OT: The Thread About Nothing

[Bleedred]

I just wanted to take a second to make a post I wouldn’t normally make. July-August was the worst time in my life in at least 10 years, maybe even more. I wasn’t even active on this board, probably as much as I would be, even by offseason standards. I was really a wreck. I wouldn’t say I’ve regularly suffered through serious depression, I’ve been fortunate to only go through it a couple of times. Unfortunately, this past Summer was one of them. I even cancelled my two week vacation that I normally take every August for 16 days, where I fly to Jersey and spend 7-9 days, then fly to Denver and spend another 7-9 days. I did eventually take the trip to Denver, but in September after Labor Day. I just lost interest. My best friend, who I’ve known since we were about 6 or 7 years old, who moved down here even before I did, helped me out. He was going through some difficult times too.

Just venting a lot on here about what was going on really helped. So I wanted to thank all the people who talked with me on here. I don’t wanna go into any names, for fear of forgetting to name some.

In the end, I found out the girl I was seeing, who I was really falling for, was actually still with the guy she was living with. Her son’s father. Things weren’t good between them, but apparently he didn’t know about us being more than just friends. In one sense, I feel a little better knowing that things didn’t work out because she was unavailable anyway. In another sense, I feel terrible that I played potential homewrecker to her little boy’s parents. That’s eating at me right now.

I’m doing a bit better now. I have my days. I have a lot of anxiety. I’d say the depression is mostly gone though. Anxiety is a constant with me anyway, so I don’t expect that to completely subside.

 

[njdevils1982]

I just wanted to take a second to make a post I wouldn’t normally make. July-August was the worst time in my life in at least 10 years, maybe even more. I wasn’t even active on this board, probably as much as I would be, even by offseason standards. I was really a wreck. I wouldn’t say I’ve regularly suffered through serious depression, I’ve been fortunate to only go through it a couple of times. Unfortunately, this past Summer was one of them. I even cancelled my two week vacation that I normally take every August for 16 days, where I fly to Jersey and spend 7-9 days, then fly to Denver and spend another 7-9 days. I did eventually take the trip to Denver, but in September after Labor Day. I just lost interest. My best friend, who I’ve known since we were about 6 or 7 years old, who moved down here even before I did, helped me out. He was going through some difficult times too.

Just venting a lot on here about what was going on really helped. So I wanted to thank all the people who talked with me on here. I don’t wanna go into any names, for fear of forgetting to name some.

In the end, I found out the girl I was seeing, who I was really falling for, was actually still with the guy she was living with. Her son’s father. Things weren’t good between them, but apparently he didn’t know about us being more than just friends. In one sense, I feel a little better knowing that things didn’t work out because she was unavailable anyway. In another sense, I feel terrible that I played potential homewrecker to her little boy’s parents. That’s eating at me right now.

I’m doing a bit better now. I have my days. I have a lot of anxiety. I’d say the depression is mostly gone though. Anxiety is a constant with me anyway, so I don’t expect that to completely subside.

youre upset that you were a potential homewrecker? f*** that…..how about that selfish that was feeding you AND the other guy lies.

damaged goods……send them back.

you should be happy she's gone

 

[Bleedred]

youre upset that you were a potential homewrecker? **** that…..how about that selfish **** that was feeding you AND the other guy lies.

damaged goods……send them back.

you should be happy she's gone

I know it was on her, but I feel like this was against my moral code. I was in denial for a lot of this time, that they were still together. And even if they weren’t actually sharing a bed (they might have been, I never spent the night there) anymore and nothing was happening with the two of them, their relationship obviously hadn’t ended. I don’t use Facebook, but I found out before things ended that he had her tagged that they were in s relationship. She did not have him tagged.

This is just something that I feel like I helped her cheat. I feel bad for her son. I almost wanna say that I wish I never met this woman. My involvement with her just caused a couple months of discomfort after she was gone. I’m just ready for some more hockey!

 

[njdevils1982]

I know it was on her, but I feel like this was against my moral code. I was in denial for a lot of this time, that they were still together. And even if they weren’t actually sharing a bed (they might have been, I never spent the night there) anymore and nothing was happening with the two of them, their relationship obviously hadn’t ended. I don’t use Facebook, but I found out before things ended that he had her tagged that they were in s relationship. She did not have him tagged.

This is just something that I feel like I helped her cheat. I feel bad for her son. I almost wanna say that I wish I never met this woman. My involvement with her just caused a couple months of discomfort after she was gone. I’m just ready for some more hockey!

if i sounded harsh…well, sometimes i get that way….

…also, social media is a deadly thing (can be a deadly thing)……i dont have any accounts in whatever 'social media' ……also, i dont even bother looking up or following past people ive known or even friends i have now….

to me its bullshit.

(i do have have my 'anonymous' hf account though!)

 

[Bleedred]

if i sounded harsh…well, sometimes i get that way….

