OT: Relationship Advice Thread

SnowblindNYR

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Just ask her out now or wait 2 months and then ask her. I never heard of asking someone out 2 months in advance. What's the difference between waiting 2 months to ask and asking now 2 months in advance? Do you think she'll reject all of the advances of other guys because she promised to go out on a date with you in January? And if she's leaving in January anyway why not ask her out now?
 
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Kane One

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Just ask her out now or wait 2 months and then ask her. I never heard of asking someone out 2 months in advance. What's the difference between waiting 2 months to ask and asking now 2 months in advance? Do you think she'll reject all of the advances of other guys because she promised to go out on a date with you in January? And if she's leaving in January anyway why not ask her out now?
Alright. But to answer the bolded, of course not, this was one of the reasons that made me think this was a stupid idea.
 
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Alright. But to answer the bolded, of course not, this was one of the reasons that made me think this was a stupid idea.

The point is in my opinion since she's leaving in January you can ask her now. If not, wait 2 months to ask her. Probably unlikely she'll meet someone before then. What you don't want to do is basically have her think that it's a strange thing to do and not get any benefit. I guess the benefit could be if you're just too shy to ask her for right now and she can say "let's go out now".
 
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Boris Zubov

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There's no rule. It's a case by case basis. Anyone that tells you there's a rule doesn't know what he's talking about. This thread is full of people telling me not to date my coworker. I'm currently sitting here as we speak with my coworker. She’s now my wife.
I'm one of those guys who was telling you not to do it. And although I'm thrilled to death that it had a happy ending, I'd still give you or anyone else the same advice now or in the future. Just because it worked out for you & plenty of others, doesn't mean it can't easily go south in a hurry.

The bottom line being, it's advice, not gospel. Everyone has to do what they think is right for themselves. When I was in my 20's, I hooked up with coworkers like it was Tinder. However, back then we didn't live in today's corporate climate. If I was in the same situation in 2024, I would think long & hard about putting myself in a situation that might cost me my job.

With that said, If I knew a chick I liked was leaving, that would be an opening for me. I wouldn't wait the two months, I'd just go for it.
 

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