Just officially divorced last month.....but separated for a year and a half. My marriage ended in probably the worst way.....she left me for another man she was working with. Now apparently they are engaged. In 3 months I went from being in a seemingly stable marriage to on my own. Did I mention we had two very young kids?
I was literally a mess for quite sometime. I seen a therapist for months. I started drinking to numb the pain. I lost weight and literally was wasting away. To anyone who says, "just man up and live your life", you just don't know.
Slowly and surely I began to heal. I sold the marital house and bought my own house. I have my kids for than half the time. I have travelled to across the world on some much needed perspective trips. I currently am back in school taking part time classes to upgrade my certifications. Life is better than when I was married in a whole. Just a year ago.....I was a empty shell. That dark place is somewhere I had to visit.
My ex.....well I'm not sure what's going on. Their relationship is very rocky as far as I can tell. She took up smoking. I have already helped her once with a loan because she is broke. Divorced life seems a lot harder on her than me. Now she and her affair partner have each other and that seems very fitting.
So to the OP.....it's going to be a up and down roller coaster. You may seem fine now but days will come out of nowhere that just suck. Ride the highs and the lows. Read and definately get in with a therapist if you need help. Do everything you can to make it easier and you will thrive. Believe me it gets better.