OT: The Avalounge (mod warning - No Politics)

[PAZ]

Trying, but it's not easy to understand whst helps and doesn't when it's a new experience. Have you tried couples counseling? I wasnt sure if couples made more sense than trying to encourage her to get her own therapist if needed.

My fiancee and I have a monthly session for almost 2 years now (it helps our benefits covers 100% of it and we do 95% of our sessions virtually). It's weird to say but we both look forward to each session now.

I think counselling still has some stigma associated with it as people associate it with there being something that needs to be fixed. But in reality it provides a safe space to bring up uncomfortable topics and understand what your partner is going through. Sometimes we don't have much to bring up, but our counsellor is really good at directing conversation to a more future-oriented outlook.

If you do go this route, my suggestions would be find a counsellor that you can relate to (i.e. similar age/demographic) and make sure both of you and your spouse want to do it. You may not click with the first one either, so don't be afraid of switching to a new one if you can tell it's not working.

Edit: Forgot to add that my partner and I tried individual counselling, but it's so much more taxxing and emotionally draining than doing couples counselling. In couples, sometimes the conversation is 80-90% focused on one-person, but it really helps having your person there during those hard conversations.

 

[Lonewolfe2015]

Edit: Forgot to add that my partner and I tried individual counselling, but it's so much more taxxing and emotionally draining than doing couples counselling. In couples, sometimes the conversation is 80-90% focused on one-person, but it really helps having your person there during those hard conversations.

This is great advice, thanks PAZ. I hadn't ever considered that, maybe that's why she struggled to keep going to her first one years ago. Maybe it'll be easier if I take the lead on finding some options we can both go to. Won't be easy with a new born, but worth it to give her the support she could need.

Appreciate everything everyone. Love this place.

 

[famicommander]

So glad the Dune franchise has finally found success on the screen.

Legendary Pictures is allegedly planning to move forward with a Children of Dune adaptation after Dune Messiah (which should start filming by August). No word on if they can convince Denis Villeneuve to return for this one, but I sure hope so. He's the best active director in my opinion.

Legendary is also looking at producing another TV series, in addition to Prophecy which HBO has already renewed for another season.

David Lynch's Dune is an insult to the franchise and everyone who ever enjoyed it. There are no words in the English language descriptive and powerful enough to relay just how much I hate that piece of trash.

The 2000s Sci Fi channel miniseries were actually fairly decent, but they were limited by a TV budget and the technology of the day. But at least the guy who adapted them actually bothered to read the Dune novels this time, unlike David Lynch who was presumably too busy trying to figure out a way to suck his own butthole.

 

[Lonewolfe2015]

The 2000s Sci Fi channel miniseries were actually fairly decent, but they were limited by a TV budget and the technology of the day.

Fwiw, the German Blu Ray of Frank Herbert's has the full movie/show in English and it's seriously satisfying to watch if you're a Dune fan. It's my favorite adaptation, even over the newest movies.

 

[famicommander]

Fwiw, the German Blu Ray of Frank Herbert's has the full movie/show in English and it's seriously satisfying to watch if you're a Dune fan. It's my favorite adaptation, even over the newest movies.

I have the director's cut of both the Dune and Children of Dune series on Blu Ray. I like them (and hey, early James McAvoy appearance) but I like the Villeneuve version more.

Of course, nothing will ever compare to Frank's original six novels. Even when he got weird and horny in the later books.

 

[famicommander]

Speaking of Dune, Ridley Scott's script from his aborted pre-Lynch Dune adaptation has leaked out.

It's very weird and very horny. Paul has sex with his mother and Shadout Mapes has three boobs and a penis.

Glad he ended up making Blade Runner instead of this.

 

[The Merchant]

Speaking of Dune, Ridley Scott's script from his aborted pre-Lynch Dune adaptation has leaked out.

It's very weird and very horny. Paul has sex with his mother and Shadout Mapes has three boobs and a penis.

Glad he ended up making Blade Runner instead of this.

I mean if my mom was Rebecca Ferguson.....

 

[The Merchant]

Stay safe, SoCal Avs fans...we're in Pasadena and it looks like an absolute hellscape

 

[The Moops]

Stay safe, SoCal Avs fans...we're in Pasadena and it looks like an absolute hellscape

We have an office in WeHo and the pictures I've seen are wild

 

[The Merchant]

Had a funny interaction in one of my fantasy leagues today. I offered a trade of Igor and Pietrangelo for Blackwood and Toews that was accepted and the guy one placement behind me must've forgotten to take his meds or something. Blew up my DM's accusing me of cheating by trading to myself because the trade was so "lopsided." lol yeah man I just waited until January to unveil my master plan of trading a consensus top-5 goalie and one of my top picks for a guy that was picked up on waivers a few weeks ago. Really nefarious stuff. He even changed his team name to "REPORT LOPSIDED TRADE TO Y!"

Been playing fantasy for a long time now, but that was definitely a first.

 

[Pokecheque]

Speaking of Dune, Ridley Scott's script from his aborted pre-Lynch Dune adaptation has leaked out.

It's very weird and very horny. Paul has sex with his mother and Shadout Mapes has three boobs and a penis.

Glad he ended up making Blade Runner instead of this.

How the f*** did he manage to come up with weirder shit than Alejandro Jodorowsky!?

 

[famicommander]

How the f*** did he manage to come up with weirder shit than Alejandro Jodorowsky!?

I'd take Jodorowsky's Dune over Lynch's horrible, pretentious garbage though.

 

[expatriatedtexan]

I'd take Jodorowsky's Dune over Lynch's horrible, pretentious garbage though.

As much as I've enjoyed the new Dune, as much as I kinda thought the sci-fy miniseries was not the absolute worst thing I've ever seen, and as confused as I was as a pre-teenager watching Sting pretend to be a science-fiction badass, I'm not sure how anyone takes the series seriously. Everything that has been put on screen has sucked.

The biggest problem with the new one is just the complete waste of space. They are expecting us to believe societies have created these buildings with 200 f***ing feet ceilings like it's nothing and just litered them around the universe...even to a backassward planet like Arrakis?

The scale of Dennis Villeneuve's vision makes the actual world seem completely out of whack. There simply are not enough people in this world to inhabit it much less control it.