Is this the worst college roommate ever?

[kingskring]

Friendship is unlikely to blossom in one university dorm room this semester after one of its occupants sent an aggressive list of demands to her roommates before even meeting them.
The message, sent by a UCLA freshman known only as Ashly, was shared by one of its two recipients on Twitter in a post which has now been seen by thousands.
One of Ashly's new roommates, 17-year-old Winnie Chen, an aspiring make-up artist from Los Angeles, took to the social media site after being left in total shock by the email which, she says, was sent because Ashly's earlier messages hadn't drawn a response for a couple of days.

Response from one of the other roommates

******* roommate responds

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...gry-list-demands-future-roommates-ve-met.html

Click to read more...

 

[Dog]

tldr

 

[Dr Pepper]

Yeah, I read about that yesterday.

She seems like a bit of a nutjob.

 

[Kairi Zaide]

lol at having roommates

 

[InfinityIggy]

Still a better roommate than Chris.

 

[HisIceness]

One of my high school friends had a roommate who was a demanding control freak like that girl. She was more of a decretive freak and brought all kinds of stupid **** like flower vases and other nick-knacks that just sat around the desk and collected dust, she would get upset when her stuff got moved to make room for books and a laptop.

They did not room together after that semester and my friend decided to get a second job to help pay for an apartment for the rest of college.

 

[BigMac1212]

Good thing my community college doesn't have dorms. ^^;

 

[Pharrell Williams]

my junior year roommates were pretty bad, they made massive messes from cooking and not cleaning anything up (decided to throw flour all over the table to make pasta for example) and also made trash piles as high as the top of the refrigerator. oh and one of their friends pissed on my door/the floor outside my door while he was drunk. also just constant noise. the guy right next to me would turn on his TV full blast then close and lock the door and go home for a week. also they left their pot out in the middle of the room when we had cleaners and we'd get ****ed for having it. and one ****ed his girlfriend with his door open and she was loud. and also they were red wings fans.

 

[izzy]

tldr

 

[sully1410]

She needs to get ****ing laid. Like seriously.

 

[JA]

"Ashly" did not receive a response for two days and became agitated at the lack of communication. Yes, they could have settled this upon meeting face-to-face, but she has a case to be frustrated and probably has less patience for her prospective roommates as a result.

"Guistinna" is overly defensive about her refusal to use email and is responding to a message that was spawned out of anger. Of course it's abrasive, so her shock at the harsh language is silly. She should have been more timely with her response, even if her roommate's demands are excessive.

"Ashly"'s anxiety is normal, although she probably should not have expressed her feelings so openly and in such a crass manner as she did in her response.

They're both immature. There's nothing shocking about this. Kids are stupid, insecure, and defensive. If either side were any more mature, it would have been handled better. "Guistinna" needed to apologize for her tardiness, especially considering that they had all communicated before about methods of correspondence. Apparently, they chose email because email addresses were swapped. A simple message to say "I'm sorry I can't respond in detail right now, but I'll get back to you as soon as possible" would have prevented this entire miscommunication from occurring; her neglect was interpreted as a gesture of disrespect. It is NOT difficult to send a quick email, especially if one has enough time to browse Facebook and use "group chat." Two days of waiting and aggravation gave "Ashly" a sense of entitlement to the bed and closet of her choice, as it seemed to her that neither of the other two roommates cared enough to respond.

Guistinna and Winnie come across as irresponsible with regards to communication -- they are the kind of classmates who wouldn't respond in a timely manner to group project inquiries and leave the entire operation in disarray and confusion. Pouting on social media about an incident that they were at fault for is also petty.

 

[Kairi Zaide]

"Ashly" did not receive a response for two days and became agitated at the lack of communication. Yes, they could have settled this upon meeting face-to-face, but she has a case to be frustrated and probably has less patience for her prospective roommates as a result.

"Guistinna" is overly defensive about her refusal to use email and is responding to a message that was spawned out of anger. Of course it's abrasive, so her shock at the harsh language is silly. She should have been more timely with her response, even if her roommate's demands are excessive.

"Ashly"'s anxiety is normal, although she probably should not have expressed her feelings so openly and in such a crass manner as she did in her response.

