OT: The OT Thread: At least it's not cold out (Warning in post 368)

[TheMistyStranger]

My sleep has been horrible for the last two weeks with the church drama going on.


If that is how it plays out, I will resign from council, leave my key to the church on the table, and our family will never set foot in that church for a long time, if ever.


But, I know that if this goes badly, there will be some good to come from it.

Best of luck to you, JB. As someone who went through a year+ of horrible sleep because of work, I'm sorry you're going through that. It's awful and it affects everything in your life.

That's 100% the way to play it. If they're too closed-minded to admit what they've done and own up to it, then it's better to be away from them.

 

[Chainshot]

Well my father is in surgery now for his spiral fracture. It took a week and he's spent the last couple of days hospitalized. There are a lot of moving parts, most of them not good, contributing to how this happened and then needing the ambulance and hospital stay.

 

[Beerz]

Well my father is in surgery now for his spiral fracture. It took a week and he's spent the last couple of days hospitalized. There are a lot of moving parts, most of them not good, contributing to how this happened and then needing the ambulance and hospital stay.

Good luck to him!

 

[Chainshot]

Good luck to him!

Thanks. I'm going to be spending this week down there helping take care of him. Leaving tomorrow before he gets discharged.

 

[Jim Bob]

Thanks. I'm going to be spending this week down there helping take care of him. Leaving tomorrow before he gets discharged.

Good luck to the both of you.

And just a reminder that getting old sucks. But, it is better than the alternative.

 

[Jim Bob]

Best of luck to you, JB. As someone who went through a year+ of horrible sleep because of work, I'm sorry you're going through that. It's awful and it affects everything in your life.

That's 100% the way to play it. If they're too closed-minded to admit what they've done and own up to it, then it's better to be away from them.

Thanks.

I hope I can sleep better starting tomorrow night. Not expecting tonight to be restful unless things go so much better than I am expecting them to go.

And I am clear minded with my approach because of all the wise counsel I've gotten over the last two weeks. My ordination mentor and the meeting we had on Tuesday has been huge for me.

But, I've also talked to both my parents who have plenty of church leadership experience, themselves. I also reached out to three of my most trusted seminary professors, one of which teaches the ethics class at the seminary. Everyone is backing up my take on the situation.

I never go into big things like this without checking in with others I trust to try and make a wise, well informed, decision.

 

[Chainshot]

Good luck to the both of you.

And just a reminder that getting old sucks. But, it is better than the alternative.

He seems mostly embarrassed that this happened. And chagrined because my parents were supposed to be snowbirding starting this coming Sunday. They had a trip all planned out.

Part of it is now going to be my mother with my daughter, going to Washington for an event where my mom is picking up an award from an organization she is in. They originally were gonna head on to Western New York from DC, but with dad convalescing in Florida mom is going to return and reevaluate plans.

My sister has offered to fly her to DC but of course my mom being my mom has decided she’s going to do the 2 1/2 days worth of driving for her rather than figuring out a flight on Monday and staying overnight Monday to Tuesday to go to her event Tuesday night and Wednesday. My sister has enough Delta miles to take a flight to the Kuiper Belt, a hold over From Olive, her work travel over the years. I also have a slew of friends in the Baltimore area and just north of DC who would’ve been able to either pick her up or drop her off or even put her up for a night and of course that’s too much assistance to ask of anyone. Because stubborn.

 

[Jim Bob]

He seems mostly embarrassed that this happened. And chagrined because my parents were supposed to be snowboarding starting this coming Sunday. They had a trip all planned out.

Part of it is now going to be my mother with my daughter, going to Washington for an event where my mom is picking up an award from an organization she is in. They originally were gonna head on to Western New York from DC, but with dad convalescing in Florida mom is going to return and reevaluate plans.

My sister has offered to fly her to DC but of course my mom being my mom has decided she’s going to do the 2 1/2 days worth of driving for her rather than figuring out a flight on Monday and staying overnight Monday to Tuesday to go to her event Tuesday night and Wednesday. My sister has enough Delta miles to take a flight to the Kuiper Belt, a hold over From Olive, her work travel over the years. I also have a slew of friends in the Baltimore area and just north of DC who would’ve been able to either pick her up or drop her off or even put her up for a night and of course that’s too much assistance to ask of anyone. Because stubborn.

Parents being stubborn? No way!

 

[Chainshot]

Parents being stubborn? No way!

The life lesson in this might be for my children, seeing the stubbornness and letting me know that this is not the way.

 

[KiwiGriff]

My sleep has been horrible for the last two weeks with the church drama going on.

I'm glad you hopefully have a turning point (I really wanted to use the word climax, as it's technically right, but that word is gone for everyday use) in sight. I'm not sure which way I want it to go for you. Not getting your way might be better. Clean cut. Leave. End of drama. Getting your way might be a moral victory but lots of work, and not the end of the difficulties. The best thing is that you've chosen your hill, and no matter the outcome you'll sleep better for having stood up and spoken for what you believe.

The life lesson in this might be for my children, seeing the stubbornness and letting me know that this is not the way.

I'm so grateful to mine. I raised the topic of Power of Attorney woth my dad once and he was not interested. He's always been great with money. Then about a year kater, he voluntarily asked me to get added to their accounts, then a bit later, full ePOAs. All from my parents' side. They knew when they were far enough to be on the tipping point, but not so far that they weren't right to make the decision anymore. Now fast forward and I've been completely managing their money for 2 years and my sister lives with them and manages their health and well-being.

 

[KiwiGriff]

Also, New Zealand gets the best country in the world for work-life balance. We have our problems, but yeah it's pretty good here on this front.

The stunning island country named best in the world for work-life balance (again)

It’s a world-leader when it comes to annual leave and public happiness

www.timeout.com

 

[Chainshot]

I'm glad you hopefully have a turning point (I really wanted to use the word climax, as it's technically right, but that word is gone for everyday use) in sight. I'm not sure which way I want it to go for you. Not getting your way might be better. Clean cut. Leave. End of drama. Getting your way might be a moral victory but lots of work, and not the end of the difficulties. The best thing is that you've chosen your hill, and no matter the outcome you'll sleep better for having stood up and spoken for what you believe.

I'm so grateful to mine. I raised the topic of Power of Attorney woth my dad once and he was not interested. He's always been great with money. Then about a year kater, he voluntarily asked me to get added to their accounts, then a bit later, full ePOAs. All from my parents' side. They knew when they were far enough to be on the tipping point, but not so far that they weren't right to make the decision anymore. Now fast forward and I've been completely managing their money for 2 years and my sister lives with them and manages their health and well-being.

My dad had power of attorney for my grandparents when they used to travel. While I’m not that for them, my sister is. Granted she’s the one with a MBA and has been a CFO for years. I’m just an unemployed forestry schmuck. She’s also executor. I know they have their house in a trust so that if something does fall one of them, it won’t cost them their home.

I was better prepared in my previous relationship. We had POA, wills, healthcare proxies the works. Working on that at the moment feels like setting my eyeballs on fire.