I really don't understand how ringers have fun at lower levels. 10-2 final and it was 6-1 after the first.
They only had two goal scorers...
I've played down a level or so appropriate to my ability, but I can still have fun. The social side of things is most important to me personally, so I'd rather play at lower levels with friends, and ease off if I come across as a "ringer" who's too good for the level. That said there are two ways to go with playing down a level or two (not that my personal definition, i.e. #1 is not universal):
1) Play on D (usually), have a pass-first mentality, and realize that if you skate through everyone to get a breakway, you're being a dick and you're going to piss off everyone on the ice, so don't do it
2) Be a dick and not care that no one likes you.
Seems you're mostly complaining about #2, which you have every right to. No one likes ringers, not even teammates. Would I want to win a beer league championship being carried on the backs of a ringer or two who should really be playing higher levels? Nope.
That said adult hockey isn't too saturated in my area and we realistically only have 4 levels (A-D for example), and my skill as a player is that I could "get by" in B or "be good" in C but have also played in D, so even when I've played on D teams I'm not some ex-pro who can circle around everybody, but when I do play D levels I'm clearly one of the the best players on the ice (which I hope doesn't make me sound arrogant to say).