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[Szechwan]

Yup our first. Nervous anticipation is the limbo I'm in.

This was mine first too. Quite a ride.

By the end of pregnancy I was so sick of seemingly every other parent offering nothing but "ohhhh get ready to never sleep again!!!" or "say goodbye to your life!!" as their supposed words of wisdom. Or other moms inundating my wife with their horrific birth stories then saying "oh but yours will be fine!"

None of that is helpful. Or funny. It was like we were being used as therapists sometimes, it's nuts.

My unsolicited advice, as it's quite fresh in my mind:

-Focus on taking care of your wife pre and postpartum. Give her endless attention, love, and support and you can really cut down the chances of postpartum depression. Be her butler for as long as possible. Cook, clean, do laundry, keep her water filled. It's a grind but she will never forget how you treated her post-baby for the rest of her life.

-Learn how to sooth your baby. It's way harder for Dads because we don't have the same bond with the baby yet, or boobs for that matter. It takes patience and practice to find what works, and many give up before learning and just hand them to mom. It makes a huge difference to mom being able to split that duty.

-You're going to be fine. It'll be hard, but you will figure it out. And honestly, your baby and your early parental experience is going to be different than everyone else's, so just go with the flow and accept it likely won't be as your expected.

My wife and I have a joke mantra when things are going sideways- "we are water, we flow *around* obstacles and continue downstream" said in a very obnoxious hippie voice. But it helps.

Edit:that went way longer than I thought. Mods feel free to dump this derail in the OT thread.

 

[Wisp]

Kids are honestly the best.

Remember that when you have had no sleep, dealing with literal shit and a cranky significant other.

kids put into perspective how petty your problems were before having kids.

what you thought mattered before doesn't matter at all.

 

[Canucker]

I like Schneider but I'm still wary about taking Zibanejad without retention.

Agreed...really have no interest in Zibanejad (happily, it doesn't sound like he has any interest in Vancouver either). Rangers are just bad partners, unless they want to trade Adam Fox, then I'm all ears. lol

 

[Diversification]

Yes but more than that. If Willander makes a quick and effective transition we have 3 yrs of a ELC that makes the search for a 2/3 unnecessary and eases the overspend on Zadorov.

If they think Willander will take a couple years to be effective then i can see more caution for that financial commitment and desire to hold their cards to get a better player than Zadorov

Essentailly we could have had a balanced effective defense with Hughes Hronek pushing teams back then Willander Zadorov Soucy Myers with what i believe an internal replacement for Soucy even in DPetey.

I ask because I wonder who the ideal partner would be for Willander when he first breaks in. On a bottom pairing, I thought that Forbort might work. Or possibly Brannstrom but I suspect that pair would be physically overmatched.

 

[Diversification]

Yup our first. Nervous anticipation is the limbo I'm in.

Enjoy! It doesn't feel like it at the time but you will look fondly on those early years. Parenthood changes people - how could it not? You'll find yourself capable of doing things that would have been unthinkable (or at least extremely disruptive) pre-parenthood and that growth mentality can really help you push through.

If there's one nugget I would pass on is that you and your partner are a team. Support each other, and take turns when you need a break without resentment.

 

[I am toxic]

With newborns, I would suggest getting sleep when they sleep, however little that might be. If you try to get things done while they are sleeping, you probably won't get enough sleep (very difficult to sleep when they are awake, and is that how you want your partner remembering you?)

I hope all goes well. If you are in Vancouver, BC Women's is an awesome maternity hospital. Completely mother-centric approach, and I can't say enough about the doctors and nurses there, saved my son's life when he was born.

 

[TruGr1t]

Yup our first. Nervous anticipation is the limbo I'm in.

 

[Vector]

My article is out! Looked at trade comparables for Pettersson & Miller.

 

[Canucker]

My article is out! Looked at trade comparables for Pettersson & Miller.

Thats a quality read…well done.

 

[Bobby9]

My article is out! Looked at trade comparables for Pettersson & Miller.

Good read. Thank you

 

[supercanuck]

Enjoy! It doesn't feel like it at the time but you will look fondly on those early years. Parenthood changes people - how could it not? You'll find yourself capable of doing things that would have been unthinkable (or at least extremely disruptive) pre-parenthood and that growth mentality can really help you push through.

If there's one nugget I would pass on is that you and your partner are a team. Support each other, and take turns when you need a break without resentment.