They're both immature. There's nothing shocking about this. Kids are stupid, insecure, and defensive. If either side were any more mature, it would have been handled better. "Guistinna" needed to apologize for her tardiness, especially considering that they had all communicated before about methods of correspondence. Apparently, they chose email because email addresses were swapped. A simple message to say "I'm sorry I can't respond in detail right now, but I'll get back to you as soon as possible" would have prevented this entire miscommunication from occurring; her neglect was interpreted as a gesture of disrespect. It is NOT difficult to send a quick email, especially if one has enough time to browse Facebook and use "group chat." Two days of waiting and aggravation gave "Ashly" a sense of entitlement to the bed and closet of her choice, as it seemed to her that neither of the other two roommates cared enough to respond.

Guistinna and Winnie come across as irresponsible with regards to communication -- they are the kind of classmates who wouldn't respond in a timely manner to group project inquiries. Pouting on social media about an incident that they were at fault for is also petty.

Not everyone checks their e-mails daily, especially a student during the summer, and even more if this message was sent to her academic e-mail. Because, why would a student even check their academic e-mail when they don't have school?
You say they have communicated before for correspondance information, but that is not necessarily true. That obviously sounds like a dorm room. It is possible the dorm sends people an e-mail telling them who will be their roommates and what are their e-mail adresses.

 

[Jumptheshark]

my first roommate in Uni was something like Sheldon Cooper(big bang theory) but just not as smart.. For the first term four of shared a dorm room. The Cooper lite gave us all a long list of rules on the first day he moved in, he moved in at about 1am when he was supposed to do it between 9am and 6pm. I was doing Education, the other two roomies were laywers in training and I was more or less witness to a first term of Cooper lite filing complaints about us not following his rules -which of course he just tried impose on us without discussion. We ended up before the kangaroo court that was the students union and Cooper lite spent about 4 hours on every little thing we did the violated his rules and how he should be compensated by us paying him $2000 Canadian(this was in 1990). My other two roommates took about 20 minutes destroying his 4 hours of blah blah. First thing, they pointed out that he said we Violated his rules 125 times, they then gave proof of him breaking his own rules about 200 times--his response "My rules are for them--not me" and on top of all his own rules he broke--he also broke a lot of uni rules and rules regarding communal living. And then the wammy came, lawyer boys research Cooper lite and he had been tossed from two other uni's previously for well--being a jerk.

it was a fun few months of dealing with this guy--kangaroo court asked for the paper that all four signed agreeing to the modificattions to uni rules and when Cooper lite explained that it was in his rights to force the rules on us, the chair looked at him and said "Are you here as part of the special education enhancement program?" (translation "are you an idiot"). He ended up getting suspended and tossed out out of U of A shortly there afterwards after attacking someone in one of the libraries for not giving him a book that he wanted (the person actually owned the book and did not sign it out of the Lib).

I ended up living off campus with 7 other people just off of Belgrave park--that was a fun year. The last thing I heard about cooper lite was he was now a forest ranger somewhere in Montana where he had to deal with no one

 

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

Isn't dailymail a fake rag of a UK news site??

This is probably fake.

 

[Kairi Zaide]

my first roommate in Uni was something like Sheldon Cooper(big bang theory) but just not as smart.. For the first term four of shared a dorm room. The Cooper lite gave us all a long list of rules on the first day he moved in, he moved in at about 1am when he was supposed to do it between 9am and 6pm. I was doing Education, the other two roomies were laywers in training and I was more or less witness to a first term of Cooper lite filing complaints about us not following his rules -which of course he just tried impose on us without discussion. We ended up before the kangaroo court that was the students union and Cooper lite spent about 4 hours on every little thing we did the violated his rules and how he should be compensated by us paying him $2000 Canadian(this was in 1990). My other two roommates took about 20 minutes destroying his 4 hours of blah blah. First thing, they pointed out that he said we Violated his rules 125 times, they then gave proof of him breaking his own rules about 200 times--his response "My rules are for them--not me" and on top of all his own rules he broke--he also broke a lot of uni rules and rules regarding communal living. And then the wammy came, lawyer boys research Cooper lite and he had been tossed from two other uni's previously for well--being a jerk.

it was a fun few months of dealing with this guy--kangaroo court asked for the paper that all four signed agreeing to the modificattions to uni rules and when Cooper lite explained that it was in his rights to force the rules on us, the chair looked at him and said "Are you here as part of the special education enhancement program?" (translation "are you an idiot"). He ended up getting suspended and tossed out out of U of A shortly there afterwards after attacking someone in one of the libraries for not giving him a book that he wanted (the person actually owned the book and did not sign it out of the Lib).

