Bolded is exactly this. Man, I'm sure some of us can relate to this in our personal lives, no?
A bit oversharing, but I worked for a huge tech company for 8 years, so roughly the same amount of time Marner has been a Leaf lol. It wasn't my first job, but my most formative job. It's "a prestigious company" and pays above market rate [I personally don't give a shit about the prestige, but definitely the money was good]. I had a mid-senior leadership position and was climbing the ladder quite well. The nature of the work in its purest form was fun.
On the flip side, work was 25% of the fun stuff, and 75% was just a toxic environment. Constant bickering, backstabbing, politics, etc, especially when we had bad quarters or things weren't going well within the department. There was a lot of finger-pointing, and I had to also weave the politics to protect both me and my team to survive. Given that it was 60 hours a week a huge chunk of my life, I noticed that it started changing me into this person that I disliked. My partner started calling me out on this, which only made me more irascible until several close friends and family hinted at the same. I went on a week long zen retreat away from everyone from work, and that's when I realized how much this was true.
Shortly after, with a baby along the way and us examing how hectic life was in London including my work, we decided to pack our bags to move to a Southern Mediterreanean country where we still have great jobs. It pays less than that BigTech job and most people don't know the names of the companies that we work for, but I'm in a much happier place both professionally and in my personal life. From a cost of living perspective too, we're as well off as we were before (London and Toronto are crazy expensive) thanks to a few tax breaks in this Mediterranean area and lower cost of living. We also have a different set of friends who are on the same wavelength as us, and feel zero pressure to "keep up with the Joneses" to feel content.
On the flipside, when I go on LinkedIn and see what some ex-colleagues are doing in terms of innovative work, there's of course a part of me that misses it. It's not the exact same parallel, but I can imagine it as the quandary of picking 1) being a star RW in the hockey capital fo the world versus 2) playing somewhere like Carolina or Pittsburgh.