful and I want to marry her after our first date but not sure the sentiment is mutual. All I got was a yes to a second date in two weeks...lol. The main thing is I think she is interested but is very cryptic and seems pretty flakey which I heard is just their normal way and that I am supposed to be patient but not sure I can be..lol. Supposedly if they ask a lot of questions that is their way of liking you. She asked questions but I asked most and wanted to ask more including x rated ones....
I got a feeling this pursuit is going to be torture and some lawyer or doctor will steal her away. The status stuff also concerning.. showed up in a Porsche and looked like a K pop star....lol. But was very down to earth and sweet.
Just drove through Bedford yesterday on my way back from a weekend in Deep Creek, MD. If you're on the TP heading west, just be sure to go the speed limit going down the hill to Breezewood. There is ALWAYS a cop sitting at the bottom of the hill off to the side where you can't see himI have to go to Bedford, PA this week for work. I usually run at Shawnee SP, but I thought I would run the old turnpike starting at Breezewood. Anyone ever run/hike it? Was it cool or nah?
Oh definitely about the x-rated stuff. Was kidding...not that I didn't think she was hot bc she was but I definitely treated her gentlemanly and she seemed appreciative. Ironically I said I would pull her chair for her but that it was a booth seat and she giggled.I would absolutely not mention any X-rated stuff at all - you have to court her the way someone would court a woman in a movie from the 50s. That I am very, very sure of. That's just the talking, courting part of it - what happens physically in reality could go any way, just don't talk about it.
The status thing probably is a justifiable concern. They are always going to be polite, so you can't necessarily read much into that, but they are also never going to be that expressive in the beginning, so the fact that she said "Yes" is a perfectly good answer. One thing they hate universally is being pressured or rushed - it's a huge concern in the Korean dating community, so be careful with that and calm the f*** down. Don't bombard her with texts.
They respond to small acts of kindness and chivalry, like handing them a napkin if they sniffle, opening their door or pulling back their chair, bringing a small gift that means something to her on the date - that kind of shit.
All of this is based on Korean Koreans - I don't know dick about Korean Americans, other than the fact that they aren't any good comparatively speaking.
In the market for a TV and desktop. The TV would be used as a display for my Xbox and desktop. My priority is lifespan. For the computer, interested in either a pre or self built Linux machine that should also last awhile. No specific software requirements at the moment. That may change in the future, though.
@Captain Dave PoulinI would absolutely not mention any X-rated stuff at all - you have to court her the way someone would court a woman in a movie from the 50s. That I am very, very sure of. That's just the talking, courting part of it - what happens physically in reality could go any way, just don't talk about it.
The status thing probably is a justifiable concern. They are always going to be polite, so you can't necessarily read much into that, but they are also never going to be that expressive in the beginning, so the fact that she said "Yes" is a perfectly good answer. One thing they hate universally is being pressured or rushed - it's a huge concern in the Korean dating community, so be careful with that and calm the f*** down. Don't bombard her with texts.
They respond to small acts of kindness and chivalry, like handing them a napkin if they sniffle, opening their door or pulling back their chair, bringing a small gift that means something to her on the date - that kind of shit.
All of this is based on Korean Koreans - I don't know dick about Korean Americans, other than the fact that they aren't any good comparatively speaking.
In the market for a TV and desktop. The TV would be used as a display for my Xbox and desktop. My priority is lifespan. For the computer, interested in either a pre or self built Linux machine that should also last awhile. No specific software requirements at the moment. That may change in the future, though.
Personally I am not fond of small talk but have gotten better. I think she has been here enough that she is more Americanized but I can see her courting habit is more traditional and she handles herself knowing her worth but not arrogantly necessarily. I mean yeah...she has a lot to offer besides looks. I had her laughing and once we started talking about our common interest in British synth pop like Depeche Mode that helped...also both beach bums..lol. She said she enjoyed our convo and I saw her size me up approvingly when I approached her car to warn her as she proceeded to park in a loading zone..lol. Anyway, we'll see how things shape up. It is just amazing how culture plays into human interactions. This greek woman in my hiking group is interested and basically lives right near me (accessibility) but she is the queen of annoying small talk and seems a tad bossy so I'm keeping things on a short leash....lolYou should see the length of time they will sit there in absolute silence the first time they meet each other. On most of these shows I watch there are six people to start with, and they enter one at a time. They will greet each other with a hello, then silence forever, then maybe ask each other's names after a long while, and then another eternity of silence. Anyone else would die of discomfort and make small talk just to relieve it, but they can go forever. In this latest season of "Heart Signal" they are on around day 10 of living together, and they STILL have these periods of silence when they go somewhere together. It's hard to even watch until you get used to it.
