River Meadow
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It's weird here at times. I was called a hater of Kirby Dach, and to this day, there are long-time posters who won't interact with me because of my takes on his game. He ended up injured but up till that point, he was in the running for the green jacket, even when the team had turned it's fortunes around.
I have been accused of being a Xhekaj lover/worshipper, when, in reality, I loved the physical element he brought to the team and how it allowed everyone to grow taller and bigger on the ice.
People defend David Savard because he kills penalties lol. That's not the only thing he kills, he is killing the careers of Struble and Xhekaj while he rides off into the sunset.
Message boards are strange. Even when the team is doing well, there are some who are more fixated on grinding axes than forgetting old grudges and enjoying the moment.
Yeah... I really dislike the "all or nothing" type of approach that we sometime see. I think it's definitely a newer thing as we didn't see this as much back in the day.
Interestingly, I think the below adds a lot of insight into this 'hater' phenomena and why a lot of people resort to it:
Pitfalls of Blanketly Labeling as "Hater"
Stifles Genuine Dialogue: When disagreement or criticism—no matter how politely expressed—is dismissed as "hate," it shuts down opportunities for productive conversation and learning. This can prevent the exchange of new ideas and perspectives, leading to echo chambers where only supportive voices are tolerated.
Conflation of Disagreement with Malice: Not all critical feedback is hateful. Polite, thoughtful dissent is often mischaracterized as trolling or hating, which discourages nuanced discussion and fosters a hostile environment for those who wish to engage respectfully.
Encourages Defensive or Tribal Behavior: Quickly labeling someone as a "hater" can be a defensive mechanism to protect one's ego or group identity. This often leads to polarization, where any challenge to the prevailing view is seen as an attack, rather than an opportunity for dialogue.
Promotes Low Emotional Intelligence Responses: Resorting to name-calling or dismissive labels is frequently a sign of low emotional intelligence. It reflects an inability to articulate thoughts or manage emotions constructively, often rooted in insecurity or envy.
Reinforces Toxic Online Culture: Overuse of such labels can create a toxic cycle, where people are less willing to engage in meaningful discussion and more likely to respond with further hostility or disengagement.
Reasons Why People Use the "Hater" Label Blanketly
Avoiding Discomfort or Criticism: Labeling dissenters as "haters" is an easy way to avoid confronting uncomfortable feedback or engaging with challenging ideas. It allows individuals to dismiss criticism without reflection or self-examination.
Seeking Social Validation: In online communities, there is often pressure to conform to group norms. Dismissing outsiders or critics as "haters" can be a way to reinforce in-group solidarity and gain approval from peers.
Lack of Argumentation Skills: Some resort to labeling because they lack the tools or confidence to engage in substantive debate. Using loaded terms can be a shortcut to discredit opposing views without addressing their content.
Emotional Reactivity: Emotional impulses, such as feeling attacked or threatened, can prompt defensive labeling. This is especially common when people feel insecure or perceive criticism as a personal affront.