100% this! I often look back on how I miss just picking them up and having they sleep on my shoulders. It's a type of joy that can't be explained.

I find Homer more and more relatable as my kids get older.

 

[Diversification]

100% this! I often look back on how I miss just picking them up and having they sleep on my shoulders. It's a type of joy that can't be explained.

I find Homer more and more relatable as my kids get older.

One memory that I always come back to is the first time my older son swore. He was 3 at the time, I was holding him and he dropped his lollipop onto the sidewalk. He stares at it for a moment, purses his lips and mutters '...shit.'

It's crazy that he used the term correctly and even with the correct intonation. Scary how much they are picking up from their environment.

 

[M2Beezy]

Yeah

 

[Jerry the great]

One memory that I always come back to is the first time my older son swore. He was 3 at the time, I was holding him and he dropped his lollipop onto the sidewalk. He stares at it for a moment, purses his lips and mutters '...shit.'

It's crazy that he used the term correctly and even with the correct intonation. Scary how much they are picking up from their environment.

haha for a few days when she was ~3. my daughter went around telling people: "I'm not allowed to say f***in"

 

[Hodgy]

For a new born, good advice I got was feed the baby a ton during the day, waking the baby up as needed. Baby will tend to sleep much better at night.

 

[Jerry the great]

Ridley Greig signs 4X$3.25 extension. Meanwhile, in Buffalo, Ryan McLeod got so hard he erupted through his cup.

 

[Nopefully]

Yup our first. Nervous anticipation is the limbo I'm in.

This is entirely unasked for advice, but as a parent to a child, it’s fundamental that you know when to say, “This is really hard, I’m sorry that this is happening to you.” Don’t try to “fix” their lows, sometimes the mum isn’t great at saying this, someone has to say this thing when times are hard to emotionally validate the child.

 

[valkynax]

One memory that I always come back to is the first time my older son swore. He was 3 at the time, I was holding him and he dropped his lollipop onto the sidewalk. He stares at it for a moment, purses his lips and mutters '...shit.'

It's crazy that he used the term correctly and even with the correct intonation. Scary how much they are picking up from their environment.

Keep them young'ns away from facebook,

and twitter (no I'm not calling it X),

and reddit, and instagram, and ****hub, and ****fans, and discord, and twitch, and kick, and rumble, and youtube.

The only acceptable social media platform for your kids should be HF.

It is a family friendly and highly edumacational...thingy, hence my just-now effort to censor the unsavory content above.

 

[Bourne Endeavor]

My article is out! Looked at trade comparables for Pettersson & Miller.

Fantastic read. I actually forgot about the Carter disaster. Walk down memory lane haha

 

[theguardianII]

which scouting guy? which radio show?

Jason Bukala, pretty sure it Canucks Central.

 

[Vector]

Fantastic read. I actually forgot about the Carter disaster. Walk down memory lane haha

I did too! Had everything ready to start and then on like my third review of my notes..."Wait, he was traded again and still fits!".

 

[Vector]

Jason Bukala, pretty sure it Canucks Central.

Canucks Talk. Him and Drance worked together with the Panthers.

 

[theguardianII]

Canucks Talk. Him and Drance worked together with the Panthers.

Shah and Riccio interviewed him. They sounded surprised but Bukala stuck to his evaluation and apologized that it wasn't what they wanted to hear. Pretty in depth.

 

[vancityluongo]

i feel like this is what the internet forums will look like after the apocalypse where we will discuss how to efficiently extract nutrients from shoe leather and make our own iodine using tree bark.

lol my first (dumb) thought when the site went down was - "did the LA fires burn down an HF server farm?"

close enough

 

[sandwichbird2023]

-Learn how to sooth your baby. It's way harder for Dads because we don't have the same bond with the baby yet, or boobs for that matter. It takes patience and practice to find what works, and many give up before learning and just hand them to mom. It makes a huge difference to mom being able to split that duty.

I find that bathing the child and feed them are great for bonding. Also doing diaper duties too, the child will remember fondly that you are there to help them feel clean and comfortable.

The scariest thing for me is clipping my daughter's fingernails. Her finger is so small and fragile I feel like any pressure will break them, and she keeps moving. I'm literally drenched in sweat the first couple times I did it. I ended up buying one of those electrical nail filer and it was the best purchase ever. If you, or any new parents, don't have one yet, I highly highly recommend it.