Well a weekend when I need the money from work and we're instead going to get hit by a storm. Faaaaak.
Welp. The wife and I are officially getting separated. We decided a week or so ago. I'll be moving out within the month. We're getting along pretty well, though. I think we're both taking solace in the fact that we're still going to be friends because there's definitely still a lot of love between us. She just thinks we'd be better off as friends, which I'm ok with.
We both look at the relationship as a great thing that happened to us, especially since it brought us our son. Lots of tears, but I feel like we're on to the acceptance phase of grieving.
I am excited for some independence, and I look forward to the challenge of being a separated 36 y/o man with a kid and trying to meet women. I'm not even sure what my age range for women is since I haven't had the need to think about it until now. Strictly looking for hook-ups for a while. It'll be a bit before I'm even ready to hook-up with a woman, but thinking about it is a nice distraction from the sadness. Also, I'm diving into hobbies and traveling. Should be fun, but the fulfillment of a good relationship and a good, loving woman is going to be a tough thing to lose.
Well a weekend when I need the money from work and we're instead going to get hit by a storm. Faaaaak.
Sorry to hear it, but honestly sounds like you’re approaching it as well as possible. Don’t think the 36 y/o with a kid thing is crazy nowadays, half my potential interests have a kid or two- just put the kid first and it’ll be alright.
One day at a time, just stay safe- I’ve been gone, is this a new job?
I hate people, and decided I can’t really be a hermit and/or curmudgeon. So this year I’ve been trying to get out of that mind space and get to know people, and it’s coming back to bite me in the ass in a big way.
Like there’s a woman that lives in the apartment next door who has a dog that she can’t control, but the dog listens to me and is extremely laid back. It’s a Bull mastiff and pitbull mix that basically acts like a lap dog with me. He ignores everyone and everything, until the other day when I relaxed on his leash to text my lady friend, and he just took off to go attack a couple of dogs he hates. Like this dog took off so quickly that it took a couple of seconds to even register wtf is going on, and by that point he had f***ed up one of them, and in the fight for me to even grab his leash and collar he made it worse. Now that lady is getting evicted because it was the fourth complaint about him this year.
And another check on the “be a hermit” side, another person asked me to accompany her somewhere to pick up some wacky tobaccy. So I went. It was supposed to be a grab and maybe chill out for 10 minutes thing. Instead it ended up being five hours and it ruined my 20 years of sobriety. It ended up being a trap house, and everyone there was smoking heroin, meth, and/or fentanyl, and I got second hand high af. I successfully avoided this shit for that long, but now because of that night all I want to do is chase that high again. She can’t get why I’m pissed at her, even though I explained why I am. The only good thing that I can look at is that I refused everything I was offered there, so I didn’t really ruin it, but now it’s the most tempted I’ve felt in 20 years to fall off the wagon. The only thing that’s stopping me is that I know it’s not a good thing, but even typing this story is enticing.
And lastly, I have a 17 year old as of this Sunday. Normally she spends the day with me. This year, she’s spending it with her boyfriend. I am not a fan of this event.
seriously. what the actual f***.My daughter turns 18 in a couple of weeks and then my son turns 20 in a couple months. Where has the time gone?
Doing gig work to try to bridge until I get something real. Bad weather makes things weird. Dancing the razor's edge so this one is Debby downer for me.![]()
I hear ya. People are dicks.
I'd say you should be proud of not touching any of the stuff on offer. You weren't in control of the place you ended up (or at least unaware). You were in control of what you did once you were there and those choices were the right ones.
Also I dread the day my daughter is 17 and doing that to me. She's 12 and we haven't hit the world of drama that's just around the corner yet. Scratch the birthday and see if you can do something with her the next weekend.
They really have no idea how much they mean to us, do they? I guess they'll never truly understand until they become a parent themselves.Also I dread the day my daughter is 17 and doing that to me. She's 12 and we haven't hit the world of drama that's just around the corner yet. Scratch the birthday and see if you can do something with her the next weekend.
Nope. They don't. I've told my wife I will (somehow) be forcing my kids to come on an annual holiday with us once they've left home. We might have to fund it all but i dont want them to drift off as they become adults.They really have no idea how much they mean to us, do they? I guess they'll never truly understand until they become a parent themselves.
They were 3 and 5 respectively the last time the Sabres made the playoffs.seriously. what the actual f***.
They were 3 and 5 respectively the last time the Sabres made the playoffs.
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I just want to say, I truly admire your strength. To be able to cut something so addictive out of your life is admirable. I'm not sure I'd be able to do it, which is a big reason why I stuck with mary J instead of pushing the limit.
Kudos to you, and keep on the good fight!
Fun. At my previous role, I was let go with zero warning, zero documentation, and, to quote my manager 'not being a good fit'. Now, There were performance issues leading up to me being let go, but those were related to a death in the family and me being in the hospital. And there was never any even mention of issues by my manager other than 1 outburst by him because a project was taking too long.
The contracting company is now trying to fight my unemployment claim.
In the end, it's not a ton of money (likely 2 weeks of UI) as I was VERY lucky to land on my feet quickly.
And I get it, as a contractor with a company, they can let you go for no reason whenever they want.
But, if they don't document an issue and don't let me know there is an issue until the day they let you go......not sure how they fight a UI claim.
I lost my UI case here in Florida years ago - had the emails from the company about getting the okay to do what I was doing, namely living in CR while officially a resident of Florida that my manager and his manager said was fine. And it did not matter. Florida denied my claim after having filed for two weeks of UI, billed me for 200-odd dollars per week they had paid out in UI, and would not re-open on an appeal. Didn't matter that I was sacked for something I was told was okay.