…also, social media is a deadly thing (can be a deadly thing)……i dont have any accounts in whatever 'social media' ……also, i dont even bother looking up or following past people ive known or even friends i have now….

to me its bull****.

(i do have have my 'anonymous' hf account though!)

It’s okay, you weren’t harsh! I just think I deserve some of the blame. When I was kid (16-20) I had this bad habit of falling for/attracting girls that had boyfriends. It was something I was happy started to change as I got older. Then it reared it’s ugly head again this past Spring.

This forum is the closest thing I use to social media. No Facebook, no twitter, no instagram, no stupid f***ing Snapchat with its stupid filters that turn you into a dog or rabbit. I do read twitter a lot, I just don’t have an account. I also have an Instagram, it’s not in my real name and I have no pictures or followers. I use it just to look up music and hockey related stuff.

I don’t even bother reaching out to old friends or god forbid old girlfriends, etc. I have a group of friends that I’ve known since I was 5-6 years old and I’m still in touch with all of them and even see them regularly.

 

[BenedictGomez]

It's that time of year, the Stinkbug invasion has begun.

 

[None Shall Pass]

I was in Colorado for the past four days. Yesterday morning, it snowed there. Today, back in Brooklyn, I will be wearing a t-shirt. My body is really confused.

 

[RangerDoggo]

I can kind of relate to talking to a (former) loved one behind the current SO’s back. My ex girlfriend in China reaches out to me on the Chinese version of WhatsApp so we can catch up on each other’s lives, but only when her husband is away on business. Her husband isn’t fond of her talking to other men she knows outside of work, even casually. She says that’s because he’s a traditional Pakistani man, but I think it’s because he’s a dick.

All the same, I respect her wishes and don’t want to ruin her family life, so I just wait for her to reach out to me. She seems very happy with life and I do too.

 

[OmNomNom]

@Bleedred my man, from all your posts, you're a pretty thoughtful and caring guy. you gotta respect yourself - it's not solely your fault, and you put in as much effort as you could. you deserve to be loved.

take it from someone who blamed himself for a long time as well, for a failed relationship

 

[Jack Be Quick]

I can kind of relate to talking to a (former) loved one behind the current SO’s back. My ex girlfriend in China reaches out to me on the Chinese version of WhatsApp so we can catch up on each other’s lives, but only when her husband is away on business. Her husband isn’t fond of her talking to other men she knows outside of work, even casually. She says that’s because he’s a traditional Pakistani man, but I think it’s because he’s a dick.

All the same, I respect her wishes and don’t want to ruin her family life, so I just wait for her to reach out to me. She seems very happy with life and I do too.

I hate to break it to you my man, but she isn't that happy with her life if she's reaching out to exes and complaining about her dick of a husband while he is away.

Frankly, that sounds like a dick move in and of itself so perhaps they're perfect for each other and you dodged a bullet.

 

[Jack Be Quick]

Oh, and:

https://www.msg.com/calendar/madiso...estival-presents-bill-burr-50#about-the-event

https://www.msg.com/calendar/hulu-t...mber-2018-jim-jefferies-the-night-talker-tour

But, but, but, college campuses man.

 

[njdevils1982]

going downtown to the city tonight for a concert….seems like im meeting up with people at one of those places where a third of your bill seems to go to pay the restaurant's lease…AKA 20 bucks a burger

f*** the city

 

[OmNomNom]

I can kind of relate to talking to a (former) loved one behind the current SO’s back. My ex girlfriend in China reaches out to me on the Chinese version of WhatsApp so we can catch up on each other’s lives, but only when her husband is away on business. Her husband isn’t fond of her talking to other men she knows outside of work, even casually. She says that’s because he’s a traditional Pakistani man, but I think it’s because he’s a dick.

All the same, I respect her wishes and don’t want to ruin her family life, so I just wait for her to reach out to me. She seems very happy with life and I do too.

yeah being on the other end isn't really good.

my ex reached out to this guy (who was also in a relationship at the time) behind my back. once confronted, things ended between us in a month or two (though it was already going downhill)

they're now engaged.

personally, i wouldn't respond to the messages, since i'm sure i wouldn't want to be the husband in that case, but then again i don't know the context

 

[JimEIV]

Oh, and:

https://www.msg.com/calendar/madiso...estival-presents-bill-burr-50#about-the-event

https://www.msg.com/calendar/hulu-t...mber-2018-jim-jefferies-the-night-talker-tour

But, but, but, college campuses man.

I don't understand? I'd bet the vast majority their material was tested in small venues and clubs.

I used to go to the Stress Factory in New Brunswick all the time...haven't been in a few years but they always had some pretty big acts. A lot of those comics would do the Stress Factory before a big venue to test material. Chris Rock did this there...It's not like a band where they just play in venues that they can sell out, comics need constant feedback from the crowd...The only comics that don't do that just perform the same act over and over...and that blows.

