Inspired by
@kihei's recent selection of
Two for the Road for our movie club, I set myself out on an interesting little movie marathon this past weekend. MARRIAGE STORIES. I'll save my thoughts on
Two for the Road for movie club, but I followed that up with:
Possession
Before Midnight
Scenes from a Marriage (the long one)
Eyes Wide Shut
This was certainly not the most jovial 15 hours or so that I've ever spent watching movies. But good lord was it satisfying. (FWIW no one worry about me, my wife and I are great
) So it wasn't a cathartic thing that I was going though to watch these couples dissolve and devolve and destroy. Truthfully, I'd been meaning to watch
Scenes for a long time and had been wanting to revisit both
Possession and
Eyes Wide Shut for a while. While watching
Two for the Road and realizing I had a weekend fairly open to allow for lots of couch time, it occurred to me I should just do this. Didn't hurt that the scripts for my two bookends –
Road and
Eyes – were both written/co-written by the same guy.
As acts of filmmaking and acting all are masterpieces or damn near so. Each has their nuances but each has its own pulse on people and relationships, love, jealousy, sex, need, aging, etc. Each feels very lived in. Even
Possession and
Eyes Wide Shut which are both elevated or exaggerated (to say the least) spring from kernels of reality.
This isn't shocking but I did notice the preponderance of the male's POV. Makes sense given the writers and directors. The men often (though not always) are consumed by jealousy or need. The women in several cases take the emotional abuse but they still want the man. I see that as possibly true, but also maybe a little wish fulfilly on the creator's part. I don't feel that it's right or wrong, but it did jump out across the movies.
Midnight and
Scenes give the women the most depth and agency. Watching these all together and
Midnight does an interesting filp where the women is more of the driver of the anger and the man is the one working to keep them together. He's quite charming doing so, which also is a little wish fulfilly.
There is a lot of discomfort here.
Scenes in particular just nails some uncomfortably real relationship conversations and realizations. There's safety in watching it, not living it, but there's also an upsetting mix of been-there-done-that and a little there-but-for-the-grace-of-god-go-I. Maybe not for all, but I certainly felt it.
Also found it interesting at how small a role children played in these stories.
Possession (Bob, LOL) has the most prominent use of a child, but he ain't that important. Kids are present and discussed but in the end, it's about the couple and their wants and desires (sometimes children be damned). That wasn't on my mind going in, but did stand out as I progressed through. I think kids can be used as a bit of an emotional cheat in general in stories so I appreciated that these films largely keep the focus on the adults and their adult thoughts/needs/flaws.
Each of these are certainly worth their own deeper dives. Plenty to talk about. But do I have any other, broader thoughts? It's potentially a punishing subject depending on the viewer but again, across the board, I think these are all powerfully made, superbly acted films.
Well, maybe except for Nicole Kidman who clearly has never smoked a joint in her life.