OT: The OT Thread: To move or not to move, that is the question.

[Chainshot]

My ex and her current husband are leaving the country this weekend. They won't be back in North America for five months. And when they are, it won't be in the US.

 

[TheMistyStranger]

My ex and her current husband are leaving the country this weekend. They won't be back in North America for five months. And when they are, it won't be in the US.

I want to say "good for them" but I also want to say "screw her", so...uh....

 

[Chainshot]

I want to say "good for them" but I also want to say "screw her", so...uh....

Same.

 

[Gras]

Absolutelty. That's what makes the decision so tough. Moving 200 miles up north may present the same issues in 10 years or sooner. Wild times we're living in!

Like when it becomes the 51st State

 

[TheMistyStranger]

I zipped up my hoodie, threw on my sunglasses and saw myself in the mirror. it was then that I realized that my medical leave attire could best be classified as unibomber chic.

 

[oldgoalie]

My ex and her current husband are leaving the country this weekend. They won't be back in North America for five months. And when they are, it won't be in the US.

CR?

 

[Chainshot]

CR?

Spain, Croatia, Scotland and then the Maritimes in Canada. I have the dog and responsibility of being the parent near our children. Again.

 

[TheMistyStranger]

Another chapter of edits down. I've also decided to do one final submission on this, to a relatively new independent publisher. If that is rejected, then it's to self-pub alley we go, though I may steer clear of Amazon's KDP program because, honestly, f*** Amazon.

 

[oldgoalie]

Spain, Croatia, Scotland and then the Maritimes in Canada. I have the dog and responsibility of being the parent near our children. Again.

of course.
no, what I meant was after that, you said they're not coming back to the US. where to then?

 

[Chainshot]

of course.
no, what I meant was after that, you said they're not coming back to the US. where to then?

I haven’t really talked to them about it so from what I can tell, they’re gonna figure it out after they spend some time abroad. If something works out really well, they might stay in Spain.

 

[TheMistyStranger]

I haven’t really talked to them about it so from what I can tell, they’re gonna figure it out after they spend some time abroad. If something works out really well, they might stay in Spain.

I'm sure your kids appreciate your stability

 

[Chainshot]

I'm sure your kids appreciate your stability

I hope so. The youngest one needs to maintain residency in Florida to maintain her scholarships so it looks like if nothing else my permanent address is gonna be here for a few more years. I just wish the job market wasn’t terrible where I’m at, being made worse by various management agencies, no longer hiring, even temporarily. When I start thinking about it, my anxiety kicks and overdrive.

 

[oldgoalie]

I haven’t really talked to them about it so from what I can tell, they’re gonna figure it out after they spend some time abroad. If something works out really well, they might stay in Spain.

The kids (if they chose) would have an interesting destination to visit. Meanwhile, go be the good dad that you are.

 

[Chainshot]

The kids (if they chose) would have an interesting destination to visit. Meanwhile, go be the good dad that you are.

I mean, we did take them to live abroad and they are both excellent travelers as a result.

I’m just so tired of the anxiety at this point.

 

[Dubi Doo]

I mean, we did take them to live abroad and they are both excellent travelers as a result.

I’m just so tired of the anxiety at this point.

Sorry to read this, Chain. Anxiety can be overwhelming. I dealt with it a lot during my separation. I also couldn't imagine living in Florida.

Just yesterday we had a code on our unit. It was a 21 year old kid. I came back from running an errand for someone on the unit, and the mom of the kid was being rolled off the unit in an office chair screaming "Not my baby. What happened?! That's my baby!", and that scene has been playing on repeat in my head over the past day. I don't think I've ever cried that much over something on the ICU. Just her...shrieks. Anyone who has had to witness a mother lose a son/daughter knows what I'm talking about.

So, something to talk to the therapist about, but I'm sure my anxiety heightens with traumatic moments like that. Tonight, I'll have a few whiskeys on the rocks, get a nice buzz, and...probably get another good cry in.

Good news is the kid survived. Our provider took it really hard. He felt a bit at fault feeling as if he missed some warning signs. I don't know how they do it. Those guys are built differently.