TD Charlie
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- Sep 10, 2007
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Oh i totally buy thatFirst of all, I love that.
Secondly - and this might be controversial, not sure - but I feel like in today's day and age doctors might potentially cause unnecessary stress in expecting/new parents (I'm focused only on this context right now) - yours is a shining example that they really don't know for sure.
When my wife was still pregnant with my son, we were told he a) had an echogenic bowel that was a concern for a variety of things, b) he had a "sandal gap" which is a concern for a bunch of things, c) he had fluid around his heart which was a concern for a bunch of things, d) he had a valve issue, e) he had a spot on his brain that was a concern
None of it ended up manifesting. Like, at all.
I get being cautious, and I get preparing parents for potentially tough news - but I dunno, I think there is a conversation to be had around balance. We REALLY struggled throughout the pregnancy because of this.
I get why they said certain things to us, and they did often add disclaimers such as “it’s the brain, you never really know.” But then on the next breath they’d predict some other hardship. They were right about some things, but overall this kid has made them eat their words.
And in your case, i can’t even imagine all the stress that put on your wife and as a result of that also on the unborn child. That has to be hell on the body.