You guys sound like management consultants. It’s weird. Stop looking at this as a business opportunity. There’s a whole industry of bullshit where people try to paint this as some sort of failure bc you haven’t studied the skills or analyzed women enough to be successful. This shit is the stuff of sociopaths.
Just be yourself and try to meet people like minded or interested in things you are. Don’t try and anticipate what women want you to be - it doesn’t work that way.
I'm not going to start an argument. Honestly, between my day job and YouTube channel I don't post here much anymore during the offseason other than the big days.
The entire point of my posts regarding relationships is to be encouraging and ensure the mental health of others. I have known guys (and girls) who have made terrible life changing decisions that have cost them thousands of dollars, years, because of being cheated on or they were in love with someone.
I myself have been in relationships with very troubled people.
When you or anyone get stuck/obsessed/oneitus/whatever you want to call it (look up the definition of limerence) it's dangerous short term or long term.
I'm not going to look it up but that thing in The Catcher In The Rye where the teacher tells Holden to write down your own experiences and journeys to benefit others as it may save them. You get where I'm going.
It's also hard to meet people now during the heigh of a pandemic. In my big group chat with a healthy number of guys and gals I grew up with, they have friends and colleagues who were lonely and decided to go to Vegas, Hawaii, etc. and came back with covid. Why? To try and meet Mr. or Mrs. Right or get an Instagram selfie.
Being yourself is cool and keeping it 100 is important, but what if you're a little socially awkward or nervous? You gotta improve that shit homie. Not every woman is going to be cool with it.
I post here too as an example. I still think about a woman I had a lot in common with who got burned very bad in a previous thing and I always had her back, but she walked the hell out of my life almost ten months ago. Despite being flirtatious the second I showed romantic feelings it essentially ended our friendship.
I got that other thing far away too I've talked about.
I have some low level options but I've made the decision just sit it out a few more months and work on me.
It's not a woe is me. I don't need that from here. I don't want people to feel pity or vilify any women. What I want is everyone on this board to feel good and be in a good state of mind knowing things will be ok, you got options. Just because someone doesn't think you're awesome doesn't mean you aren't, and you can improve for yourself not for anyone.
May we all be here or when HF Boards goes full chip implant so we can talk Rangers hockey for the next five decades.
