My kid plays AAA Midget and we will be all-in at about $10,000 this year. That figure includes ice fees and all travel/hotel expenses. Keep in mind, he is playing the most competitive level of hockey for his age group in the USA. This season he has played teams from all corners of the country, Alaska to Tampa, Arizona to New Jersey, and all points in between. The biggest cost to this level of hockey is the travel expense, actually, let me rephrase that, the actual team fees are just under $6,000 for the year and he has practice 3 times a week and a game schedule of about 65 games. So the most expensive part isn't the travel, it's the travel costs that push the expense to the extreme ends. There are other AAA teams that will run you $15k/year.
What people need to understand is that this is not the norm for hockey. This is the top end fringe. We could have said 'no' to AAA and he could have played local high school hockey for about $3500 all-in. It was our choice to commit to spending what we are on the sport. This is where hockey gets the bad rap. People hear about the $10k price tag, and make the generalization the hockey is an overly expensive sport and that price level applies to everybody. The reality is that there are various price ranges depending on the age/level you are playing. I can tell you that the local costs for entry level Mites/Learn to Skate is $50 for the season with free equipment rental. Compared to paying $150 for an 8 week soccer season at the local club, hockey is a bargain.
Does the system need to find a way to be cheaper? Absolutely. USA Hockey has created a monster, or let the monster get out of the cage, when it comes to Tier 1 AAA hockey. My friends in Minnesota pay a $300 activity fee for their kids to play high school hockey. That's it. $300 and some equipment costs, and that state pumps out the best young players in the country in high volumes. At the youth level they were paying about $2,000 all-in for a season. It's not possible for the rest of the country to do what they do because you need large concentrations of players to provide competition, but there is no reason that Michigan, Chicago, St. Louis, New York, and New England should not have similar high school models and abandoned the Tier 1 model. Everybody would be better off in the long run.
Does it bother me to drop this kind of money on a sport? Sometimes 'yes', sometimes 'no'. I mean, what else am I going to do with the money? I can always make more money, but my kid is only going to be 16 once in his life, then it is over. So yeah, for the memories, it is worth it. My other friends go to Disneyland and trips to Mexico. We spend our "vacation money" on hockey trips. For almost every hockey family I know hockey isn't just some activity, it's a lifestyle. The thing is, I know people whose kids wrestle, it's the same way. Play basketball, it's a lifestyle. Baseball, same thing. You can say it is a hockey thing, it's not, it's a youth sports thing. My buddy whose kid wrestles spends a comparable amount of money and travel, tournaments, and especially the wrestling academy where he trains. Other friends that drop a good amount of change on AAU basketball. You want your eyes to really pop? Have your daughter start gymnastics, or dance.
What I find where I live is the kids who play sports play sports. It's the same kids that play football, that play basketball, and baseball, and hockey, and soccer, and golf, etc. The kids who are active in sports play sports, the other 50% of kids in the school don't do a dang thing. It doesn't matter what the cost is, their parents just aren't involved or are selfish with their time, and aren't going to sign their kids up to do anything, even the free local rec baseball league.