I ended up living off campus with 7 other people just off of Belgrave park--that was a fun year. The last thing I heard about cooper lite was he was now a forest ranger somewhere in Montana where he had to deal with no one

Maybe one day he will meet Harambe in the forest

 

[John Price]

Women be crazy.

 

[John Price]

Zaide pretty much treats all the people in his hall like this. I mean the exchange students blast music and he complains. Welcome to college life Zaide.

 

[Ceremony]

 

[CycloneLaunch]

my first roommate in Uni was something like Sheldon Cooper(big bang theory) but just not as smart.. For the first term four of shared a dorm room. The Cooper lite gave us all a long list of rules on the first day he moved in, he moved in at about 1am when he was supposed to do it between 9am and 6pm. I was doing Education, the other two roomies were laywers in training and I was more or less witness to a first term of Cooper lite filing complaints about us not following his rules -which of course he just tried impose on us without discussion. We ended up before the kangaroo court that was the students union and Cooper lite spent about 4 hours on every little thing we did the violated his rules and how he should be compensated by us paying him $2000 Canadian(this was in 1990). My other two roommates took about 20 minutes destroying his 4 hours of blah blah. First thing, they pointed out that he said we Violated his rules 125 times, they then gave proof of him breaking his own rules about 200 times--his response "My rules are for them--not me" and on top of all his own rules he broke--he also broke a lot of uni rules and rules regarding communal living. And then the wammy came, lawyer boys research Cooper lite and he had been tossed from two other uni's previously for well--being a jerk.

it was a fun few months of dealing with this guy--kangaroo court asked for the paper that all four signed agreeing to the modificattions to uni rules and when Cooper lite explained that it was in his rights to force the rules on us, the chair looked at him and said "Are you here as part of the special education enhancement program?" (translation "are you an idiot"). He ended up getting suspended and tossed out out of U of A shortly there afterwards after attacking someone in one of the libraries for not giving him a book that he wanted (the person actually owned the book and did not sign it out of the Lib).

I ended up living off campus with 7 other people just off of Belgrave park--that was a fun year. The last thing I heard about cooper lite was he was now a forest ranger somewhere in Montana where he had to deal with no one

I'm not reading this whole post but living with someone who was like sHeldon cooper must've been funny

 

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

I'm not reading this whole post but living with someone who was like sHeldon cooper must've been funny

For about 5 minutes maybe.....

 

[DonskoiDonscored]

Not everyone checks their e-mails daily, especially a student during the summer, and even more if this message was sent to her academic e-mail. Because, why would a student even check their academic e-mail when they don't have school?

Almost every college in California tells you to check your email daily starting in May. It's common knowledge and checking your e-mail takes 2 seconds (if outlook/Gmail isn't already running in the background at all times).

You say they have communicated before for correspondence information, but that is not necessarily true. That obviously sounds like a dorm room. It is possible the dorm sends people an e-mail telling them who will be their roommates and what are their e-mail addresses.

Almost all (not sure about Merced) of the UC's in California (and pretty much every college in America) have you take a personality assessment and then you get a selection of roommates based on that. You get their e-mail right after the selection process.

TLDR: Ashly is incredibly immature and controlling, but no one handled this situation correctly, especially the girl who decided to post this online.

 

[Ceremony]

Checking your e-mails daily? What an odd suggestion.

 

[Devourers]

Some people are so noob with checking emails. Know a guy, he submitted his claim at work wrongly for like 8 months and wondered why he never got paid his OT properly, turns out he doesn't even read the emails he was sent on how to file his claim

 

[PaGEEsBack]

The Alpha is making claim to her territory - simple as that and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Ashly reminds me of my mother. Would date + marry + have kids.

 

[PaGEEsBack]

Isn't it weird how certain characteristics flow through certain names? Really makes you think.