I like those two and I was a big Tony Randall fan, but having kids at that age seems somewhat purblind to me. The children are never really going to know their father.
Oh well.
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I like those two and I was a big Tony Randall fan, but having kids at that age seems somewhat purblind to me. The children are never really going to know their father.
Oh well.
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Same thing I’d say now or at any age. Hard pass.
I like kids but have never felt called to be a parent. I think the responsible thing to do if you aren’t all in is to pass, even though society looks at you strangely. Although it’s starting to become more acceptable.
I am so bored I am looking forward to the last week of Aug and the sailing...and then hockey.
I do not believe that! I have seen all of the family photos and stories on FB.
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My buddy had his first at 50. As long as you are willing, I see nothing wrong with it.
I don't have kids but the age thought seems kind of a catch-22 in my eyes, being older, more financially setup helps but then when you're kids an adult, you're 70+.
Not in the cards for me medically and personally but If you want to be a parent and can provide for one or multiple then go for it.
I'm 33. I wish to marry and have children. Society has been telling women for years your clock is ticking. Luckily women have been having children at all different ages. It gives me hope! For reference, my mother had my little sister at 40. My dad became a first time dad at the age of 45 with my oldest sister. My sister is 38, my brother is 36, I'm 33, and like I said my little sister is 28. We had a great childhood.
My dad is an "older dad", but you would never know it. He's spry as can be. He doesn't look his age. At all.
If you want a child, you should have one. Age be dammed.
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Same-ish. I have 3 fantastic grown adult step sons who are amazing. But Spirit knew what he/she was doing....I am not built for lil tiny babies. (or pets)
and I'm super ok with it.
He is in Batman Returns as the Penguin's father...RIP Paul Reubens
Paul Reubens, Pee-wee Herman Actor, Dies at 70 After Private Bout of Cancer
Paul Reubens, the actor best known for portraying Pee-wee Herman, died Sunday night after a private bout of cancer. He was 70.variety.com
I just asked him. He said “I’m surprised it even works anymore” and went back to sleep
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I had my youngest at 42 and it was a blessing. Age doesn’t matter, kids are amazing.
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Maybe next year.
I'm 55. My son is about to be ten, my daughter about to be seven. If I hadn't waited until then, I wouldn't have been able to be the father to them I want to be (and hope/think I am). Granted, I'm not the one who carried two pregnancies to term and thus me "waiting" has very little to with anything, biologically and certainly not a dictate on my part.
But I have a lot more to give them, in every possible sense, than I would have in my 20s or 30s. And I also may have some deeper appreciation for them having kind of assumed it wouldn't ever occur. Being dad is totally my jam.
But I have a lot more to give them, in every possible sense, than I would have in my 20s or 30s. And I also may have some deeper appreciation for them having kind of assumed it wouldn't ever occur. Being dad is totally my jam.
My sister had her children at 36 and 39. She said that while she didn’t have as much energy as younger parents she had more patience and in general more to offer in terms of experience. Plus having waited that long to become a mother (she had a fertility problem) she never took them for granted, they were very much wanted.
I think having kids at a later age is okay as long as it is thought out.
We had our kids when I was in my early 30s - which at the time was later than most. Being 10 years older would definitely have taken a lot of my energy. My husband is 6 years older than me.
My husband's sister was born when their Mom was 44, she lost her Dad when she was about 18 and then her Mom was in a hospital bed for 10 years and she was only about 30 with two very young kids. The burden fell to her for a lot of the care, not to mention the stress and anxiety.
Actors having kids at an older age is sad to me - I mean the extremes. Those kids will lose their Dads early in their lives. Money doesn't make up for loss.
We had our kids when I was in my early 30s - which at the time was later than most. Being 10 years older would definitely have taken a lot of my energy. My husband is 6 years older than me.
My husband's sister was born when their Mom was 44, she lost her Dad when she was about 18 and then her Mom was in a hospital bed for 10 years and she was only about 30 with two very young kids. The burden fell to her for a lot of the care, not to mention the stress and anxiety.
Actors having kids at an older age is sad to me - I mean the extremes. Those kids will lose their Dads early in their lives. Money doesn't make up for loss.
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Heading to Puerto Rico for an extra long weekend with my college girlfriends to celebrate us all turning 40 this year. 7 of us going, we all met as freshmen when I was 17. Time flies.
3 of the girls I won the roommate lottery with, 2 were our next door neighbors, and 1 is one of my roommates best friends from home that we’ve adopted.
3 of the girls I won the roommate lottery with, 2 were our next door neighbors, and 1 is one of my roommates best friends from home that we’ve adopted.
Honestly you’ve touched on my main concern. I think about being 65 when the kid would graduate high school. I think about how clueless I still was at that age, despite at the time feeling like I knew it all, and how that translated to needing my parents still so very much. Hell, I am 47 and need them just as much in different ways.
I do worry about the notion of being selfish.
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Maybe next year.
I can retire the same year my son graduates HS. It's a little weird feeling, but I'm more excited about the flexibility it will afford me to be as available as possible. For all the reasons you just listed.
I'm not trying to convince you to do it. But if you're in good health and emotionally available, that will cover almost all of their needs (and yours).
This is a pretty great community we have here. Grateful for all of you, and your insights. Good people.
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