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Fellas, don't know why I haven't mentioned this before but I'm officially becoming a father to a baby boy in March. If anyone has any advice for a first-time parent, it is more than welcome. Thrilled that he will be able to cheer for an exciting competitive team as opposed to what we've had to bear for so many years. Here's to many many more years of Jayden magic.

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Roric said:
Fellas, don't know why I haven't mentioned this before but I'm officially becoming a father to a baby boy in March. If anyone has any advice for a first-time parent, it is more than welcome. Thrilled that he will be able to cheer for an exciting competitive team as opposed to what we've had to bear for so many years. Here's to many many more years of Jayden magic.

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Congrats man! My advice: sleep now. And get any partying, trips, hobbies, etc out of your system between now and then… you will likely be a hermit for the first six months or so.
 
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Roric said:
Fellas, don't know why I haven't mentioned this before but I'm officially becoming a father to a baby boy in March. If anyone has any advice for a first-time parent, it is more than welcome. Thrilled that he will be able to cheer for an exciting competitive team as opposed to what we've had to bear for so many years. Here's to many many more years of Jayden magic.

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Congrats! It's hard work and you won't sleep for a while, but it'll be the best job you ever have!
 
Roric said:
Fellas, don't know why I haven't mentioned this before but I'm officially becoming a father to a baby boy in March. If anyone has any advice for a first-time parent, it is more than welcome. Thrilled that he will be able to cheer for an exciting competitive team as opposed to what we've had to bear for so many years. Here's to many many more years of Jayden magic.

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Congrats Roric. Here's my advice and you won't hear this anywhere else.

Parenting is hard, like the hardest thing you'll likely ever do, and its relentless, 24x7x365 for a few decades at least. Even the very best parents, make mistakes at times, lose their patience at times, yell and get frustrated with each other at times, or with the child. Even the best parents get exhausted and just need a freaking break from time to time.

So my advice, is, forgive yourself when you're not perfect, because nobody is. Forgive yourself when you don't meet your own expectations, because I think we all feel like a crappy parent at least a few times over the journey. You're not a crappy parent, you're probably going to be a great parent, given you're already seeking input on how to be better. Forgive your spouse when he/she isn't perfect either, they may be carrying a heavier load you are at the moment and they're not going to be perfect either. Raising good kids take patience by the ton, so when you run out of patience, be kind to yourself, take a break, remember that no one else is doing this perfectly either, so its OK if you're not perfect at it.

Other than that, momma's don't let your babies grow up to be Cowboys fans.

Enjoy!!!!
 
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Roric said:
Fellas, don't know why I haven't mentioned this before but I'm officially becoming a father to a baby boy in March. If anyone has any advice for a first-time parent, it is more than welcome. Thrilled that he will be able to cheer for an exciting competitive team as opposed to what we've had to bear for so many years. Here's to many many more years of Jayden magic.

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To add to what @kicksavedave said —

First kids are *really* hard. Changes your entire marriage dynamic. Take this to heart please.

2 things:

What you thought your wife wanted/needed/loved is going to change, the absolute minute your son is born. No one tells you this. But it does. She will want basic stuff, that was never a thing before (sleep, time to herself, household stuff getting managed, etc etc….). Which means basically not YOU being who you were, but who she now needs you to be. Ensure you keep YOUR lines of communication open, as it becomes harder and harder to find time to talk. Believe me on this, please. There is a reason most marriages die before kids turn 5 (it’s a stat, look it up)

Your incoming son will be MUCH stronger/healthier/able to adapt than you can possibly believe. First kids are so stressful because you don’t know shit about being a parent and they don’t know shit about being a kid. So it’s harder than it needs to be. Everything is so MACRO sized in what’s “actually happening” around you. So be the source of calm and positive influence in the family. It matters. Don’t make it about you.

It’s an amazing journey. As most have said, best one you will ever take on. Easily. Most rewarding. But it’s not easy. No lies. Not at all.

I’ve got 3, and each one is easier and harder at the same time. Easier on the body (less tiring), easier on the emotions (don’t get so worked up on stuff), but harder on the brain (how the hell are we going to manage all of this??).

I wish you all the best sir.
 
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