Swedes have the same problem with seeming to be rude, and it took me forever to get used to it. They just are extremely logical and don't see the point in wasting time and breath on small talk or soft-footing their way around an issue. I say "breath" on purpose, because I discovered something there. Swedes have this thing - where we would go "Uh huh," like to show that we were paying attention in the middle of a conversation, they do this small, sharp intake of breath. It was so weird, but then I thought about it - in that climate, historically, you basically couldn't afford to waste any body heat at all, so they developed habits like this to economize their language.
I hate small talk. Not all small talk, but the pointless small talk.Personally I am not fond of small talk but have gotten better. I think she has been here enough that she is more Americanized but I can see her courting habit is more traditional and she handles herself knowing her worth but not arrogantly necessarily. I mean yeah...she has a lot to offer besides looks. I had her laughing and once we started talking about our common interest in British synth pop like Depeche Mode that helped...also both beach bums..lol. She said she enjoyed our convo and I saw her size me up approvingly when I approached her car to warn her as she proceeded to park in a loading zone..lol. Anyway, we'll see how things shape up. It is just amazing how culture plays into human interactions. This greek woman in my hiking group is interested and basically lives right near me (accessibility) but she is the queen of annoying small talk and seems a tad bossy so I'm keeping things on a short leash....lol
Tell me about it.....I remember I was part of this language exchange group and sometimes we would just speak in English after tiring of trying to learn another language through small talk which is ok. But man a lot of them were younger and the inane small talk was unbearable. I literally just sat there like a Korean..lolI hate small talk. Not all small talk, but the pointless small talk.
It’s fine with it’s mixed in with meaningful conversation between subjects.
I don’t need to waste 4 minutes of my day because I bumped into him from accounting for the fourth time this week.
Thanks man, I hope it develops but I do see the difficulties and barriers already. I recall one friend of mine who dated one briefly in college saying she was a bit of an enigma wrapped in a riddle that flaked on him. He did have a positive carnal experience though and did like her but she bailed on him. I mentioned to him I went on a date with a Korean girl in a random text last night and got radio silence thus far ...lolFrom what I've seen from the brief encounters of Koreans dating my extended family and just hearing stories through the grapevines. Koreans are very difficult. Sometimes I swear they're pretty similar to the Chinese. Some of them are big on status and they want all the fance and luxury brands possible. Just a generalization and hopefully our boy has met an exception who is down to earth and genuine. Asian families in general are whackadoodle. It's a bit of the collectivist mentality from the east, your business is everyone's business sometimes.
TL;DR Godspeed
From what I've seen from the brief encounters of Koreans dating my extended family and just hearing stories through the grapevines. Koreans are very difficult. Sometimes I swear they're pretty similar to the Chinese. Some of them are big on status and they want all the fance and luxury brands possible. Just a generalization and hopefully our boy has met an exception who is down to earth and genuine. Asian families in general are whackadoodle. It's a bit of the collectivist mentality from the east, your business is everyone's business sometimes.
TL;DR Godspeed
In the market for a TV and desktop. The TV would be used as a display for my Xbox and desktop. My priority is lifespan. For the computer, interested in either a pre or self built Linux machine that should also last awhile. No specific software requirements at the moment. That may change in the future, though.
One thing I have heard about Koreans is how direct and unapologetic they are about how much money you make. I get ultra violent when people try to discuss politics or religion with me, but I would go nuclear if someone just out-and-out inquired about my finances as if they were asking me where I bought my shirt. Is this just a Korean thing or does it creep into other Southeast Asian cultures?
One thing I have heard about Koreans is how direct and unapologetic they are about how much money you make. I get ultra violent when people try to discuss politics or religion with me, but I would go nuclear if someone just out-and-out inquired about my finances as if they were asking me where I bought my shirt. Is this just a Korean thing or does it creep into other Southeast Asian cultures?
How much you make? What's your profession? Oh that's not a good career. You should be a doctor, engineer or lawyer.From my experiences, this is just not a taboo in most Asian countries. Especially in older generations.
Ha ha....my first asian dating experience was with a Filipino girl in college. First date was a family function....cousin's college graduation. Her dad was an Engineer and mother a doctor. Her mom when I showed up said "let me see what car you are driving" and proceeded to look out the window. My car was ok....a 1980 something used Toyota Cressida which preceded the Camry. I mean I am a college student. At least I had a car. I kind of backed off because of the parents and she felt rejected but it was not her fault. I was young and should have not let them influence me dating her daughter. She was a sweet girl.....It's a general Asian thing. The older generation are so freaking nosy.