OMFG, talk about bending the narrative to fit your preconceived notions.
The argument was
obviously first Quinn, and then Ruff, coming over to say "nice goal, Tony, but that doesn't change the fact that you
royally ****ed up taking that penalty; I don't care if you did score when you got out of the box, you can't be taking calls like that."
Followed by hothead Tony, unable to just accept their (obviously 100% correct) assessment and return a "yes, sir, I'll do better" as he should, then mouthing off at his coaches about how he had been mistreated by the refs first (which while absolutely
true, also doesn't mitigate the
utter boneheadedness of what he did next).
The reason that they all subsequently characterized the exchange as "talking about the refs" is because that's the closest possible characterization they could give without a) blatantly contradicting what the camera showed and b) airing their dirty laundry in public.
Any other interpretation is asinine, and self-serving.