This is difficult because it is hard to fully grasp what it is like to be you. I would suggest reading about people’s experiences of both dating with autism and people without it who dated people with it to better prepare yourself for common situations you may encounter. Perhaps there is a forum on this topic. I’ll say this much, I didn’t know you had it until you started talking about it.
IMO, you seem like you have some anxiety, at least about this. Try to work on that. Hit the gym, eat healthy, don’t be too hard on yourself, that stuff helps everyone.
As for your questions:
1. Give as little information about yourself as possible. Just live in the moment and try to have a good time with whoever you spend time with. She’ll ask questions about you. It’s better that way than spitting everything out too soon. Take things really slow.
2. Well, you need to be able to read the specific person to know that. I would say many dates in and not until you are somewhat close with this woman.
3. I don’t have experience with online dating. I’m sure there are people here who do though that can offer good advice. I’d say keep it casual and short. Give a genuine compliment. Try to find something in the profile you have in common and bring that up.
4. Don’t get in your own head so much. Just have fun on the date. When you do go on a date, try to make it an activity rather than a dinner or something where there’s a lot of talking.
5. This is a question better left for the ladies. I just sense when we’re vibing and go in for the kiss.
Since you said you definitely don’t want kids and want to date a woman in her 30’s, have you given any thought to dating a single mom? Also, I think you could really benefit from befriending a woman and letting her help you. Good luck brother, just keep improving the things you can control.
