I'm a teacher; coaching is very similar to teaching, and my philosophy is this: fear and respect go hand in hand. No, you don't want to be an ******* every day, but to have the "blow up" in your back pocket and to use it when necessary is ****ing essential to my teaching, and I think everyone who is a teacher would benefit from it. Rarely used, the blow up is a HIGHLY effective tool. But if you're blowing up every day, they tune it out.
I'd imagine the players are tuning out the positivity approach. Kids do the same thing with a teacher who just keeps going... "guys... hey guys... listen please... guys..."
Yes, these guys should be just a little bit afraid of the "authority figure." Coop shouldn't be there to make friends. He's there to win hockey games. Teachers aren't there to be your friend, they're there to educate you. Do you make some great relationships along the way? For sure. But when they **** up and cross the line, you've got to push them back to the other side, sometimes harshly. That's what earns respect.
After reading this, I sound like a ****ing prick in my classroom
I'm really not.