100%. The physical play was one way other than Nurse feeding Rasmus in the one scrum. As I see it we have Ekholm who is physical but not a very good fighter and too important for us to be fighting, Nurse who is just kinda there these days and old man Perry as physical guys that can fight a bit. RNH and Hyman rarely fight but Hyman can hit really hard when he sets his mind to it. Podkolzin hits but doesn't scare anyone.
Ever heard of this guy named Evander Kane? Desharnais played guys physically more with lumber than hits but he never made it easy on the opposing team in front of the net. This is a problem going back to last season after Kane got hurt and we lost Kostin.
Nurse is 1 player and most of the time he fights when guys take liberties with him. A healthy Evander Kane would've made his presence known in this game. The problem is that our management knew that he'd be out and we have no one to fill his role as team badass.
I think you're overfocusing on the physicality and toughness. Flames played with that, but it's been part of their identity for a while. Heck, Lomberg threw fists with Kassian back in the day. But the issue is that the Oilers didn't seem to respond. Physicality is an easy thing to see and if your team is getting clobbered, you want to see the opposition pay the price to walk out with a win.
The issue is that you didn't see that last night. Last night would be a tepid game from the Oilers for a preseason game with another team, let alone a regular season BOA game where things getting to the point that the league told us to knock it up a few seasons ago.
I think the true issue isn't that you need to acquire tough guys, but tough guys would be a bonus. You need glue and good habit setting guys (Not "Glue gun" Gulutzan) and a culture shift from the me in team to the we in winners. IMO from what I saw the other night, Oilers group played like a bunch of guys playing for themselves. Flames were playing as a team and excited for each other's successes.
One of the guys that got in your face was Kirkland and for some reason, you had no answer for him. Oilers won't be tough guying us into submission any time soon. Oilers have to figure out what else they can do to keep teams quiet if their big guns are having a quiet night.
As a rival, I can thoroughly enjoy our BOA win. But I can also earnestly say, "WTF was that? Up your game for the next one so that fans on both sides have even more to get fired up about."