They didn't know what exactly went wrong, so they reached for the easy explanation of "things were chaotic"; it was true after all, there was a lot of noise so maybe that is why things didn't work out/the team didn't come together like everyone had hoped.
I don't buy it, but I also respect the fact that these players, young men, don't have the answers the media asks them to have so they say stuff like that.
As far as Chabot's wife is concerned, well, the only way to properly rationalize it, is that it isn't about her, it is about her husband. It doesn't help much, but that is the truth, don't personally take things Internet losers who are reacting to something your husband.
Definitely easier said than done, but I'm also not particularly worried: I'm sure she can handle it.