I'll be okay financially even without her financial contributions, I think, but I certainly wasn't expecting this as a possibility. "Our home. Our house. Our future...." sort of talk from her throughout the renovations. Basically I think it just means the projects I had intended to work on myself/have done by a professional just needs to be spaced out and planned for a little differently than I originally intended. It's trying to rework/rethink everything, and it is daunting and confusing. I do not know how to be alone, yet. Like I said, I've been staying with family since the breakup because it's hard for me to face going there. But, that and other reasons are why I am also in therapy.
I have also contemplated with selling. I feel so f***ing stupid if I do that, though. Like, a major set-back personally. The greatest positive about this house is that I had 50% equity through inheritance going into the process. Still, the financial aspect is definitely a major change to consider for everything necessary in home ownership and the work necessary to make it feel "complete" (which I realize it NEVER will be. What home is?). For example: My next project is to rewire the whole house (which I am not going to do myself). No grounding anywhere. So I'll start in the kitchen, first, then the living room, and yeah... go from there...
Thanks man. I can't say F* that B* quite yet to myself. Part of me feels like I'm just trapped in a nightmare and I'll wake up soon. Blahhhh
Thanks man, but I am a lover not a fighter. Never in my life have I swung at someone or been swung at. So can I just have a hug?