OT: The Avalounge (mod warning - No Politics)

[PAZ]

Trying, but it's not easy to understand whst helps and doesn't when it's a new experience. Have you tried couples counseling? I wasnt sure if couples made more sense than trying to encourage her to get her own therapist if needed.

My fiancee and I have a monthly session for almost 2 years now (it helps our benefits covers 100% of it and we do 95% of our sessions virtually). It's weird to say but we both look forward to each session now.

I think counselling still has some stigma associated with it as people associate it with there being something that needs to be fixed. But in reality it provides a safe space to bring up uncomfortable topics and understand what your partner is going through. Sometimes we don't have much to bring up, but our counsellor is really good at directing conversation to a more future-oriented outlook.

If you do go this route, my suggestions would be find a counsellor that you can relate to (i.e. similar age/demographic) and make sure both of you and your spouse want to do it. You may not click with the first one either, so don't be afraid of switching to a new one if you can tell it's not working.

Edit: Forgot to add that my partner and I tried individual counselling, but it's so much more taxxing and emotionally draining than doing couples counselling. In couples, sometimes the conversation is 80-90% focused on one-person, but it really helps having your person there during those hard conversations.

 

[Lonewolfe2015]

Edit: Forgot to add that my partner and I tried individual counselling, but it's so much more taxxing and emotionally draining than doing couples counselling. In couples, sometimes the conversation is 80-90% focused on one-person, but it really helps having your person there during those hard conversations.

This is great advice, thanks PAZ. I hadn't ever considered that, maybe that's why she struggled to keep going to her first one years ago. Maybe it'll be easier if I take the lead on finding some options we can both go to. Won't be easy with a new born, but worth it to give her the support she could need.

Appreciate everything everyone. Love this place.

 

[famicommander]

So glad the Dune franchise has finally found success on the screen.

Legendary Pictures is allegedly planning to move forward with a Children of Dune adaptation after Dune Messiah (which should start filming by August). No word on if they can convince Denis Villeneuve to return for this one, but I sure hope so. He's the best active director in my opinion.

Legendary is also looking at producing another TV series, in addition to Prophecy which HBO has already renewed for another season.

David Lynch's Dune is an insult to the franchise and everyone who ever enjoyed it. There are no words in the English language descriptive and powerful enough to relay just how much I hate that piece of trash.

The 2000s Sci Fi channel miniseries were actually fairly decent, but they were limited by a TV budget and the technology of the day. But at least the guy who adapted them actually bothered to read the Dune novels this time, unlike David Lynch who was presumably too busy trying to figure out a way to suck his own butthole.

 

[Lonewolfe2015]

The 2000s Sci Fi channel miniseries were actually fairly decent, but they were limited by a TV budget and the technology of the day.

Fwiw, the German Blu Ray of Frank Herbert's has the full movie/show in English and it's seriously satisfying to watch if you're a Dune fan. It's my favorite adaptation, even over the newest movies.

 

[famicommander]

Fwiw, the German Blu Ray of Frank Herbert's has the full movie/show in English and it's seriously satisfying to watch if you're a Dune fan. It's my favorite adaptation, even over the newest movies.

I have the director's cut of both the Dune and Children of Dune series on Blu Ray. I like them (and hey, early James McAvoy appearance) but I like the Villeneuve version more.

Of course, nothing will ever compare to Frank's original six novels. Even when he got weird and horny in the later books.