I haven't done a statistical comparison (and have no idea how) but I'll wager that the toxic masculinity directed at me privately in here is at a lower level than in the world at large.
First, let me preface this by saying that in no way am I trying to argue along any grounds whatsoever of relative privation, so as to say one person's harassment is 'not as bad' as another's; I can only speak of numbers or trends, as I often do.
Having said that:
The best analysis I’ve seen on toxic behaviour online (Pew Research Center, which is the gold standard on such studies) is that, by and large, women and men experience it at basically the same rate, but of different types — you’d be likelier to get an unsolicited genital picture or an attack on your appearance, I’d be likelier to get a death threat or a SWATting attempt.
I have seen counter-arguments to this that basically engage in bad faith base-rate fallacies to distort a narrative. For instance, a recent study in the Calgary Herald baldly claimed that most harassment at Civic Hall happened to "women and people of color". Of course, you can see that this is a combination of two factors, and it allowed for some fast-and-loose statistical abuses -- Calgary's male mayor Naheed Nenshi was not white, so he was no longer a man, but a "people of color". "Women and People of Color" is over 75% of the population, but of course they don't want you to think about that.
And of course, if you did any single variate analysis, you'd see that it was about an even gender split, but such an obvious fact wouldn't move any headlines for a left-leaning paper that didn't care one whit about base rate fallacy
As to our experience on this board: the fact that you and I can attest to receiving harassment less than the 'world at large' should only ever be parsed as a testimony as to the above average level of humanity that we as a forum exhibit on average.
To the women you know on this forum who might not be swayed by this analysis, well of course, I'll never tell any human being what they should or shouldn't be afraid of; fears are not required in any way to be statistical or logical or even rational. I'd only ask them to consider two questions:
Which animal are you more scared of: a shark, or a pig?
Which animal is statistically FAR likelier to kill you: a shark, or a pig?