 

[RangerDoggo]

yeah being on the other end isn't really good.

my ex reached out to this guy (who was also in a relationship at the time) behind my back. once confronted, things ended between us in a month or two (though it was already going downhill)

they're now engaged.

personally, i wouldn't respond to the messages, since i'm sure i wouldn't want to be the husband in that case, but then again i don't know the context

There is more to it, but I think I’ve said enough already.

For what it’s worth, she is teasing me about how I should marry my current girlfriend.

 

[Jack Be Quick]

I don't understand? I'd bet the vast majority their material was tested in small venues and clubs.

I used to go to the Stress Factory in New Brunswick all the time...haven't been in a few years but they always had some pretty big acts. A lot of those comics would do the Stress Factory before a big venue to test material. Chris Rock did this there...It's not like a band where they just play in venues that they can sell out, comics need constant feedback from the crowd...The only comics that don't do that just perform the same act over and over...and that blows.

It goes back to the conversation we were having earlier in the thread regarding these guys - and Chris Rock in particular - whining about how they won't play on college campuses anymore due to "pc culture". My counter to that is it's disengenious because why would you if you can sell out the garden. Of course they test new material at the cellar, laugh factory, etc, but low and behold a week later they announce shows at the garden and not Columbia. But I'm sure that's just because they're principled...

 

[RangerDoggo]

When Chris Rock says that, I understand. He’s been pushing the envelope over his entire career and he’s still capable of doing it. His comments a couple years back about how MLB wants to bring back the old days of Lou Gehrig, Babe Ruth, and Emmitt Till shows he’s still got it.

 

[billingtons ghost]

It’s okay, you weren’t harsh! I just think I deserve some of the blame. When I was kid (16-20) I had this bad habit of falling for/attracting girls that had boyfriends. It was something I was happy started to change as I got older. Then it reared it’s ugly head again this past Spring.

This forum is the closest thing I use to social media. No Facebook, no twitter, no instagram, no stupid ****ing Snapchat with its stupid filters that turn you into a dog or rabbit. I do read twitter a lot, I just don’t have an account. I also have an Instagram, it’s not in my real name and I have no pictures or followers. I use it just to look up music and hockey related stuff.

I don’t even bother reaching out to old friends or god forbid old girlfriends, etc. I have a group of friends that I’ve known since I was 5-6 years old and I’m still in touch with all of them and even see them regularly.

Buck up dude. Of the universal truths in the universe, two of my favorites are (courtesy of my Mom, and my boss's chinese proverb):
1. Everything changes
2. God put eyes on the front of your head to look forwards, not backwards.

You're all good.

Edit: I should add #3: If your bud likes a chick, she'll suddenly be SO much hotter.

 

[BenedictGomez]

It goes back to the conversation we were having earlier in the thread regarding these guys - and Chris Rock in particular - whining about how they won't play on college campuses anymore due to "pc culture". My counter to that is it's disengenious because why would you if you can sell out the garden.

You clearly have no idea just how much colleges pay for a < 2 hour comedy set from a big name comic.

HINT: It's more than some posters here make in a year

 

[Jack Be Quick]

You clearly have no idea just how much colleges pay for a < 2 hour comedy set from a big name comic.

HINT: It's more than some posters here make in a year

I'm sure it's close to what MSG or The Mirage pay.

HINT: it's not.

 

[Bleedred]

Buck up dude. Of the universal truths in the universe, two of my favorites are (courtesy of my Mom, and my boss's chinese proverb):
1. Everything changes
2. God put eyes on the front of your head to look forwards, not backwards.

You're all good.

Edit: I should add #3: If your bud likes a chick, she'll suddenly be SO much hotter.

Haha thanks.

 

[BenedictGomez]

Great news! You know that state financial health list I posted a few weeks back, well this years list is out, and New Jersey is no longer dead last

Woo-hoo!! We're now #48 rather than #50.

The bad news is we really didn't get better, but thanks to Connecticut & Illinois for "getting worse" than us.

NJ: Long-term liabilities are higher than the national average, at 388% of total assets, or $18,928 per capita. Total unfunded pension liabilities that are guaranteed to be paid are $272.54 billion, or 49% of state personal income.

= LULZ

State Fiscal Rankings

 

[BenedictGomez]

I'm sure it's close to what MSG or The Mirage pay.

HINT: it's not.

How many comics do you know that are even big enough to be allowed to perform at MSG? The answer is very few.

Even were that not the case, comics play 1,000 to 3,000 seat shows all the time, that's the normal venue for most big comics. In fact, the average college audience is likely larger than their normal shows.

Heck, Radio City Music Hall only seats 5,000 or so, and that's a BIG venue for a comic. So I'm not sure I understand what point you think you're making; guys like Jeff Dunham, Jim Gaffigan, and Dave Chappelle regularly play <=4,000 seat venues, and all of those guys are filty rich.

 

[RangerDoggo]

How is Oklahoma at number 5? I’ve heard things about how the state has pissed away the windfall they got from the fracking boom. All they have to show for it is regular earthquakes.

 

[Darkauron]

Because lists like that are always flawed in one way or another