Update to this: I sarcastically said she should bring me home dinner from her job. And she did. Exactly what I jokingly said she should. What is this sorcery?!
That's a good sign!
Enjoy the honeymoon phase. It's so much fun getting to know someone, going on new adventures, and hopefully falling in love.
The oldest is just having all sorts of issues in general and just creates a lot of drama and is selfish in general.
They have broken contact with me and everyone on my side of the family over a year ago. And given the stories I get from the younger two, while I am sad to not have any relationship with them right now, I am not missing the constant drama and BS.
Aw man, sorry to read that, Jim. That has to be tough.
Update:
My wife and I had a really good talk last night. I told her I was feeling defeated. That it feels like she wants me to be the one to end it so she doesn't have to hurt me.
She said she's regretted not being as emotionally and physically open the past few weeks, and that she still loves me and wants to make it work. She's deleting a lot of her social media because she's been noticing she is glued on her phone even when we're hanging out. We have a date night on Sat without the little guy, so that should be a lot of fun.
I've gone through a similar phase in our relationship, so Im not throwing any stones. The intimacy (not just sex) died after our son was born, and I told her that may have caused me to inadvertently become distant. That's a big thing in a relationship for me. Even pillow talk goes a long way for me, so when that went away- I pulled away, and she started feeling neglected. I need to be better about expressing myself, which isn't easy when youre raised by your dad not to cry or show many emotions. Luckily, my mom showed me a ton of love, and would always be there for me when I cried as a kid or needed someone to lean on, so I'm not a complete lost cause!
I'm optimistic, but we both still have our concerns. I'm just glad we're both seeing the flaws in ourselves that are hurting our relationship, and want to grow so we get back to what we used to have.
